As a specialist in the adult industry, I interact every day with clients, friends and associates striving to increase their business and step up their game. Many succeed while some do not. The escort industry has become somewhat of a revolving door, totally saturated with competition since the economy took a turn for the worst several years ago. As a result, the rules have changed. The one common thread that rises to the surface behind every successful person in the adult industry (or any industry for that matter) is that they all have a plan. They are all business people and are not afraid to take chances in implementing their plans. What secrets do they share? I came across City Girls and found them to be somewhat of an enigma in this cut throat, sometimes heartless industry where someone is always nipping at your heels. Mike, founder and owner of City Girls, agreed to opened up and share with our readers his personal side as the brains behind the business. If only one reader benefits from a few of Mike’s words, then this article was a success.
City Girls has quickly emerged as a prominent private club in the adult entertainment industry thick with competition. What’s your secret? I guess, I won't say the main secret, because the competition might get thicker...LOL...just kidding. But actually there are some facts which helped me bring City Girls to the level it is right now.First of all, you need to know the industry you are in. I have been in it for quite a bit now and it helped me to understand what hobbyists like and what providers want.Secondly, I’m familiar with IT technology (web development, programming, telecommunication, data protection etc.). We have a proffessional full time team working on just our projects. Since technology is infiltrating our lives every day more and more, it's good to be progressive and technologically savvy in the adult industry as well. Our members love it. Thirdly, I follow this simple goal: "Convert a new client into a regular client". Sounds simple, but you need to work at it! Do everything possible for a client to want to work with you again in the future, even if you need to invest something extra (for example, by offering incentives to our new VIP members after they have been introduced to City Girls, we are sure they will be back again.)So, when you combine these 3 factors, you get a successful organization in any type of business in any industry.
How do you blend your personal life with your business life? Like with every new project when you start it takes all your time and then time to spend with your family becomes very limited. The first year was hard for me to find a minute for my family. I take my hat off to my wife for her undying patience! Because City Girls operates in different sectors, delegating a responsible manager in each sector gave me more flexibility with my time. Before this approach, I was doing everything myself. It was exhausting! But unless you try everything yourself you won't know how to improve it. So, now I almost have a set schedule but time zones are always a challenge.
We’ve spoken a few times and I got the sense that you are a perfectionist.On what basis do you set your standards? I like everything to be perfect. When things run differently, it really bothers me and I get annoyed. I try to control that. I think I got it from my dad. He put it inside me, when I was a kid.
What did you do before you founded City Girls? Before City Girls, I started from the very possible beginning - driving escorts in a busy, low class agency. After 2-3 months, I was offered a position answering phones. I worked there for about a year and a half, then left to open my own agency with a partner. We ran that for about 2 years. Then our roads went different ways (which is common for many agency owners). I had plans about City Girls in my head and I wanted to develop it myself, because I knew I was capable.
What do you do for fun? I like to camp, fish and hunt. I like to visit the shooting range and play cards. I also like to experiment with restaurants and try different cuisines, even the strangest ones. I’m a fan of Chinese teas. I like to get together with my friends on Sunday evenings and taste all sorts of great Chinese teas. I have a good collection.
City Girls shuts down during the summer months. That sort of business practice is almost unheard of here in the United States!Why do you conduct CG that way? The major reason is in the answer number 2, of course. I spend a couple of quality months with my family, traveling mostly. And another reason is that for this past summer, we needed to make a lot of changes to our website and improve our customer support. The only time when I can concentrate on City Girls’ improvements is when no one is calling me, emailing me, talking to me – when I’m just by myself in the room. It takes a lot of time and the only way for this to happen is to close for the summer. Also, most of the hobbyists take off from hobbying during the summer period. If there would be the same demand for escort services during the summer months, believe me, I would find a way for City Girls to operate. I know that this might disappoint our VIP members not being able to book with us during summer, but we have made some good recommendations while we were away. I hope they were helpful! Actually they were because I received positive feedback from the people we recommended.
Do you ever become friends with any of the girls or clients on City Girls? I consider a friend to be a person who I would invite to my home and who I can tell personal stuff, which I wouldn’t tell anyone else. Would I ever want to become friends with any of the girls or clients of City Girls? Probably not. I never meet with anyone in this business personally and I would like to keep it that way.
Vertical Kitty is hosting a section on Geisha Diaries where escorts, companions, courtesans, BDSM folks, Tgirls and escort agencies can post their personal biographies along with a photo and links to their websites and/or blogs.
What is Escort Biographies?
Escort Biographies presents an opportunity to step outside of your persona or role as a business person and extend yourself as a human being. It’sabout revealing your personal side – facets of your personality or life, interests, poignant events that have shaped your life, what you’re made of, secrets that no one knows. When you are a business person (aren’t we all?) often times, exposing the human element can be the ingredient that makes the difference between success and failure.
What Escort Biographies is not
While your Escort Biography will be linked to your website and showcase your photo and contact information (optional), it is not a direct advertisement for business. It will not include your measurements, feature that you are a GFE or into BDSM, etc.
Escort Biographies is a great way to showcase who you are
in your own words, edited and polished by Vertical Kitty who specializes in escort and escort agency content writing. Geisha Diaries is known and respected in the worldwide adult industry for revealing secrets that many of us have thought about or experienced but never expressed or shared. Escort Biographies is a fantastic way to gain exposure to a worldwide audience for a one-time fee with your Biography edited by a professional writer.
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While you can link to your Escort Biography on Geisha Diaries from your personal website, blog or profile, it does not include copyright release and is published exclusively on Geisha Diaries – nowhere else on the internet.
The guidelines are easy:
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It wasn’t until the traumatic loss of my mother to cancer that I truly realized how important it is for a woman to have her breasts checked annually. In an effort to convince me to get a mammogram, my doctor told me stories of women who were fortunate to discover lumps in their breasts early on and were able to have them removed. In doing so, they avoided a mastectomy! Sadly, my girlfriend discovered a lump in her breast by self-examination and because of the more advanced stage of cancer had to have her breast removed. If she had a mammogram, maybe she could have avoided it. What a devastating ordeal!
Because cancer is prevalent in my family, I must undergo a mammogram twice a year. I used to be inconvenienced taking time out of my schedule to go to the hospital and wait for the procedure. But facing reality of how many women actually have breast cancer, I now feel blessed that I do not have any lumps or signs of cancer in my breasts.
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. While most people are aware of the disease, many women forget to take precaution. One in eight women will get cancer in the United States. To me, this is reason enough to create an early detection plan. There are plenty of clinics offering discounted or even free mammograms in honor of the BCAM.
As companions and independent escorts, we must take good care of our health and that means a lot more than just getting a tan or having our nails done. Ladies? Think Pink! Spread the word of awareness to all of your girlfriends, family, clients and hobbyists about National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Tell them to tell their friends. Who knows? You might save a life.
Written by Elite Companion and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Bailey Native
Vertical Kitty was allured by the lovely and ever so gracious Christie L'Amour, porn actress turned independent escort. What fascinated us most is Ms. L'Amour's business saavy to not only carve her niche as a well known adult actress but her ability to run her business as a successful, female entrepreneur. Ms. L'Amour has resisted the common social stigma associated with porn actresses by maintaining a healthy, balanced lifestyle. She is totally fullfilled by her business, associates and friends and it shines through her calming yet vivacious attitude. We could all stand to learn a lot from her!
Ms. L'Amour's business as a professional adult actress continues to thrive. She applies a rather eccentric approach in that her associates are exclusively family members. While some may find this type of partnership rather arresting, she atttributes the success of her business to the trust and respect that they all share as cousins and siblings.
Ms. L'Amour opened up to us in a series of questions that will provide the reader with intimate insight about her professional life:
Q:How did you get into the adult entertainment industry?
A:I had been working with my cousin Giancarlo for several years as his assistant in the insurance industry. We found ourselves victims of the crash in the financial markets and started working second and third jobs to make ends meet. It just so happened that I showed Giancarlo a want ad for a night driver. No one knows the roads better than him. He was hired immediately as a driver working for an escort agency. One evening, I offered to ride with him. He was driving two escorts who were each working for two different agencies. It turned out to be a busy night and at one point the girls were about to drop an assignment. While my cousin and the two ladies argued about who was going to deliver the bad news to the agency I jumped in and offered to take on the assignment. Everyone shut up. The two escorts gave me their makeup and heels and I was off. Wow. Everything turned out great and I was hooked. It sure beat my other jobs by far. A few weeks later, I asked my cousin to connect me with the agencies and the rest is history. After a month working for the agencies, I became an independent escort. Giancarlo had some friends in the adult industry who got me some gigs acting in adult movies. We both dropped all our other endeavors and focused our efforts on the adult business. Now, he works for me…LOL…as my Boy Toy and male talent. I keep him busy and the benefits are great! There is a huge line behind him wanting to step in for the Boy Toy position. Giancarlo is family so until he retires I will keep things the way they are.
Q: Talk about the ‘family’ concept behind your business
A: This may sound a bit unusual, but I was raised in a very conservative family along with my 4 younger sisters. Our cousin, Giancarlo, was the only male with whom our dad would allow us out of the house. Our dad loved him. My dad was ex-military and Giancarlo had attended a military academy. Boy, did he have our dad fooled and wrapped around his finger. He was like a fox in a hen house. I and two of my other sisters lost our virginity to him. No regrets…it was fun. We have all been great friends and lovers through the years. No Drama just a great relationships. He has taken us to swinger’s events and clubs and that’s how we all turned out to be bisexual. So, play among all of us is quite natural.
All of my sisters have since married, some successfully and others not so much. I have stayed single and will probably never marry. I am happy with my lifestyle and have everything I want.
The concept about play with family clicked among hobbyists from the beginning. Together, we offer many different sessions for couples, single women and men. Giancarlo also works independently with couples, ladies and men just as I do. He is a great photographer and videographer. Sometimes when they are available, one of my sisters will join. It has been a huge success.
The great thing about working with Family is that we understand each other and think alike. We focus on our clients and their complete satisfaction. It’s great to work with others who share the same objectives and we trust each other with our lives. I feel truly blessed.
