A Companion's Biggest Mistake
Diary of a Escort"When I first got into the business, I let my guard down and made a foolish exception that could have cost my life. When I say I learned the hard way, I mean it" Barbados Bailey
He was a 'last minute' appointment during one of my first tours to New York. By phone he disclosed his full name and claimed to be self employed. I insisted that he arrive with identification and corresponding business card to present upon our introduction. Strangely enough, that same day before this client booked, I received a chain of appointment requests followed by last minute cancellations.
I later discovered that it was the same client who falsified the flakey clients, so that by the time he booked his appointment I would be thankful since I had so many cancellations that day
The unverified client arrived. Immediately, I asked to see his identification and business card. He searched frantically in pockets and coat jacket but produced nothing. He claimed to be in such a rush from the office that he had forgotten his wallet. This well-dressed, business man made his way into my hotel room, sat down on the bed with a sulking expression while proclaiming that he had forgotten all of his information and would I please forgive him. I thought what the heck, it's been a rought day. One time won't hurt.
I couldn't understand why he was in such a hurry for me to take all of my clothes off. But then, he grabbed me, shoved my hands behind my back and declared that I was under arrest.
My heart sank into my feet as I stood there naked and humiliated
He was more concerned with gathering all of my money. He carried no badge. Oddly, he completely overlooked my briefcase that sat in plain view under the desk. Wouldn't he want to search that for money? It dawned on me 20 minutes into the "searching" that this man was impersonating a cop.
He forced me to open the safe where I had stashed all of my valuables. I was so nervous that I couldn’t remember the access code so he stood over while I called hotel security for assistance. Before they arrived, I was ordered to get dressed and threatened bodily harm should I scream or try to escape. Shaking with despair, I tried to conceal tears in my eyes as the safe was opened to reveal an envelope of cash that carried $4,000 in earnings.
Having gotten what he wanted, this criminal pushed me out the door of my hotel room, clamping my arm in the elevator and demanded that I wait there in the lobby until he returned. With no cel phone, I sat paralyzed and intimated. After thirty long minutes passed, I realized this guy was not coming back. I felt so stupid. He made a clean exit!
Shaken and in tears, I used the lobby phone to place a collect call to my best friend back home
who knew that I was touring. Gently, he revealed that this man was not a cop but a thief and that I had been robbed. More than anything, I was angry with myself that I hadn’t deposited my money in the bank located just across the street. Though I had ample space in my schedule to deposit the cash I saw no reason not to wait until tomorrow. With no alternative, I cut my tour short and returned home the next morning.
This man could have raped or killed me
Such a dreadful experience taught me a valuable lesson. I was extremely fortunate that all he got was my money. Never let your guard down and always verify a client before you meet, no matter how convincing he may be! And, it is crucial, especially for ladies who tour, to maintain a bank account with branch locations in many cities throughout the U.S. such as Bank of America. At the end of your day and before the banks close it is essential to deposit your cash inside the branch, not at an ATM machine. Even if your room has a safe-deposit box still go to the bank each day and diligently make that deposit. Carrying no cash whether in your room with clients or traveling through the airport ensures that you won’t be robbed and most importantly, that your life will not be threatened.
Written by Guest Author, Barbados Bailey
Reader Comments (4)
Abslutely! For the safety of everyone involved verification is an absolute must! The poor womans story is just one of many I have heard of in Las Vegas! The desert screams with the voices of the poor women who thought it wouldn't happen to them, but it has for years, only they were not the lucky ones, they were robbed, beaten, raped, and killed to silence them. These are desperate times, and women need to consider serious protection. I even have a bodyguard now. I check in and out.( I want a James Bond backing me every step of the way.) The problem is it is simply hard to believe anyone could be that evil! Women need to team up on references and verification, for all of our lives could very well depend upon it! The sad part is it works both ways! The women drug the man, take all of his money, cash, jewelry, credit cards, you name it, they take it, and that's why references are GOLDEN! The men need to feel secure as well. Hense, I am very blessed with a great clientelle. They trust me too! God bless you all, and be safe!
Thats right! Men always pretend to be police, its happened to me 6 times! The first time I almost bit his b.s and let him "arrest" me but something did not seem officiall about him at all so I resisted his black plastic cuffs. They were th kind the craigslist killer had in the movie but black and it wasn't the same guy.anyways, I could tell he was high on something but was only using the gun to try to scare me. I blacked out and bit his arm so hard I broke skin. He ran away with no cash .so that's how I defend myself. If im backed in a corner I act like a vicious animal and attack literally. I refuse to be a victim!! Im pretty sure he had a bruise shaped like my mouth for a while or he might have even had to go to the hospital. Oh well I know if I tried to rob someone and got killed or hurt. Who can I blame besides myself? that's why I don't care about consequences, point blank, if they try to rob me and don't succeed then I will make them regret it! Don't steal from me and we wont have problems. I just was a little more crazy for biting him. He definatley wasn't expecting that! Sadly i will attack my attacker in those situations and like I said I will not be the one. Any man trying to rob me will become my victim I promise! When hes on the floor out cold, leaking that's when I would call the real police and tell them come clean up the mess. They will look at him then look at me and say good job. I will say thanks, its just my nature to protect myself.
I hope that, while anonymous, you can find it in your hearts (those who run the site) to take my next thought and see that it is coming from a sincere place.
As a fellow escort, and someone who has been the victim time and time again by predators wishing to exploit those of us who are more fragile and trusting... I'm asking you to take the details of the criminals actions.
The first thing I thought, was holy shit. First, my whole heart sank into my stomach and I felt like I literally felt her pain. Second, was absolute complete and utter FEAR. Only a sick and twisted mind could have come up with such a well thought out plan. This was calculated, and by keeping the details up on your amazing website, I fear it will give the less intelligent criminals out there a step by step tutorial on how to commit these acts themselves.
It's late, yes I'm tired, but I really hope my words make sense.
In my 6 years as an escort and someone who is engrossed in the community and has access to all of the 'bad guy boards' etc etc.. I've never read something as scary as this happening to a fellow provider.
Perhaps you could have a part of the site for this type of info that only the girls who post on your site can see? I feel that keeping this up is just like writing a tutorial on how to exploit women.
I* DO* however understand your reasonings behind publishing this. This is a very new tactic and it's scary and women should - NEED - to know about this, but for what? For the possibility of creating more victims?
This woman was lucky, he had her in a most vulnerable of positions. I have been there, and I am grieving for her right now even though I don't know her and for all I know the date on this is from last year (i haven't looked). BUT this is knowledge that we're giving freely to anyone who stumbles upon your very attractive site filled with pictures of beautiful women (my point is that it is very unlikely that men are unaware of this site - the photographs of these women are AMAZING!) and men are bound to be attracted to see this site, and avid readers.
some regular joe schmo can read this, and a year later for whatever reason (divorce, loss of job, etc) remembers this and decides to scheme something up...projecting the pain from a lost relationship or whatever on a provider.
To put it simply and end my rambling, don't you see that this publishing could possibly do more harm than good? I really hope you don't take offense! that's not my intention....im just reacting out of fear.
my thoughts are with her, and I hope she's found peace and healed from this awful and humiliating experience. bless her poor heart.
Another Exploited Provider - no offense taken. The contrary. The Diaries is a forum where all can express themselves (unless abusive or inflammatory) and I will take your very important thoughts into consideration. And thank you very much for your kind words about my photography.
Meeshee
xoxo