How to Find a Sugar Daddy Online

Geisha Diaries caught up with one of our Guest Authors, Butterfly Sugar, who wrote the article, “Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby” back in March, 2011. She is an elegant, well-written and self-professed, chocolate-dipped sugar baby. We asked her to share her insight and knowledge about successfully pursuing the sugar baby lifestyle. Here is her advice:

1. Sugar baby photos and bio 

• These are the primary features when drawing a sugar daddy to your advertisement, curious to see more of you and know what you are all about. 
• Use your own photos. Do not use someone else's images. Eventually, you will meet your potential sugar daddy and will have wasted your time and his by falsifying your identity with someone else’s pictures.
• If you do not want to show face in your photos, crop them from the lips down. This way he can see your pretty smile or sexy pout along with the shape of your body.
• Your profile should display at least 3 basic looks: the little black dress (or equivalent) to show how nice you look in chic to semi formal attire; a headshot (personality radiates through a smile); a fun, lifestyle shot (such as a swimsuit, playing with your dog or walking along the beach)

• Photos that depict careless partying or drinking will discount any persona and should be avoided.

2. Structuring your ad 

• Avoid sounding desperate or whining like a down & out country song
• Don’t use cliche' words such as spoiled, high maintenance or drama free
• When describing your looks, create a vivid, detailed picture. Which sounds better? "I have brown skin" or "I have silky, smooth, milk chocolate skin"?
• www.thesaurus.com should become your best friend. Using repetitive words (i.e., fun, generous, spoiled) gets monotonous. Make a little effort and discover some unique words or phrases to express the same meanings.
• Explain your objective: you need to pay off your student loans; you would like to start a business, etc.
• Run everything through a spell check before posting your ad. Simple spelling and grammatical errors can be a turn off to the well appointed gentleman.
• Refrain from using "adult worker" terminology. It won’t get you very far.

3. Sugar daddy complaints 

• The lady looks nothing like her pictures. Either she is using outdated photos or photos from 20 lbs ago or those of a different person all together.
• There are a lot of women who feature themselves as mail order brides whose objectives are for the gentleman to pay their way to America.
• Men do not like to think that the sugar babies they are meeting are escorts. Whether or not they themselves see providers is beside the point. Post different photos than those used for your escort ads or sites as they can be run through Tineye and come back to haunt you.
• Many ladies are cold, detached and only care about money. Despite how you may feel, you should be amiable, charming, patient and kind. You will truly benefit from these traits.

4. Do your research – learn as much as you can about your potential sugar daddy beforehand 

• Utilize Google or any other search engine by inputting as much information as you can to investigate your potential sugar daddy.
• Tineye verifies the authenticity of a photo. Some men use pictures from their business websites which is another way of discovering more about them.
• Pipl is a great source for gathering in depth information
• Reverse phone number lookup is quite useful in determining the authenticity of your potential sugar daddy and can provide a lot of insight.

5. Watch out for the losers 

• Test Drive Dude - this is the guy who wants to test the goods so that he knows what he is getting into. You are not a car so there is no kicking the tires beforehand. There are a lot of men who prey on the naivete of women, coercing them to have sex on the premise that they will give them something. Another one is the guy who tries to pay per orgasm. Oh yes, ladies, there are those guys out there.
• Time Waster/Email Buddy - this guy will have plenty of time to email you numerous times a day but magically never have time to meet with you. He wants emotional support that he is not getting elsewhere and utilizes the promise of meeting you to falsely fulfill those needs.
• Flakes - unfortunately, there are a lot of guys who will chat with you, schedule a date but never show up. Follow your instinct on how serious you think they are and request that they call or email on the day of your date to confirm.
• Photo Collector - I post only 2 or 3 photos on my profile. I do not post in my private gallery because I find that doing so attracts a lot of perverts who sift through the website looking for ladies with private photos hoping they can see some tits and ass. Those same guys do not plan on speaking or meeting you. I stay away from men who ask to see more photos. Instead, I suggest that we meet in person if they would like to see more.
• Text Message Phone Sex - this guy push the sexual boundaries before you ever meet. He is yet another guy just looking to get his rocks off.
• Mr. "Promise you the World" - don't get hypnotized by a pretty song. If it sounds like bullshit he is feeding you, it is bullshit. Female intuition is key.
• Setup a brand new individual email for online sugar dating. An email address can be tracked and if you’ve used it for anything personal your information can be leaked.

Written by Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Comments

[Edie Vail]

Absolutely invaluable information! Shows how to be very professional and inviting at the same time. Thank you for your article and insights, very much appreciated!

Edie

[The Butterfly Sugar]

I am glad I could offer any assistance possible. I truly believe in any & everything we do we should put our best foot & face forward!
♥ Butterfly Kisses ♥

[Taylor]

Great advice. I do a lot of webwork and couldn't agree more with the Thesaurus/spell checker: simple grammatical errors are the easiest way to immediately make yourself look careless and unprofessional. When you say Refrain from using "adult worker" terminology do you mean to never incude language like 'all services' 'GFE', nothing one would see on an escort site really?

Thanks, great info and very well written.

[The Butterfly Sugar]

Taylor, that is EXACTLY what I mean! Don't even get me started on symnatics:-( I wrote a blog entry about it here: http://sugarbabychronicles.blogspot.com/2011/09/thank-you.html People get so caught up in certain words and phrases...Since it is a relationship that is based around men wanting sex and women wanting money you could call it a number of things, but it is like the unspoken understanding. 99.9% of the guys expect sex and want you to treat them like a girlfriend would, BUT once again, it is the unspoken understanding. Get it?

Also, most of the guys are vp's, presidents, ceo's, highly educated, etc. and they may want to travel with you, take you places, pass you off as their girlfriend...it makes a difference how you portray yourself and the type of person who will respond. Just like, if your escort ad makes you seem like a $2 hooker then that's the type of guys you will attract.

Hope that makes sense...it's already been a long day:-)

[Taylor]

Definitely. Makes perfect sense, just so used to using all the industry code words it seems weird not using them. But of course there's a tacit understanding, and not displaying a menu of every detail does lend an air of sophistication. Thanks for the quick response.

[The Butterfly Sugar]

Taylor,
Sometimes people like to be spoon fed, and not have things shoved down their throat all the time. When you deal in The Sugar World it would be one of those gentle spoon feeding times. Which is quite funny since we as women just want to know: "What allowance can you give?" "Will you give me any gifts, spa days, shopping days?" "Will we be traveling to fun & exciting places?" "How much time do we need to spend together for me to get those things?" And the guys want to know: "How much, moneywise, do you need from me to get in your panties?" "Is there a way I can get in your panties for free or barely have to part with anything, moneywise?"

But, you can't just put that on your profile, unfortunately, you have to dance around it...Although, once you pique their interest you can pretty much cut to the chance. Just don't make it sound like a cut & dry business transaction:-)