Q. How do you maintain such a hectic tour schedule while managing your personal life?
A: Without my cousin's help, I could never do it all by myself. There is so much that has to be handled that it would be overwhelming for one person. The great thing is that we really love what we do. Mixing business with pleasure is never an issue because pleasure is my business. I love how that sounds.
Q: Describe the difference for you between filming adult movies and escorting
A: Escorting is a lot more fun that filming adult movies. I get to spend quality time and build relationships with my clients which I enjoy more than anything. This does not happen in adult film. Also, staging a movie is strenuous and requires a lot of time and effort. People do not realize how much a film is edited and what it takes to film a porn shoot. The constant stopping of action and posing makes it more work than fun. Although, I must admit, I love the camera and it gets me very hot and horny to know that I am being watched. That is what I love most about adult films. I am a true exhibitionist.
Q: Profile your best client
A: My best client is a person who calls to set up an appointment and before I have to ask, has already forwarded me all his information for screening and fantasy request. He doesn’t ask questions beyond when is the best time to meet. He will never send multiple text messages, call or email repeatedly to get pumped up for the experience. He will arrive on time and will either be perfectly groomed or will ask to use my facilities to freshen up. He will always respect my wishes and play safely. He is respectful of my time just as I am respectful of his. He will ask in advance before giving my name as a reference. Above all, he is a person who will treat me the way he would like to be treated. Relationships are built on trust and respect. When those two elements are present everything is magical and we are blessed with the light and energy of the universe. That's when the real fun and passion can be experienced.
Q: You are a club member of City Girls. How does that work for you?
A: I have a deep respect for the operation and staff at City Girls. As a club of independent escorts, they are by far the most professional group in existence today. For years we have exchanged references. I once commented that I admired the way they worked and they responded by offering me membership in their club. I hope to contribute to them with the experience I have gained over the years and know that I will benefit as well. I love that as an independent provider, City Girls compliments my efforts. We are both very organized in our business approach. I will work hard to introduce them to many new markets and I know they will do the same for me. I also hope to work with some of the other beautiful City Girls club members providing special sessions whenever our schedules overlap. It’s great to be able to offer variety. I also want to turn my large list of friends to City Girls because I am not able to be everywhere at the same time. I care about my friends and if I can introduce them to other independent escorts through City Girls I will sleep well knowing they will be safe in caring hands.
Q: What advice can you give to folks entering into the adult entertainment world today?
Whether you want to become an indepdent escort or an adult actress it is a career choice that can be exhilarating, exciting, and rewarding. You will only get out of it what you invest. Above all, you have to understand why you want to do it and must commit with heart and soul. Working in the adult industry is not something that you can fake. Either you love it or you don’t do it. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated and always play safe. Always.
Written by Vertical Kitty, Adult Content Writing Service
"Making a video of yourself shouldn’t be a scary thing but it does require planning and forethought" Meeshee
Last month, Geisha Diaries was pleased to post the article, “Video: The Ultimate in Escort Marketing” authored by the classy Ms. Claudia Cole. Ms. Cole made a gutsy decision to take the marketing of her business to a more sophisticated level. She got together with Marco of Eros Films to produce some jaw dropping short films that have become the pinnacle of her success. She hasn’t looked back. Of course, I had to go to the source and speak with Marco, the mastermind behind Eros Films, to find out how it’s done. Marco is a cool, easygoing artist with tremendous talent and a flare for making escorts look remarkable on film. This is the sequel to Ms. Cole’s article. If your business is struggling, you want to take it to the next level (more like 20 levels), or you want to develop a new persona, read on.
A lot of escorts are leery about working with male photographers or in your case, videographers because they often bear all. What can you say to allow escorts to feel safe with you?
I can understand how a female provider could feel leery about working with a male videographer. However, when you see our work, talk to us by phone, skype or even in person, she will feel comfortable right away. She will quickly sense our professionalism and realize that all of our attention is focused on making the most powerful and mesmerizing film. We focus on high quality, artistic, cinematic and cutting edge videos. We use the best HD cameras, lighting techniques and cutting edge editing. Our videos are filmed to attract a sophisticated and selected clientele who are looking for something unique in a companion. Our professional and courteous female crew consist of a makeup artist and key wardrobe consultant. They are present during shoots and creating an easy and relaxed environment.
What advice can you give to a companion preparing for her video?
My advice to a companion is to come relaxed and rested. Avoid drinking alcohol the night before, since alcohol can bloat the face. She should come prepared to show her most sensual attitude in front of the camera. As experienced film directors and directors of photography, we will coach her to bring out her best. Our professional makeup artists and wardrobe stylists will bring out her best. Prior to filming the video, we go through the pre-production stage where we talk about all the elements necessary for the shoot. Following these steps will really prepare a companion for the shoot.
What advice can you give to the companion who wants to make an impact with her video but feels that she doesn’t have a perfect body?
This may sound cliché, but I truly believe that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Every companion has an angle, side or pose that brings out her beauty the most. We apply all of our experience, lighting techniques, creativity and editing to bring out her best.
Does an escort have to have a perfect body to film a high impact, super sexy video?
I think ‘perfect’ is a subjective word. What is perfect for one might not be perfect for another. It is important for us to listen carefully to our clients (who are providers). We pay close attention and really hear their needs, requests and style. After accumulating all of this information, we carefully plan our lighting, composition and editing in order to enhance our client’s beauty and bring out her best physical and sensual attributes. Our goal is to make her look beautiful, tempting and delightful at all times.
Do you see video replacing stills?
I believe that nothing will replace still photography. It will always be classic and timeless. But when it comes to promotion and attention gathering streams, video is the new standard. Today, people are promoting more services and products through video. With the availability of new technologies such as powerful mobile devices and fast data speeds, people are watching video more than ever. Therefore, there is an advantage of video over photography. Videos are tri-dimensional mediums that combine imagery, sounds and effects. These combined variables make video a more dynamic way to showcase a companion’s physical, sensual and personality traits in a quick, yet artistic and enticing way.
What is an average, ball park cost of to film a video with Eros Films?
Prices vary depending on the type of video a provider would like to shoot. We have three packages to offer. My advice to all providers is to contact us. Share a theme, story line or idea and a budget for this marketing investment. We will recommend the right package for them and the price list.
What is an average length of video?
Between two and half minutes to three minutes.
Do you film couples, pornographic or erotic footage?
We will consider any client’s request and approach it with style and taste.
Explain a little about your services
Our services include:
Script development or co-development;
Direction and direction of photography;
Make up and editing;
Professional lighting;
State of the art HD cameras
In a recent GD article written by Claudia Cole, she talks about her experience with Eros Films and the process of producing her video. What advice can you give readers with regard to your experience with the filming of Claudia’s videos?
Shooting with Claudia was great. She came to the shoot very well prepared and had a clear idea of what she wanted to achieve on both videos, so that prior pre-production work made the shoot flow smoothly. We had about three phone conversations a couple weeks before the shoot and talked about the concept she wanted, wardrobe and locations needed. We exchanged ideas, and we came up with a very well thought out plan that allow me to estimate and suggest the equipment and techniques that we were going to use in order to achieve the look, style and feel of the story. Once we arrived at her location, we set up lighting, cameras and other gear. As soon as her makeup was ready, we started to shoot. Things went as we expected on both shoots and we achieved all the visuals that we wanted to obtain.
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As filmmakers, we need to know our client's goals. We want to listen to her ideas and marketing needs. Communication is very important. Having plenty of phone conversations, skype or even face-to-face meetings (whenever possible) will allow us all to be on the same page and create a winning plan.
We are creating a very powerful promotional tool and the more we know about a companion’s goals for these videos the better we can advise her on the many details that make a difference. It is important to decide in advance what outfits go into play, locations, music, lighting, composition and editing. All combined will make an impact on past, regular and future clients for the provider.
Following these words of advice will lead to a smooth shoot and allow us to obtain all the visuals necessary to complete the story.
"A woman who owned property, made high wages and had sex outside of marriage was probably a whore." Guest Author, Mrs. Robinson
I began my quest to learn why society feels such hatred against women in the adult entertainment industry and why these women are looked down upon with such repugnance.
In the nineteenth century, whores performed or received oral sex, used birth control, consorted with men of other races, danced and drank. They harbored no shame. They were assertive, walked alone in public and wore makeup, perfume and stylish clothes.
Prostitutes practiced virtually all of the freedoms that were denied conventional women which are now taken for granted
Prostitutes were particularly successful in the wild, lawless, renegade boomtowns of the West. During a time when women were barred from most employment and wives had no legal right to own property, madams in the West owned large tracts of land and prized real estate.
Prostitutes made by far, the highest wages of all American women
Several madams were so wealthy that they funded irrigation and road building projects that laid the foundation for the New West. Decades before American employers offered health insurance to their workers, madams across the West provided their employees with free health care. While women were told that they could not and should not protect themselves from violence and wives had no legal recourse against rape by their husbands, police officers were employed by madams to protect the women who worked for them. Many madams owned and knew how to use guns.
While feminists sought to free women from the slavery of patriarchal marriage, prostitutes married later in life and divorced more frequently than their more traditional counterparts. During a time when birth control was effectively banned, prostitutes facilitated a market for production and distribution of contraceptives. Women were taught that they belonged in the private sphere while prostitutes traveled extensively, often by themselves, and were brazenly public women.
Long before social dancing in public was considered acceptable for women, prostitutes invented many of the steps that would later become all the rage during the dance craze of the 1910s and 1920s. When gambling and public drinking were forbidden for most women, prostitutes were fixtures in Western saloons and became some of the most successful gamblers in the nation.
Most ironically, the makeup, clothing and hairstyles of prostitutes which were maligned for their overt sexuality (lipstick was considered "the scarlet shame of streetwalkers"), became widely fashionable among American women and are now so respectable that even first ladies wear them.
During the nineteenth century, women could not leave home before marriage, could not work, vote or even walk in public alone
If they where to inherit the family farm it was deeded to their husbands. A husband was also free to rape his wife and children.. Marriage was a form of slavery.
In 1870, "The Gentleman's Directory" was published as a pocket size review system of 150 New York brothels.
