A Hobbyist Discovers his Bisexuality
“Even if it should actually turn out to be just a phase, which might or might not be the case, it doesn't matter. Who you are right now, and the things you desire right now, are absolutely fine and okay and much more normal than you could possibly imagine.”* Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries
Boomer is an active and well regarded hobbyist of 4 years. He’s also an avid reader of Geisha Diaries. Boomer was introduced to us by a mutual friend. As we were curious about his participation in the community, Boomer intimately revealed his human side, what fuels his deep seeded needs, curiosities and passions.
Boomer can be neatly summed up into three words: the consummate gentleman
His kindness and genuine regard for humanity speak loudly. But his marriage of 30 years lacks the intimacy that he seeks through GFE encounters in the hobby. Having just emerged from a UTR relationship with a provider, he is now exploring alternate forms of sexuality after 57 years of living a heterosexual lifestyle. Emerging from a long time career in the corporate world, Boomer speaks in a well-mannered and eloquent fashion and could easily be the CEO of a large corporation, a dentist or your next-door-neighbor.
Unless he feels a connection, there is no second date
Encounters with new providers are reminiscent of a civilian first date. Boomer is usually nervous and seeks to recognize the promise of friendship. He clearly recognizes the reciprocity of a provider/hobbyist relationship in the healthiest and most respectful approach. As in any business transaction mutual benefit exists on both sides. However, the topic of consideration is taboo, a total turn off and will abruptly dismiss any chance of a future date.
Boomer grew up during an era when sexual repression was large
Time and seasoning have all but shed his inhibitions. Why should one spend one’s life wondering, feeding a denial that serves only to imprison one’s self expression? As a responsible, accomplished gentleman who has experienced many chapters in life, Boomer has chosen to exercise his right to personal freedom by exploring those unanswered, intimate questions by dabbling in other realms of sexuality. Might such extreme liberation pose a sort of threat to some providers? This has been Boomer’s experience with a few. Perhaps it is a visceral repulsion that such a provider is turned off by a man who engages with another man. Intellectually, however, one might question her logic.
Boomer represents a sort of hybrid bisexual
One who has evolved out of the traditional, old school ways of love and lust – the culturally categorical boxes of you man, me woman. His desires stop short of being with a straight out man. Perhaps one day he will go there. But for now, he has discovered that his comfort level is reinforced by a person representing the ultimate feminine experience while blessed with the endowment of a man. Boomer has come to know such a woman who has met with his needs and desires on emotional, physical and physiological levels. This is not to say that he has lost interest in heterosexual providers. Rather, he finds them quite desirable and considers all as transitory experiences contributing to his personal journey to self discovery.
Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries
*quote by Hanne Bank
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Like Boomer I'm also bisexual, although I've only had a few such experiences. Rather than engaging a transexual, however, I've found the best of both worlds to be an MMF tryst. My bi experiences have been MMF (but not with a provider) and for me playing with my male friend while our lady watches us, and as she participtates in the many and varied activities, is extremely erotic. I've always found it strange that, as you allude Meeshee, many ladies and gentlemen find female-female play so erotic and acceptable, but male-male is almost always a turn-off. But of course that's part of the reason I'm attracted to it. I would never lose interest in women, both providers and others, and I'm not sure I would want to play with a man just one on one, but MMF has been a wonderfully erotic and fullfilling experience for me.
Jeff - I think it boils down to the differences between biological wiring of men and women. Perhaps women attach more emotion to sex than do men. But that's a generalization on my part. Could it be that the women who are turned of by men on men are threatened? Or, do they association men on men with AIDS? Mind you, these are nothing more than random and probably ignorant thoughts that I'm spewing forth and do not reflect my opinion.
I identify as bisexual but I think most men that see TS girls ID as straight. Its not just the attraction to TS that makes me bi, like Jeff, I am attracted to men as well. I feel more at ease with a TS, but the main reason I am with a TS and not a GG is the different genetalia. Some TS girls ID as straight female, even if they are pre-op and they want their partners to see them as women, so they may not be comfortable if the partner ID's as bi or gay. I recently advised a newbie seeking TS who was concerned with all this stuff to not worry about the labels. ID however you feel comfortable, and seek pleasure in an ethical manner between consenting adults.