Hello pets! Welcome to the continuation of your education in the kink world. Have you been bad? Let’s hope so.

BDSM Guest Author for Geisha Diaries: Miss Veronica Volt, Pro-Domme at Deviant Domain, L.A.

Full toilet

FT for short. Scat and piss play. Full toilet can either deal with consumption or play with the waste. While urine is sterile and relatively safe to play with, feces isn’t. For serious players who know what they’re doing. Not for the faint of heart!! Be sure to discuss this fantasy in full detail with your Dominant.

Humiliation

Can be erotic, verbal, or physical.

Safe Word

A word that can signal that the Dominant has pushed the submissive’s limits to the edge, that the play has become too much for the submissive to handle, or that the submissive needs a breather. This is especially helpful in role play where the words “stop” and “no” can be part of the act; the safe word is something not associated with play (ex: panda, banana, shoe). A safe word is agreed upon by both parties before play begins. I use “mercy” as mine to give to subs, but the “red, yellow, green” system works well too (red meaning stop, yellow meaning caution). The numbers system (“Is that a one or a ten?”) is a good way to gauge the intensity of what you’re doing. It is appropriate to come up with a hand or physical signal if the submissive is unable to communicate clearly verbally.

Edge Play

Geisha GirlThis can be very dangerous and should only be performed by seasoned and experienced players. The Dominant takes the submissive to the edge of their limits (ex. fire play, knife play, breath play are all good examples of taking it to the “edge”).

Fetish

This can be applied to those not interested in being dominated or into traditional BDSM; such as golden showers, foot/boot/body worship, high heels, spanking, smells, latex, etc.

Pony Play

Exactly how it sounds. This can go as far as using a horse bit and saddle to simply riding on the back of the human pony (the latter being something I enjoy very much.) This can become extreme to dressing up as a horse such as this, or as simple as this, with a bit gag.

Shibari

Japanese Rope Bondage. Excellent examples can be found here. I believe the appeal of this is not just aesthetic but the strength found in the ties themselves. Very beautiful and a true treat for a submissive to enjoy.

Puppy Play

Exactly how it sounds. Can range from playful to strict and the submissive can act like a dog (barking, whimpering, walking on all fours, playing “dead”, begging). I love playing with human puppies – it’s probably the cutest form of animal play in my opinion because the affection one feels for a dog is transferred to the human dog when the latter takes on the characteristics of the former.

Feminization

Also known as “sissification”, “sissy training”, and “cross-dressing.”

Subspace

Something to which every Dominant wants to push their submissive and what every submissive hopes to experience. A state of mind reminiscent of floating or feeling detached from their environment due to the rush of endorphins and connection they have with their Dominant. It’s always a treat for me whenever a sub has a dreamy look in their eyes after a steady build-up of play.

Pay for Play

A term used colloquially by kinksters referring to professional Masters and Mistresses who earn income from playing.

Age Play

An aspect of role play. Usually falls under certain fantasies where the submissive is young (baby, child, student). Can also be part of infantilism.

Human Furniture

An activity where the submissive becomes objectified as a piece of furniture for the Dominant to use. It can coordinate with specific fetishes like foot fetish = foot stool. An excellent mainstream example of this would be from the movie Bruno in which Paula Abdul sits on a human chair and is served food off a human table.

Infantilism

Play that involves role play where the submissive is treated like an infant. It can involve dressing up like an infant (diapers, bib, bonnets, rattles, large bottles) and activities associated with babies (diaper changing, spanking, mother/child role play).

Guest Author for Geisha Diaires: Miss Veronica Volt, Pro-Domme at Deviant Domain, L.A.