So how did sex workers come to be criminalized in the USA? Here is how things unfolded.
Congress claimed to have received an influx of reports that immigrants were being smuggled into the USA and being forced to work in brothels to the extent that they created the Mann Act of white slavery. Oddly enough, in 1910 it took 3 months to send a letter from New York to California. How congress received all these reports and had the time to investigate their authenticity is incredible.
The true objective behind the Mann Act was to prohibit white women from fraternizing with African American men
The Mann Act clearly stated that each state had the right to make its own prostitution laws. These laws were created to “stop a woman from showing her wares in public”. The Fed's would only intervene if the state line had been crossed for the purpose of prostitution or another illegal sex act.
The White-Slave Traffic Act, better known as the Mann Act, is a United States law, passed June 25, 1910 (ch. 395, 36 Stat. 825; codified as amended at 18 U.S.C. §§ 2421–2424).
It is named after Congressman James Robert Mann. Its original form prohibited white slavery and the interstate transport of females for immoral purposes. Its primary stated intent was to address prostitution, immorality, and human trafficking. However, its ambiguous immorality language allowed selective prosecutions for many years and was used to criminalize forms of consensual sexual behavior. In 1978, it was amended by Congress and again in 1986 to apply only to transport for the purpose of prostitution or illegal sexual acts.
Originally this law was passed to criminalize consensual behavior
The first person prosecuted under the act was African-American heavyweight boxing champion Jack Johnson.[4] He had an interracial affair with a white prostitute by the name of Lucille Cameron. After she refused to cooperate with the prosecution Johnson married her. Less than a month later, he was arrested again for having crossed a state line before the Mann Act was passed.
I believe divorce was created to let a man out of his obligation
During this time, women were told to be good girls. There was not much premarital sex, no gay rights, and women were shamed for having children out of wedlock. Even the Catholic church told women that it was their duty to stay with their husbands, no matter how badly they were being treated.
No woman has sex expecting nothing in return
Even if she is married she expects her husband to work and support the family and behave in an acceptable manner. No man has sex without expecting it to cost him something. Men have been taking care of women since the beginning of time. Yet today, we want to pretend this is a new concept.
Men are not paying for sex, they are paying not to have any further obligation to women afterword
Today, I think many women stink at negotiating. When a husband can leave his wife with 3 small children and she has to track him across the country for child support, we realize that marriage does not always equal future security. We even have no fault divorce that gives a person the power to dump their spouse after years of marriage and raising children - for no good reason.
Most women in the USA have admitted having sex by the 3rd date
During the 1950s, 78% of all adults in the USA were married. In 2011, only 50% of adults were married. More often than not Americans are hooking up for casual sex with strangers for free while 1 out of 10 men admit to having paid for sex.
Many single mothers date, allowing men whom they barely know into their homes where they have small children. Then they are all surprised when their children are molested or go missing. Not only is this legal, it seems to be socially acceptable, as long as the woman is not being paid. We have the folks who say that they do not want to live next door to a woman who gets paid for sex, yet these same people have no problem living next door to the town shank who regularly brings strange men home for sex.
So when did society begin to accept that it is okay for a woman to be a slut as long as she is not a whore?
Why do people scrutinize the sex lives of prostitutes? Why do we encourage hate crimes against prostitutes with the "they get what they deserve" attitude. More importantly, why are we stalking and arresting adults because of their private sexual activity with another consenting adult?
I can tell you that we escorts are not going to give up our freedom to be independent. We will not be forced into marriage just to survive a bad economy.
Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Advocate for Sex Workers, Mrs. Robinson
"Hello readers. You probably don't know who I am, so please allow me to introduce myself. I am Claudia Cole, an independent companion based in New York and Paris. Escort video is a medium rapidly transitioning from trend to standard." Guest Author, Claudia Cole
I would like readers to know that the following words are spoken with stark frankness and absolute transparency. I have no hidden motive for having written this article nor do I wish to create some grandiose illusion of having any professional or scholastic experience in filmmaking. The last time I went to the cinema was to see the movie "Sea Biscuit". I'm not kidding. I dislike television just as much.
Why would anyone bother to read this? Beats me. I don't care if you do or don't. All I have to offer is my unfiltered experience since making one video and one short (a film-video hybrid entitled "The Seduction"). In this particular article I shall address only my first video entitled, “Claudia: Unconscious- Subconscious”.
I believe there are companions around the globe participating in the adult entertainment industry who possess clear minds, carry good heads on their shoulders with strong, well intended hearts
Honest girls. Many who must not only fend for themselves but who might also support their families or loved ones. Most independent escorts work hard just so we can continue successfully working, a concept that I detest. We remain focused and strive to better ourselves. Many keep moving forward, hopeful to achieve another station in life at some point. Some in the escort business are "lifers." This article was composed for them and for all of the reasons above as we are all like minded.
Low periods are inevitable in the escort world and happen to the best of us
During June of 2011, I hit the mother of all cold streaks. I have been online for about four years, but really only count the last three. The first year or so I had a website but not a clue how to optimize or market it. What a problem indeed!
That all changed when I met another companion in our industry. I was awestruck! Clearly, this girl had a fundamental understanding of how things worked. Her assistant traveled with her, three phones were ringing off the hook and her tour schedule was packed. Her manner of doing business was quite foreign to me at that time. Today, she is my only real and trusted online friend. Her selfless guidance changed my life.
In July of 2011 she was in New York, listening to my complaints and frustrations. This cold streak was a monster! I had tried everything to shake it. During that quiet period, I re-designed my website, updated my gallery with all new images and even had two ten-ten reviews published. Still, nothing.
I must admit, she had never given me bad direction, but when I departed from her hotel room, I became angry! I like to fly beneath the radar. Now I need a video? I'm not the type to twitter away my sins and pleasures. Following her advice would require tackling a whole new marketing medium plus, the tedious task of teaching myself an entirely new skill set. Forget the effort. The cost sounded daunting, at best.
I was motivated by an urgent need to escape the fear and uncertainty
of the Claudia Cole flat line so I bit the bullet and proactively educated myself about the process involved in making a promotional video. I spent countless hours online researching the subject from all angles both corporate and provider oriented. Oddly, I noticed parallels between the two. The same standard rules for success and failure kept appearing at the same cross-sections. Example: always keep the length of a video under ninety seconds. At the same time, I sought video works made by others in our industry from the United States and far beyond.
I noticed that video productions devised as marketing tools shared a similar formula. For clarity's sake, I am referring to a provider’s film/video that is publicly viewed as opposed to a provider's film/video that can only be viewed within the paid member’s area of her website.
2 patterns emerged:
A picture slide show set to epic or gripping music, with some flash effects; and
A film with a pretty female performing some variation of the following acts
Music begins. A melody of a sensual nature plays (perhaps another sub-standard rendition of Serge Gainsbourg's Je T'Aime that has been done to death).
Visuals set in. Pretty female sips champagne then places the glass on a candle lit table. She gracefully steps before a mirror and carefully applies her lipstick. She unfastens her sexy garter belt, slowly removes stockings from her beautiful, long legs. She glides over to the dimly lit bathtub filled with bubbles and covered in rose petals.
You know this film. We have seen it many times. Yes, of course, some are better than others which is a matter of personal taste.
It is no big surprise why the standard rule mandates videos under ninety seconds in length. It is because the mind wanders. The content we produce should be interesting enough to hold a viewer's attention with delight and sparking curiosity. If this cannot be accomplished regardless of the length of the video it would be unrealistic to expect outstanding results. Even more so, if the two or three minutes a particular person spends with us on screen are lackluster, how shall it feel for them when in person? You want to please your visitors, don't you? Will your visitor be enchanted? Desire your company again?
Do not be afraid. If your film is fun, creative, clever, and interesting it will be a success. Your new guest will be happy and so shall you. It's a win-win! Film is an honest tool that provides an insight as to who you are in a way that no photo gallery can ever accomplish.
During the time I spent researching the subject of video I was astonished by the number of these types of films that exist. Was everyone just copying one another? Why not be bold, stand out as an individual and make something different? These thoughts were a bit reminiscent of when I searched online for a webmaster. I encountered site after site that contained redundant graphics of limousines, champagne bottles and images of private aircraft plastered everywhere. You know those websites. I know you do!
Jump now to end of August, 2011. I must have visited every website that existed, eager to gather and understand all information readily available. There were moments when a self-induced brain bleed was about to occur. The instruction, pressure and stress collected along this venture were too much and were taking a toll on me.
Envisioning a horizon of financial sodomy taking shape is a spooky and disconcerting feeling
Before I knew it, September of 2011 appeared. Instinctively, I knew that it was time to film a video. I cannot explain what or why this happened but my intuition spoke to me. Suddenly, most of what I read, dissected, and deemed law was simply disregarded. Dismissed! I decided to take a chance. But not without fear! It was quite a gamble.
For a girl who chooses to cover her face and does not engage in x-rated behavior in front of a camera, this film had to somehow manage to entertain
I wanted to make a video with a story. Most importantly, it carried the handicap of needing to break my crippling cold spell. Here is how I did it:
Make it a story
Stories have titles. Films have titles. So do paintings. If you are going to put your work out into the world, please consider allowing the basic dignity of having a title. Doing so will breathe life into your work.
A professional film company's producer will want your storyboard in advance. Red alert if you are not asked! This way your director and camera person can position you best. The D.P. (or cinematographer) will have your specific lighting requirements prepared, any extra equipment and the like. This way your film's vision should be realistically met. Preparation of your crew and yourself will help to achieve the best results for your dollars spent.
After you have written your storyboard (in full wardrobe) rehearse and play out each move. It was surprising to learn that what I envisioned in my mind while writing the storyboard took on a completely different reality (of horror) when physically going through and playing out the script! By doing this, I saved some definite embarrassment!
Music
If you write your own film, then you should choose your own musical score. This process should have very little to do with your own day-to-day tastes in music. You must view this as a commercial process both for you and your online purposes. Therefore it's paramount to serve your audience and film first. Music sets an audible theme, mood and feeling to your video/film.Music carries the power to drag a mind down-tempo, abandoned to wander. The reverse is also true. The music you select can alter and provoke one's imagination, keeping viewers alert. Do not be afraid of the music! This can be a really long process, but when a well-selected track for your project is chosen, it will be of much aid. The music you chose does not need to be similar to what you would play while in an intimate situation. This I cannot stress enough.Kill the yoga music already.
