“Even if it should actually turn out to be just a phase, which might or might not be the case, it doesn't matter. Who you are right now, and the things you desire right now, are absolutely fine and okay and much more normal than you could possibly imagine.”* Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries
Boomer is an active and well regarded hobbyist of 4 years. He’s also an avid reader of Geisha Diaries. Boomer was introduced to us by a mutual friend. As we were curious about his participation in the community, Boomer intimately revealed his human side, what fuels his deep seeded needs, curiosities and passions.
Boomer can be neatly summed up into three words: the consummate gentleman
His kindness and genuine regard for humanity speak loudly. But his marriage of 30 years lacks the intimacy that he seeks through GFE encounters in the hobby. Having just emerged from a UTR relationship with a provider, he is now exploring alternate forms of sexuality after 57 years of living a heterosexual lifestyle. Emerging from a long time career in the corporate world, Boomer speaks in a well-mannered and eloquent fashion and could easily be the CEO of a large corporation, a dentist or your next-door-neighbor.
Unless he feels a connection, there is no second date
Encounters with new providers are reminiscent of a civilian first date. Boomer is usually nervous and seeks to recognize the promise of friendship. He clearly recognizes the reciprocity of a provider/hobbyist relationship in the healthiest and most respectful approach. As in any business transaction mutual benefit exists on both sides. However, the topic of consideration is taboo, a total turn off and will abruptly dismiss any chance of a future date.
Boomer grew up during an era when sexual repression was large
Time and seasoning have all but shed his inhibitions. Why should one spend one’s life wondering, feeding a denial that serves only to imprison one’s self expression? As a responsible, accomplished gentleman who has experienced many chapters in life, Boomer has chosen to exercise his right to personal freedom by exploring those unanswered, intimate questions by dabbling in other realms of sexuality. Might such extreme liberation pose a sort of threat to some providers? This has been Boomer’s experience with a few. Perhaps it is a visceral repulsion that such a provider is turned off by a man who engages with another man. Intellectually, however, one might question her logic.
Boomer represents a sort of hybrid bisexual
One who has evolved out of the traditional, old school ways of love and lust – the culturally categorical boxes of you man, me woman. His desires stop short of being with a straight out man. Perhaps one day he will go there. But for now, he has discovered that his comfort level is reinforced by a person representing the ultimate feminine experience while blessed with the endowment of a man. Boomer has come to know such a woman who has met with his needs and desires on emotional, physical and physiological levels. This is not to say that he has lost interest in heterosexual providers. Rather, he finds them quite desirable and considers all as transitory experiences contributing to his personal journey to self discovery.
Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries
*quote by Hanne Bank