Since I am based in New York City and the images on my website are of a Manhattan nightscape, I chose a track that was a bit dark, gritty, and had a repetitive beat. It coordinated well with my site and film.
Try this exercise: Watch “Claudia: Unconscious- Subconscious" in total silence. You will then understand immediately. The mind wanders! The feeling is different. Sure the transition scenes re-occurring in different colors are sort of visually catchy and the next-to-last scene when walking in the park does the trick, but if it had been set to the wrong musical track, most viewers would not have watched long enough to make it to that scene.
I choose to acquire music legally. There are so many websites that offer royalty free music. Just Google it. Some are free while others charge a fee to license. It's usually rather inexpensive to do so. Plus, it just isn't good form to steal works by musical artists, right?
The importance of an expert editor
Of all the things learned during the process of making “Claudia: Unconscious- Subconscious", this was by far the most important lesson. Acquiring an expert editor who is well versed in his/her trade is paramount. This is one of the major reasons why I choose to work with the team at Eros Films. Anyone can have miles and miles of pretty footage. But if it is not put together with surgeon-like precision, one runs a very high risk of a commercial that is totally ineffective. Period. What happens in the post production phase is serious stuff that will affect your bottom line. The editor is the person who puts your entire story together. Your motions and emotions become synchronized to the music and story. A great editor sees exactly where the sweet spots are in your taped footage. They know how to place those little (or grand) "flash" affects in the proper spot. They understand how to keep your audience's attention focused and mesmerized. The editor is the person who makes your film move.
The editor is the puppeteer and master of all your hard work
This applied talent will enhance the video. Done very well, it will add the necessary polish and continuity to your well thought out work. I am not speaking of complicated effects, just basic, yet intelligently applied visuals.
I have already proclaimed myself as your personal guinea pig, test pilot. For those of you who are serious, please remain with me for just one last example.
Remember that set in stone rule about keeping a promotional video under ninety seconds, tops? Here is the best example of the importance of a top-class editor. “Claudia: Unconscious- Subconscious" crushes that rule and leaves it in the dust. I'll never forget the September night when I was walking home and my blackberry rang. Yes, it was my editor calling, working late on my video:
Me, "Good evening. Everything alright?”
He, "Yes! Fantastic. The last draft is finished and I've sent you a private link to approve. Please watch it and then call me. Oh, by the way. It runs four minutes and forty-one seconds."
Me, "No! No, this cannot happen! It goes directly against everything I have read! Please, can't it be edited down further?"
He,."Stay calm." (laughing – while a feeling of utter sickness took over me) "It doesn't feel like four minutes and change. This video REALLY moves. You will be shocked. Just watch it then please call me, alright?"
Amazing film editors now have my full respect and admiration. Without their special talent a motion picture or video can become an expensive heap of absolutely nothing. Again, anyone can possess miles and miles of pretty, filmed footage.
If the person laboring on your behalf in the post-production phase does not care or understand what you are trying to convey about yourself, then all is lost. It's just that simple. I have zero interest in producing a mindless Claudia Cole vanity fest. I'm not here for that.
Video/film is a very powerful medium
The decision, commitment, and thought required to create something that is considered as memorable, sexy and unique can be a challenging undertaking. But don't skimp. Make your work with well-regarded professionals, or don’t bother. Your return on investment will be worth it. Trust me.
A great many like myself spend a well calculated portion of the money they earn to advertise in various ways. I come from a different school of thought.
I believe that if you treat people well they will come back to you
In other words, I am my own best advertisement. Therefore, it was a deliberate choice to challenge the standard molds and take a risk. Again, this was not accomplished without a lot of anxiety! Because still, what do I know? Honestly? Not much. Just what I have learned which is openly shared right here. That's about it.
I took a chance at the recommendation given by a beloved friend, a kind person who selflessly helped another girl – me. I now humbly pass along this information to you without filters, without apprehension. It is my sincere hope that by writing this rather lengthy (and boring) article, it will be of valuable purpose to someone. Prosperity breeds prosperity. There is enough success to go around for all.
Remember that vicious cold streak? I threw some intense fire on it and guess what? Let's just say that now things are pretty temperate over here at "Chateau Claudia."
Written by Guest Author & Elite Companion, Claudia Cole
"It seems that regular, non escort women in the dating world don't even bother screening a guy to make sure he is not an ax murderer before heading out to dinner with him" Guest Author Mrs. Robinson
Outside of my escort business, I’ve hardly dated much in years. As a single parent, I have dedicated myself to raising my daughter. I never brought men into my home nor did I bring the few men who I dated around my daughter. I have been committed to maintaining a stable environment for my child and making a solid living. Now that my daughter has grown up and moved out I have been thinking about dating again.
I wonder what other companions think of normal dating websites
Recently, I joined a popular dating site just looking to meet someone new, not trying to pick up clients. I posted a normal profile. Even though my profile states that I am not willing to meet with anyone until I get to know them online, 99% of the responses were 1 liners wanting to meet immediately for coffee, drinks or dinner. They were all evasive and wouldn’t engage in simple conversation while all claiming to want long term relationships.
I answered about 100 emails though it seemed like they were all losers
Even though my profile said I wasn't willing to date anyone that made less than 100 k a year, owned a home and had no debt the emails poured in, 225 within the first hour. I was at it for over 8 hours before I gave up and I wasn't even looking at their pictures anymore, just reading the emails and profiles before responding.
It seems that regular, non escort women in the dating world don't even bother screening a guy to make sure he is not an ax murderer before heading out to dinner with him. Do these women have no standards? As an escort, I screen all clients with whom I intend to meet. I do background checks and verify the man’s ID when we meet. Most importantly, I always let a friend know where I am going, with whom I am meeting and that I will touch base with them upon my return to ensure my personal safety.
These men don't even try to impress
They provide their handle and first name. They may tell you what they do for a living and then either want to chat or have you call them for an immediate meet up.
I don't understand why any woman would want to date a man who expects her to work and then come home to a second shift of taking care of him, the house and stroking his ego. These men act like they are entitled and that a man providing for a woman is a new concept.
Perhaps I am not ready to venture out into today's real dating world. But at least as an escort, I don't have to pick up their dirty socks in the morning.
Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Companion, Mrs. Robinson
Recently, when discussing a few issues related to my last Geisha Diaries article, "Escort Hobbyist Relationships", several intriguing questions were raised. They were evocative questions which really challenged me, particularly, as a punter, why I conduct myself in the manner in which I do. Written by Capital Punter
It was suggested that I explore these issues and questions in a follow up post, which I am only too happy to do here. I hope they will shed light into the preferences and practices of this particular English punter.
At the outset I wish to state, despite the inquisitive mind of the person who raised these questions, that I have absolutely no problem addressing such fundamental yet challenging and personal issues. As the old saying goes, "if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything!". Therefore, to take a step back and reappraise my own values once in a while is not such a bad thing!
"You described in emotionally intimate detail the nature of your companion relationships in such a way that is strikingly similar to conventional dating relationships. While there are many companions who do share special relationships with their clients, most of those relationships are limited in many facets and ultimately end. So, with all due respect, I was quietly asking myself, why does this man choose companionship?"
Some months ago, I took a generic look at this same issue on my own blog in an article entitled, "Why punt, why not date?". In this article, I considered many of the reasons why some may choose to punt, a few of which related directly to me. I also explored some of the alternatives to punting and to the conventional dating relationships.
In short, it is as simple as a lifestyle choice. Like so many, I have very demanding work and personal schedules and cannot always commit the time I would like not only to a personal relationship but also to a social life where I may form such attachments.
The reason I choose companions who provide closer, more intimate experiences is because I find the purported "girlfriend experience" to sometimes be cold and sterile
"Seems that you choose to include or even require many of the intricacies in companionship that are reminiscent of conventional relationships which are the very characteristics that many hobbyists look to avoid.”
This is very true! I do admit that I seek a deeper level of companionship and intimacy that many punters may not. However, we are all different. I prefer an all-round, natural relationship that is conducted on a professional basis, with no strings attached. Such an understanding keeps both parties clear of where we stand and what we seek from the relationship.
I am under no illusion that these assertive criteria by which I search for ideal companions have made me much more discerning about my choices. This probably accounts for why I have experienced so many challenges.
The fact that I use the plural "companions" further illustrates my lifestyle preference as I enjoy engaging the company of a variety of ladies, albeit a fairly small group
For me it is all about having great experiences without any issues. This causes me to be very selective. I will only see ladies with whom I share the same aspirations, outlook, desires and who enjoy operating the way I prefer to do so.
"Why not put forth the same effort in a conventional relationship? Does paid companionship yield a convenient sense of control, a sense of empowerment?"
This was a very challenging question for me. Although I am very clear about my feelings, it did cause me to explore my motives on a deeper level in an effort to be perfectly clear in my own mind.
The first part is simple. As I talked about earlier, dating companions is a lifestyle choice. Whether others disagree is a moral argument to be addressed in another post. However, Ionly act in a responsible, dignified and deferential manner, so I feel that I have far higher morals than some would expect.
I definitely do not punt for any form of control or empowerment
Indeed, my main requirement of a successful meeting with a companion is that she enjoys the date at least as much, if not more than I do. More often than not, I like my companion to choose where and when we meet and what we do on the date. I do not request particular attire or services and I prefer that the lady set the pace. Now that does not sound like control or empowerment to me, does it to you?
The companions I know well enjoy this closeness as much as I do
I do not coerce anyone into any particular behavior or activity. If they enjoy the intimacy and connection that I enjoy then that is fine. If not, I do not push it. But I do tend to see those companions who share my outlook. I have met several ladies who say they do enjoy this unique type of companionship.
I do not know if my views or modus operandi sound eccentric or immoral to other hobbyists, companions or folks outside of the escort – hobby world. However, as I talked about at the start, we are all different and seek different things. I do know that companions will have their "favorite" clients with whom they share a close affinity.
As long as we all engage in a safe, healthy and mutually respectful manner, I believe we can learn about ourselves and discover those special companions and create priceless memories.
Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author and Punter, Capital Punter
"Is it possible for a British punter or an American hobbyist to actually maintain a friendship with a companion or escort?" Guest Author, Capital Punter
I’ve heard it is quite unusual in America, but I do know escorts in the U.S. who are good friends with hobbyists. However, I would have to say it is uncommon for a companion to be on close terms with a punter in the United Kingdom.
Based upon my personal research, striking a punter and escort friendship requires two people who are on the same wave length and share the same level of trust and openness
The very nature of an escort/client relationship thrives upon discretion, each side defining their personal boundaries and threshold of trust. To reach the point where one can fully trust someone else takes time and will vary for every party. Reciprocal trust is beyond our control, except for engendering it by our actions.
There have been numerous occasions when I have felt a close affinity to a companion
Our interests and tastes resembled, our outlooks matched and we enjoyed each other's company immensely. However, the relationships did not last. Maybe it was because we did not share common ground on every level where there was absolute trust and complete tolerance of each other. In my opinion, that’s when the relationships ended. Many of the dynamics of escort hobbyist relationships run parallel to those relationships that we experience in our personal lives whether with wives, girlfriends or lovers. However, in the context of the escort and client interaction, I appreciate that one must maintain a measured degree of distance to preserve one's own anonymity while respecting that of the other as well.
Revealing myself
It takes a great deal of time and many meetings to feel that I want to lower my barriers completely. Whilst I feel I am a fair judge of character, I have made too many mistakes in this area to feel that I can trust my judgment at all times. Therefore, I have to be convinced that I am doing the right thing in being candid. When I have done so, it has normally been in response to a companion having already been very open and accepting of me.
Striking the right balance
In any relationship, there is a fine balance to be achieved between being too open and being too distant. I find that if there is not even a basic, fundamental level of trust that develops after seeing someone many times over a long period, the relationship will not last. By the same token, I never wish to pry into a companion’s private affairs, so I will not ask personal questions. However, I make it clear that it is not due to a lack of interest in her as a person but rather a desire to be modest and respectful. I am forthright about myself to a degree that I feel the relationship warrants. If my companion reciprocates, I am more open. If she is reserved, I tend to hold back and this dance limits the longevity of the relationship.
I know two companions very well. We know everything about each other. There are no secrets and where we can discuss anything. Indeed, I have told them things about myself I have never told even my family or closest friends and they have disclosed things to me in total confidence as well. The interesting point with each lady is that they confided in me before I revealed myself. Now we email or text daily and speak on the phone between meetings. Our meetings are always pre-arranged to conform to our personal schedules.
Our trust in each other must be absolute
Probably the most touching facet of this form of intimacy came recently during an unfortunate incident I experienced with another companion whom I thought I knew well (see what I said about my personal judgment?!). Both ladies called to check on my well being and both made it clear how they would like to stay in touch even if I decide to retire from the hobby. This meant so much to me on a fundamental level, "a friend in need" and all that. In fact, had it not been for them, I would not have written this story.
I firmly believe that an escort and client relationship should be mutually respectful
In all of our interactions in life, the degree of respect which we exhibit and with which we are afforded will determine the strength and direction of the relationship.I never coerce anyone to disclose anything they do not wish to share but it is still all about meeting half way. I cannot be open and totally accepting of someone if I am regarded with suspicion, doubt or lack of trust in return. As I mentioned earlier, things take time, of course. If I am not compelled to reciprocate, I will not prolong the acquaintance.
My companion friendships are very close because they are based upon mutual respect and trust
This is primarily because quite literally, know each other very intimately. Each has blossomed over quite a long time into what we enjoy now, as any true relationship evolves and cannot be forced, but also has to be nurtured by both sides void of alterior motives. As a result, all of our meetings are sheer pleasure. I enjoy sharing different experiences with each and discussing things we would like to share, even outside of the bedroom too. Are such experiences really so rare? I do not know, as I have only my own experiences from which to draw upon and the anecdotal opinions of others.
I have relished truly touching stories shared by other escorts, so I in no way regard myself as unique. I know many companions who have some wonderful clients and share intensely personal moments together. Readers probably have their own definitions and experiences to consider. These are mine and I believe such friendships are quite possible and there is nothing inherently wrong with them. The fact that most companions I know say they have their “special clients” corroborates my point of view.
Is this unique to the UK scene? I have no idea, but I believe not, based on what I have heard from companions overseas.
"Working in the adult industry, especially when you are an independent provider, is an isolated lifestyle disconnected from common culture" Phone Sex Secrets
I began escorting at an agency. I went to sit with the other girls on each of my shifts rather than waiting at home for my pager to buzz (yes, it was pagers back then!). I went not because the agency was centrally located but for the company. What began as a means to learn the ropes of the sex worker industry quickly became a desire for camaraderie. Even when I developed a number of regulars, I still wanted to make sure I had some time to hang out with my sex work sisters. Decades later, I'm only more aware of that need.
On the average, folks don’t accept sex work. Our families, whether innate or married and our friends all have reasons why we ought not subject them to our choice of occupation. This forces the necessity for sex workers to lead double lives.
While our silence may begin as a gift to those we love, at some point it becomes a gag. Even the most sex positive and open minded friends really can't grasp what we do. Existing long enough without a support system who can listen, commiserate and really comprehend what our days are like can lead to feeling misunderstood, unappreciated and unaccepted. These emotions can lead to deeper feelings of depression, resentment and withdrawal.
Our careers themselves add to the isolation. We grow wary of being ousted, unsure of who to trust. How long will they be in this work? Who do they know?And, truth be told, we are a competitive lot, especially if we are independent professionals. We have to be because we are in competition with one another in many ways, at least in terms of separating ourselves from the rest of the pack. Even the ease and affordability of the internet and other digital technologies render us more alone most of the time. The results are that we don't wish to share too much about our private lives, our professional experience or knowledge, ourselves, winding up even more entrenched in our state of seclusion.
I'm sure many readers are acutely aware of these feelings of isolation in their personal lives. But some may silently suffer from more and more burn out, summing it up to demands of the job. While sex work is far more demanding than most people realize, it's not the only factor in losing interest. In fact, it's only half of the equation. The other half is a good support system.
The more demanding the sex work is, the greater the need is for a support system. But how do you find or create one in the sometimes harsh and difficult circumstances of sex work?
Forums and online groups for escorts, PSOs (phone sex operators) and other sex professionals are good places to start. Even forums for erotica authors can be welcoming places, especially when you dabble in offering custom erotica. Often, however, you'll find yourself avoiding personal and professional questions alike in these online communities -- for all the reasons mentioned earlier. (I always do recommend exercising cautioninonline communities.) At least that's likely how you'll feel at the start.
Over time you'll find yourself conversing more regularly with a few people, hopefully building a virtual friend or two. Virtual friends help, of course! But even if you want to meet, schedules, etc. may not allow for it. At least not as often as you'll need.
Another way to begin building a support system for yourself is by getting out into the world meeting other people who work in the adult industry. One of the best ways to do this, honestly, is to get involved in some sort of activism. I, naturally, recommend joining some sort of groupworking for sex workers rights, or at least asex-positive organization. Not only because I believe working towards an end to the stigmas of sex and sex work will lead to less isolated lives for each of us as individuals, but because when you do "out" yourself as a sex worker, you're likely to be understood andrespected. Plus, working towards a goal larger than yourself gives you a healthy dose of perspective.
You can always begin by forming an online alliance or virtual working relationship before participating in any real world gathering. And, if you are worried about being identified in your home town or base of operations, locate groups with meetings and events you can attend but which are not in your own town.
Another place to look for like minded folks in similar situations is at the book signings and readings of works by erotica editors and human sexuality authors. I find there are always a great number of sex workers in attendance at these events and the bigger the name of the author or editor, the bigger the crowds. Start following some of the most recognized names in these publishing genres (which often is just plain good sense for business, anyway), and you'll soon find yourself sipping drinks with folks with similar issues in their lives.
College and university campuses also have forums and events centered on sexual topics, from lectures and workshops, to screening of adult films and documentaries. There are even places online where you can find or start "meet ups" for sex workers. Don't look for clients at these events; but you can find friends.
Most of these events, especially those on campus and book related, are most commonly held in larger cities. Escorts and companions who travel might find this is the best of both worlds: out and about socially yet not in your home town. But smaller towns have them too. Just like sex workers, sex positive events and folks are out there. You just have to go looking for them.
"I've come to see cross-dressing as one part of a multifaceted continuum of lingerie fetish" A Slip of a Girl
A true sexual fetish requires the object, in this case lingerie, to be present. But there are plenty who consider themselves lingerie fetishists, even if they can achieve arousal and satisfaction without it. This might be a simple starting point in the continuum:
Men who love lingerie
They see it more than just a wrapping to discard as quickly as the paper covering a holiday gift. They want to experience it as part of the woman. Quite often, these lingerie fetishists want the lingerie to be part of the sex acts, whether it’s included in foreplay or part of the main course. It could be as simple as being stroked by the hem of a slip, leaving panties on during sex, or being masturbated to orgasm with the skirt of a nightgown.
The lingerie fetish may also be combined with other interests such as Dominance and submission
in which they desire to spank or otherwise dominate a woman in traditional or classic lingerie (girdles, garters, stockings and the like). Frankly, the lingerie fetish can be combined with just about all other fetishes, taboos and fantasies. From there, the continuum itself (not necessarily any man) may progress to wearing lingerie
Panties are usually the most common garment
This may only be for the sensual experience of the fabrics, or it may even progress into the taboo of wearing women's undergarments. This is called cross-dressing (CD).
Strictly speaking, cross-dressing is when a person of one gender wears the clothing, underclothing and/or fashion accessories most commonly associated with another gender
In Western cultures where women can freely wear pants and other items of "male" clothing, the term cross-dressing most frequently refers to men wearing women's clothing. (Cross-dressing doesn't need to have a sexual component, but here I'm discussing cross-dressing in terms of sex work and human sexuality.)
For many cross-dressing men, there's a thrill in just wearing a piece of women's intimate apparel merely because it's not considered masculine
The sensual delights enhance the awareness of wearing it and when combined with the forbidden nature of the act, it can be quite powerful. Yet, for many other cross-dressers there is more.
It's important to note that the majority of cross-dressing men are not gay or transsexual
Most of them wouldn't consider themselves bisexual or bi-curious either. They dislike seeing photos of men in drag, preferring to view images of women in lingerie and inserting themselves, figuratively or literally, in her shoes for the time being. They want to feel feminine, even be treated as female for periods of time, but they do not identify as female in terms of their own gender. Nor do they love or lust after men not even if and when they dress completely as a woman and give themselves a female name. It really is more of a form of cross play or role play, in which they like to play the part of the woman -- as they define it. (This can be a tricky area for manywomen who are in relationships with cross-dressers, and one of the many reasons professional services are sought.) There are a great number of cross-dressers who wish to engage in fantasies or professional services for the girl-on-girl action with themselves as one of the girls, yet eventually climaxing in more traditionally male ways.
Most sissy maids strongly identify as submissive and wish to serve a dominant female
A cross-dressing man may be even further along the continuum, in what many prefer to call "the role of the sissy." Sissies and sissy maids typically are those cross-dressing men who like to role play as if they were female, including serving women and being used by men. In this role, they desire to participate in power exchanges based on their sexual ideals of gender roles; anything from pegging to spankings and other physical punishments, from emotional punishments such as humiliation to servicing other men. This includes being used by or "whored out" as a "sissy slut" to other men.
The definition of "sissy" and the fantasy acts themselves vary wildly based on the individual's stereotypes of what it means to be female, their ideas of submission, and just about any other sexual interests, fetishes and fantasies you can think of. Clearly this is not a one-size-fits-all area of sexuality.
Approaching a lingerie fetishist as a sissy, treating a cross-dresser as a gay man or threatening a sissy with a spanking paddle can incur disastrous results!
It's vital for the professional sex worker, be it an escort, phone sex operator, BDSM professional, et al, to note all the subtle and not-so-subtle differences in this lingerie fetish continuum. Any professional wishing to work successfully with clients in these areas must learn how to identify the individual needs and fantasies of each specific client in order to satisfy them.
Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Lingerie Fetishist, A Slip of a Girl
Geisha Diaries caught up with one of our Guest Authors, Butterfly Sugar, who wrote the article, “Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby” back in March, 2011. She is an elegant, well-written and self-professed, chocolate-dipped sugar baby. We asked her to share her insight and knowledge about successfully pursuing the sugar baby lifestyle. Here is her advice:
These are the primary features when drawing a sugar daddy to your advertisement, curious to see more of you and know what you are all about.
Use your own photos. Do not use someone else's images. Eventually, you will meet your potential sugar daddy and will have wasted your time and his by falsifying your identity with someone else’s pictures.
If you do not want to show face in your photos, crop them from the lips down. This way he can see your pretty smile or sexy pout along with the shape of your body.
Your profile should display at least 3 basic looks: the little black dress (or equivalent) to show how nice you look in chic to semi formal attire; a headshot (personality radiates through a smile); a fun, lifestyle shot (such as a swimsuit, playing with your dog or walking along the beach)
Photos that depict careless partying or drinking will discount any persona and should be avoided.
2.Structuring your ad
Avoid sounding desperate or whining like a down & out country song
Don’t use cliche' words such as spoiled, high maintenance ordrama free
When describing your looks, create a vivid, detailed picture. Which sounds better? "I have brown skin" or "I have silky, smooth, milk chocolate skin"?
www.thesaurus.com should become your best friend. Using repetitive words (i.e., fun, generous, spoiled) gets monotonous. Make a little effort and discover some unique words or phrases to express the same meanings.
Explain your objective: you need to pay off your student loans; you would like to start a business, etc.
Run everything through a spell check before posting your ad. Simple spelling and grammatical errors can be a turn off to the well appointed gentleman.
Refrain from using "adult worker" terminology. It won’t get you very far.
The lady looks nothing like her pictures. Either she is using outdated photos or photos from 20 lbs ago or those of a different person all together.
There are a lot of women who feature themselves as mail order brides whose objectives are for the gentleman to pay their way to America.
Men do not like to think that the sugar babies they are meeting are escorts. Whether or not they themselves see providers is beside the point. Post different photos than those used for your escort ads or sites as they can be run through Tineye and come back to haunt you.
Many ladies are cold, detached and only care about money. Despite how you may feel, you should be amiable, charming, patient and kind. You will truly benefit from these traits.
4. Do your research – learn as much as you can about your potential sugar daddy beforehand
Utilize Google or any other search engine by inputting as much information as you can to investigate your potential sugar daddy.
Tineye verifies the authenticity of a photo. Some men use pictures from their business websites which is another way of discovering more about them.
Pipl is a great source for gathering in depth information
Reverse phone number lookup is quite useful in determining the authenticity of your potential sugar daddy and can provide a lot of insight.
5. Watch out for the losers
Test Drive Dude - this is the guy who wants to test the goods so that he knows what he is getting into. You are not a car so there is no kicking the tires beforehand. There are a lot of men who prey on the naivete of women, coercing them to have sex on the premise that they will give them something. Another one is the guy who tries to pay per orgasm. Oh yes, ladies, there are those guys out there.
Time Waster/Email Buddy - this guy will have plenty of time to email you numerous times a day but magically never have time to meet with you. He wants emotional support that he is not getting elsewhere and utilizes the promise of meeting you to falsely fulfill those needs.
Flakes - unfortunately, there are a lot of guys who will chat with you, schedule a date but never show up. Follow your instinct on how serious you think they are and request that they call or email on the day of your date to confirm.
Photo Collector - I post only 2 or 3 photos on my profile. I do not post in my private gallery because I find that doing so attracts a lot of perverts who sift through the website looking for ladies with private photos hoping they can see some tits and ass. Those same guys do not plan on speaking or meeting you. I stay away from men who ask to see more photos. Instead, I suggest that we meet in person if they would like to see more.
Text Message Phone Sex - this guy push the sexual boundaries before you ever meet. He is yet another guy just looking to get his rocks off.
Mr. "Promise you the World" - don't get hypnotized by a pretty song. If it sounds like bullshit he is feeding you, it is bullshit. Female intuition is key.
Setup a brand new individual email for online sugar dating. An email address can be tracked and if you’ve used it for anything personal your information can be leaked.
Written by Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries
"So, to do it right, you really need a guy who is so confident that he'll go face to face with another dude while you're sandwiched in between, getting fucked senseless." Guest Author Jessica Rivers
I used to be a jet setting T girl, traveling like a nomad between an endless array of cities, meeting all kinds of interesting people. But as the economy continues to drag and my travels decline, I appreciate the simpler things in life such as doing laundry. Today is incall cleaning day. Stephanie's been away from home for a while, so I've had to maintain both our home and the incall.
Girls who I work with call me The Security Bitch and they mean it in a good way
I used to work with this fabulous blonde spinner chick, Amy. She introduced me to group sex and had more security holes than Windows2000. I was always riding that girl's ass about something. She would give away the address of the incall randomly and then leave the door open when expecting a guest. She did not use an alias. And she would drop off the laundry at the same local dry cleaner, every week.
Security means maintaining a low profile by remaining conscientious of those around you and protecting your privacy, something Amy had no clue about
One evening, we stopped to pick up the laundry at the cleaners. The owner, a woman, silently glared at Amy as she requested her laundry. In the car, Amy shrieked about people's biased opinions. “Listen,” I explained to her carefully, “every week you walk in to the same cleaners, clicking your stilettos, strutting in your short skirt and drop off 6 sets of bedding, numerous facecloths, thongs, bikinis and lingerie. What kind of impression are you giving this woman?” (I mean, I totally appreciate my slutty lifestyle, but I have to keep in mind that regular folk might not be amused.)
Truthfully, this girl was addicted to cock
So here I sit in a laundromat, cleaning several comforters and thinking about the other thing that Amy got me hooked on – group sex. Gangbangs. Tag teaming. Threesomes. Whatever you want to call it - a nice series of cocks filling all my holes.These group sessions were really just an excuse for a Sunday afternoon gangbang and to score big in the course of three hours. She would set aside the last Sunday of each month from 3-6pm as a group session. Essentially, this meant that you shared your appointment with whoever else was there. Usually it was her and one other girl and I was the hostess. I greeted guests at the door, served drinks, snacks and kept order. (Security Bitch, remember?) I also wore a scanty, French maid outfit. It was perfect!
Of course no one fucked me, on the record at least, though I ended up administering a few random blowjobs toward the end of the party
I have to say, I really do enjoy giving a guy a blowjob while his buddy is in the next room fucking my friend. And all the while, he's telling me,“ you have to keep this a secret” and “you can't tell my buddy” and “my God, you're so hot”. I love that mix, a guy so torn by his need to have me suck his cock that he can't resist, despite his buddy being there, so he pulls me away for a discreet quickie in the bathroom when he thinks no one can see. Absolutely mischievous!
Amy was a machine. That girl could outlast anyone in the bedroom. It was a lot of fun and a lot of money. It definitely gave me a taste for gangbangs. My clients know that I always keep porn running on the laptop next to my bed and most of it lately is just group sex and a lot of it.
So first, a gangbang guy must be secure in his sexuality
One of the most common things a hobbyist will say to me after they say they want to come to my gangbang is, “well, these other dudes, they're not going to be looking at my junk, right”? I just shake my head sadly, “No, no one's looking at your junk. But it is a gangbang.”
Gangbang guys must have no problem sharing a girl (or a Tgirl) with a stranger or a friend
It's odd for most guys. What gets more bazaar is when you start getting into double penetration and all of the really fun gangbang stuff because then you need a guy willing to fuck you with a stranger and also get up close with the other guy while they both mount you. Not to mention that their dicks might touch during the whole process. So, to do it right, you really need a guy who is so confident that he'll go face to face with another dude while you're sandwiched inbetween getting fucked senseless. And then, for an encore, flip you around and trade. That's not just any dude. It's a super dude, a super gangbang dude. And there aren't that many of them. Never mind several at a time. And ones that will do a Tgirl? Even more rare.
You see, people are so in love with the idea of a gangbang that the reality is always more uncomfortable.
My last attempt at gangbangage was about 6 months ago in Dallas. This time I ran a few ads and even told the people replying that I was an escort and that this was how I played in my free time. (It never hurts to do a little marketing for solo sessions while I'm at it). Out of 50 respondents, 30 returned my contact, 10 of whom called, 7 who then agreed to meet and only 1 scared douche bag name Eric showed up.
I will always meet a date at a local coffee shop initially and then we drive over to my incall location
As disappointed as I was that there was only one guy, hardly a gangbang of any kind, I always keep my word: He was way out of his league and terrified as a result. I think he hoped that I wouldn't show up at all. Suddenly, it turns out that I'm not only for real, but that I'm his all alone simply because no one else showed up. I’m afraid it was too much for him.
The sex was even worse. His manhood was cursed in shape and size and he came in less than 2 minutes he was so nervous. I went into the bathroom to change back into my street clothes so he could drive me back to the coffee shop. Instead, he literally bolted out the door and was gone before I even knew what happened. I was stranded at the incall until midnight when a friend was finally able to pick me up.
And that's what this Tgirl thinks about while she sits in the laundromat today
getting ogled by an Asian dude who seems to think his sneakers are impressive and some grand black chick with a chip on her shoulder for skinny white bitches. The foamy water swirling around in my five washing machines is super hot, the strong bleach smell screams disinfected. I watch the occasional thong dart past the window and think about gangbangs past and future and the lack of a few good men.
Written by Jessica Rivers, TGirl and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries
"It is now October 2011, Breast Cancer Awareness Month and I have been here in Atlanta by Eric’s side caring for Irina for more than a year" Guest Author, Vincent William
In my previous military career I became very close with a fellow Special Operations Officer named Eric. He became the brother I never had. We worked a two-man team in the back alleys of Baghdad and Kabul gathering intelligence for NATO operations. I spoke the language and did the talking. His job was to watch my back in the presence of menacing people which he did with expert skill since I am alive and well to write this story.
Upon leaving the service we took different paths. I became a male companion which he knew about and supported
He went into the business world as an IT professional and built a life with his wonderful wife Irina whom I regard as a sister.
He revealed that his wife Irina’s cancer which had been in remission had returned with a vengeance
During one of our weekend phone talks in October 2010, Eric called while I was working in Dallas, Texas. His voice was thick with anguish and he began to weep. Alarmed, I demanded that he tell me what was the matter and how I could help. I knew of her cancer and was devastated to hear of its recurrence.
Eric’s job demands grueling travel, five days per week. That strain compounded by Irina’s need for round-the-clock care was driving him toward a heart attack. I cut him off mid-sentence and said “I am on my way. I’ll be there in one week”. I closed my apartment, gave away my furniture and drove to their home in Atlanta.
I knew the whole story of how Eric and Irina met, fell in love and married
Eric is of Russian descent and during a leave period from our stressful military assignments he went to Moscow to see the city of his late grandparents who raised him. Like any man might, he sought the caress of a woman while in Moscow and in the bar of his hotel met Irina working as an escort.
In previous years Irina had been one of Moscow’s top escorts
She led an elite lifestyle, wearing designer gowns courted by wealthy Russian and European men from upper echelons of society who would jet her to meet them in exotic locations all over the world. With her light, blond hair, striking Slavic features, confident manner and delicious figure she turned the heads of passers by as she displayed the sexiest of attire. Unfortunately, at the height of her escort career, she was diagnosed with breast cancer and fell increasingly ill, losing grip of appointments and appearance. Her assets dwindled and soon she was forced to turn to an unsavory escort service. The service worked her mercilessly, draining most of her fees. They eroded her self-esteem, conditioning her that as an afflicted whore, she was fortunate that they had hired her.
Irina's once stunning appearance had been eaten away by the cancer and she was now reduced to performing sordid acts for mere pittance
The miracle of Eric and Irina's meeting gave birth to a beautiful love affair of passion and deep commitment. By then, Irina had undergone a double-mastectomy and was confined to enticing clients to oral sex only, desperately hoping that her condition would not be discovered. However, on the evening that they met she looked into Eric’s eyes and compassionate, loving heart and told him about her heartbreaking tragedy. It did not matter to him the least bit as Eric displayed the mark of a real man. They became one. Later, they migrated to Germany where they were married. I carried the honor of being Eric’s best man at their small and intimate wedding. Afterward, they moved to the States.
It is now October 2011, Breast Cancer Awareness Month and I have been here in Atlanta by Eric’s side caring for Irina for more than a year
While Eric is away during the week, I take her to all doctor appointments, prepare her medically mandated diet and hold her after her chemotherapy sessions with the resulting bouts of nausea and migraine headaches. I schedule all my escort and companion appointments around her needs and awake two to three times per night to check and monitor her condition. Each time I take her to the doctor, she tells the entire staff that she is so fortunate to have two husbands. This always raises brows but I just love to hear her giggle about it like a little girl.
Ironically, just as I complete writing this story, Eric called to happily announce that his transfer to Atlanta was finally approved and he will be able to work locally and be with his beloved Irina each night. After that I will be moving on and if you asked me if I would do it all again? The answer is an unequivocal yes.
Written by Vincent William, Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Ladie's Companion
"Witch, dyke, whore, bitch, mother, sister, daughter and friend with a vagina who may or may not choose to sell it, lend it, lease it or give it away as after all, it is ours, isn’t it? Then why am I still made to feel that I only possess it for the pleasure and profit of others?" Ms. Grey
I have been in this industry for six years and my learning curve has been steep and quick. I went from an independent Dominatrix to one who owned a small dungeon with many women working for me. From there I guess you could say I became a Madame (had I been born a man the term ‘entrepreneur’ would not be held in question), then Tantra Priestess and Temple leader. Not only have I learned much about human nature, men, women, the industry and myself, I have become a sort of arm chair lawyer as well. I needed to learn the laws by which I dodged and what better way than by observing the follies of others? So far I have crept stealthily through this minefield of misspeak and ossification because I am keenly aware that I am prey. Prey to the hypocrisy of men and women alike, prey to the willful ignorance of humans who remain blind to the troubles of a failing nation.
Women as usual, are silently paying the price
By now I am sure you have realized that America plays a rigged game. Men, global elitists, greedy sods, whatever you want to call them have royally fucked up a good thing. Witch, dyke, whore, bitch, mother, sister, daughter and friend with a vagina who may or may not choose to sell it, lend it, lease it or give it away as after all, it is ours, isn’t it? Then why am I still made to feel that I only possess it for the pleasure and profit of others? If we don't have full legal rights to our own body to use it as we see fit, why are we not fighting this? We won't be pretty forever and when it ends as all good things do, where is your place in the world, the world we help create by our passivity? Our benign indifference and self denial is criminal when we witness others who fall around us like the rabbits in Watership Down. Many of us in fact are criminals. At least in the invasive and pitiless gaze of the omnipotent colossus thing we allowed to come into being called, our government. Sometimes ignoring pressing matters into non existence simply does not work. I used to be able to do it with prescription drugs when I could afford benefits.
I have become increasingly outraged regarding the controlling behavior of our government regarding women's sexuality
If I am not mistaken I sense a sea change when it comes to the new breed of women who either choose or who are forced to choose for the time being, to work in this industry. They have achieved higher education, are more articulate and possess more progressive marketing skills. Some are true entrepreneurs with a raw sense of grit, such as Dr Brooke Magnanti, Sydney Biddle Barrows, Heidi Fleiss and Deborah Jeane Palfrey -who everyone knows were murdered by our government to protect clients. I admire them greatly.
Many of these women and others who go unnamed, are instrumental in slowly changing the perceptions of society regarding being a paid companion. In the tradition of all great courtesans, they both reflect and encourage their current times. The greats are always misunderstood, coveted, desired and hunted. And so it still is today. I put the presently tormented Tracy Elise of The Phoenix Goddess Temple by our ever creepier misogynist government in a different category altogether. However her plight is the same. Go to the Phoenix Goddess Temple to read about this perfect outrage. To take action is your own choice of course.
And this venture is new. In order to create the myth, we need a united front and it starts with women's willingness to be part of a new solution. If we truly want to reap the benefits of a feminist, provocative and lucrative site for women I think we should try and suspend our cynicism and wait out the growing pains. If we all loath review boards and so on, here is a perfect opportunity to create the reality we want.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with Geisha Affair wanting to prosper from all their hard work. Why is this something that should be resented? They are women just like us who wish to have some financial security. I would much prefer to pay them versus these male owned, smug pimps who make more money off of us than we do ourselves. I think it should be a challenge to usurp these bloated and ineffectual dinosaurs. I realize that Geisha Affair is in its infancy and I for one am willing to invest in it as I am curious and hopeful about the outcome.
Attracting the clients is a doubled edged sword because it means we need to pander to their egos and that could lead to a dilution of our original intent. I guess you could do as some have suggested which is for Geisha Affair to send out private invites to male posters to attract them here. My concern is it will foster the same environment like those that I have witnessed in the past on other familiar websites, an incestuous, competitive group who cannibalize one another until all are disgusted or bored and they disband.
In any event, for now I am a believer and I believe that I am betting on a potentially successful venture.
Written by Ms. Grey, Tantra Goddess and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries
"As a provider, running your own business is quite similar to maintaining a healthy diet & exercise plan. There are certain well known steps to achieving your physical goals. The same steps can be applied toward growing your business" Executive Luxuries
The key to a successful weight-loss plan is to have a goal. Any personal trainer will advise you to target something more specific than just losing weight. The same applies to your provider business. Identifying an incentive will help fuel that goal:
seeking financial independence
buying a new car
going to college
going from an independent provider to an agency owner and working behind the scenes
earning a healthy income and using the funds to travel the world
starting the art/dance studio you’ve always dreamed of
As a independent provider in the adult industry, you are actually an entrepreneur, whether you realize it or not
It's time to start thinking like one. Any successful, small business owner has not only established goals but visibly identified them in detail. As small children, we all had dreams and aspirations of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Ask any child what they dream of and they’ll spend the next 10 minutes describing those dreams in vivid description. If you are serious about your business, you need to be specific about your goals. Doing so will make your goals attainable, turning your dreams into a reality. But you must write them down on paper.
As a provider and small business owner, constructing a plan in essential
Whenever you set out on a road trip, vacation or even a full day of shopping you always have a plan. Your business is much more important and all the more reason to identify a plan. Ask yourself:
Who is your target market?
Who do you want to meet? Are you looking for the fun, easygoing type? Or are you more interested in the smart and savvy businessman? Are you looking to unleash your inner kink and incorporate girl-on-girl sessions? Profile your clientele and adjust your marketing & advertising plan to appeal to the needs of each segment (i.e., do your photos appeal to bisexual women if girl-on-girl sessions are your thing? Does your bio speak to the self-employed 50-something business man? Are your donations priced too high or too low?)
What are your hours of operation?
Plan when you’re going to work, how early you will begin taking appointments and how late in the day you will take your last client. Consider how many hours a day you will be available and what specific hours you will answer your phone. When scheduling your outcall, pad into your day travel time to and from your hotel. If you are a touring companion who enjoys sightseeing, tack an extra day onto your agenda dedicated solely to personal time. Do not sandwich your personal schedule into your work day. Disaster will result.
Where will you offer your services?
Will you operate from an incall or an outcall? How many daily appointments will you take with breaks inbetween? Will you meet your clients at the door of your hotel suite, in the lobby or perhaps at the bar? Research and stake out in advance the hotel where you’ll be staying: Is it card key access only? How heavy is the foot traffic? Can you meet discreetly with clients while maximizing your time and potential earnings without attracting attention to yourself? Favorably answering all of these critical details spells success.
Recognize when your plan doesnt work
One of the most critical components to any business plan is having the ability to recognize when it's not yielding results. Many people make no effort to change their plans despite numerous failures. If Weight Watchers didn’t work, you might try Jenny Craig or Atkins. We’ve all tried a myriad of diet plans only to replace one with another when results were fruitless. Why shouldn’t the same logic apply to your business? If your business plan isn’t working, then it’s time to revamp the strategy or create a new one. If you can recognize that your business plan needs to be replaced, you will arrive one step closer to achieving your goals.
Consistency is key
Like any exercise plan consistency pays off. Build into your calendar time set aside daily to assess the needs of your business and recognize any necessary adjustments. Exercising a couple of times a month isn’t going to get you the tone, lean body that you long for. But dedicating a few hours every day of every week will reward you with the physique that you deserve. Treat your business no differently. As a provider, your business doesn’t have to control your life. It is simply a means to an end, a valuable tool of success. Remember that you have invested yourself in this venture in order to achieve the type of financial and personal freedom to which few are privy. With consistency, it can be done.
Maintaining consistency of your business lends to client’s understanding of your boundaries – what’s acceptable and what isn’t. People will try to cross the line only if they believe they can get away with it. Remaining steadfast in your position will solidify your reputation, diminishing the need to have to justify your decisions.
Rest is imperative in any lucrative business
In our humble opinion it’s even more important in the companion world. You need to maintain equilibrium between body, mind and soul and that comes with rest. If you become over fatigued, you’ll eventually grow cynical toward your business. Like your muscles when you exercise, you need to give yourself time to recuperate. A trainer will have you take regular short breaks. The same applies to your business. Don’t over exert yourself working 24/7 for months on end. Exhaustion will adversely impact how you feel about yourself, your clients and your lifestyle whether or not you think you can disguise it.
We suggest taking regular short breaks. In a 6 day work week it’s a good idea to take off one weekday, preferably your slowest day of the week. In doing so, you'll have more time to take care of things like going to the doctor’s office or visiting your attorney without the pressure of having to cancel or reschedule appointments.
Surround yourself with support
Like any good exercise plan your emotional and mental well being are key. A trainer will advise you to surround yourself with positive people who strive toward similar goals so that you can lean on them and resist cheating with a huge slice of cheesecake. As a provider, the same applies. Life as an escort can be a very lonely career path despite the number of people with whom you interact. Drama prevails not only on the member’s only provider boards but also with clients. You need to have someone in your corner with whom you can relate who understands your professional lifestyle.
Working with an assistant is a great way to balance your work and personal life
Finding someone you can trust to help manage tedious, time consuming, day-to-day communications creates more personal time for you. You can now take time to do regular stuff like getting your nails done, running neglected errands, attending your kid's soccer game and meeting your girlfriends for drinks. For those ladies in a relationship, never underestimate a man’s sensitivity to your lack of time. Go out on a date night and focus on your personal love life.
Heeding the steps in this article combined with hiring an assistant you can trust is a guaranteed recipe for a successful provider career. Above all, you can be happy!
"It is safe to say that escorts are made up of a cross-section of personalities and this has more to do with experience than their individual nationalities" Capital Punter
There is a perception by escorts and punters alike that many Eastern European ladies are cold and mechanical and only in it for the money. I have met many Eastern European ladies and yes, a few have been a bit unpleasant or disinterested. But many have been charming and engaging, some of whom I have become good friends.
It was immediately apparent that the London scene is permeated with escorts from all four corners of the globe
If the reader is familiar with London, he or she will be aware that it is a cultural melting pot, an indigenous hot spot where people from all walks of life co-exist. Before I embarked upon my new hobby, I perused many escort agency websites to familiarize myself with the industry.
The flip side is that I have also met some British ladies who have been the antithesis of a convivial hostess. As with any walk of life, it is safe to say that escorts are made up of a cross-section of personalities and this has more to do with experience than their individual nationality as some stereotyped group.
Having resided in London all my life, I have noticed a big movement in the ethnic mix
particularly in recent years since the expansion of the European Union and the accession of many former Eastern Bloc countries. Ethnic minorities are estimated to soon comprise the majority of citizens in the capital.
Why escort agencies presume that punters cannot distinguish between them is totally beyond me
As a lover of culture and of learning about different people, I was intrigued by the variety of nationalities around, although I do have to admit to an intense frustration when agencies list many ladies only as "Eastern European". It is a vast area made up of many different and diverse countries, with different languages and cultures.
London does have areas where each ethnic group tends to congregate, such as Chinatown, Edgware Road (Middle Eastern) or Brick Lane (Bangladeshi), but escorts of different nationalities seem to be more spread out. Instead, I have noticed escort hotspots, areas thick with working ladies.
This is only a snapshot, but as you can see, it creates a very wide spectrum of choice for the punter to navigate
I recently published a blog on my own site entitled “London’s United Nations of Escorts” where I surmised there are ladies from around the world working in London. The main nationalities in London are: Russia, the Baltic States (particularly Latvia and Lithuania), Poland, Romania, Bulgaria, Spain, Italy, Brazil, Thailand, Japan, Korea and sadly, very few from America!
Indeed, there must be something for everyone. Of course, there are some differences between the cultures of ladies from the different regions, which means a gentleman punter can tailor his experience to the type of lady he prefers. However, it is equally enjoyable to meet ladies from many different backgrounds, to learn about them and to gain a wealth of experience.
Given the diversity of London, it only stands to reason there will be escorts from all over the world
Generally, it is a pretty safe and tolerant city in which to work and the diversity adds to the fun of it, both as an inhabitant and as a punter.
Written by Punter & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Capital Punter
"Societal standards regarding a woman’s sexual freedom and choice are disturbingly archaic, controlling from a place of fear" Guest Author Edie Vail
Common sense has always been one of my strong points. This is the main reason viewing myself as a courtesan, escort, companion, prostitute – whatever the current labels are, has never felt wrong or out of place. I am raising beautiful children on my own, wearing many hats as teacher, chauffer, cook, laundress, and achieving an advanced degree all at the same time. The thought of marriage to a conventional, full-time job in exchange for survival is inconceivable. I know where my talents lie, what I enjoy, how I can provide for my family and be at the top of my profession.
Sharing with others what I do in my life is not an option
I’ve built businesses from scratch, bought and sold many a home, taught Sunday school, volunteered in women’s shelters and advocated for those with no voice. As the matriarch of the family I plan vacations, dinners, religious celebrations and manage squabbles threatening our chaotic peace. I’m the woman in the grocery store in a baseball hat, jeans and tank top preparing for the team barbeque. As a provider, you couldn’t pick me out of a crowd. My profession thrives under the radar. This is how I choose to put my pieces together. Nothing flows so perfectly as it does when you close your eyes, lie back and settle into your true self.
After successfully becoming entangled in the real estate craze, I escaped with only a few scrapes and bruises. Carefully buying time to assess my next endeavour, I realized what the next chapter held.
At times, life suffocates and survival heartlessly demands that we put the pieces back together
Like it or not, we must strike a balance of normalcy with what is within our reach. Given the present economic era in all its complicated layers, I chose to work as an escort without the blink of an eye. I could say “become an escort” however the drive and acceptance towards this profession lends me to believe that I’ve been one for years, on hiatus perhaps. Now was the time for rebirth, to push from the cocoon and seize the life I’ve always wanted: complete freedom within reach.
Well spent strength and power intrigues me, draws forth my sensual femininity with a deep curiosity
Raised in a blue-blood family, standards and expectations ran paramount for the men while the women settled into marriages and children. Not for me. As the only woman in the family to graduate college I hungered for more than coattails to ride. Men were my expertise spoken in a non-traditional language. Craving the deep scent of a man, the gentle power of strong hands guiding my hips, becoming mesmerized by a low voice spilling the day’s business – I get lost for hours.
I genuinely anticipate time with my clients. Every moment is savored and delicately prepared for in a thoughtful way. Lingerie is chosen carefully, body, hair and skin treatments indulged in regularly, current events absorbed diligently and perfect stilettos selected to accentuate the arch in my back. Investment of such time wraps the package of my identity as I prepare to lose myself in all that I appreciate in a man and the subtle fusion that we create.
How lucky am I to have been in a position to define myself as a companion
and reap the freedom that it beholds. Choosing this path is a blessing both for me and my clients, if I may be so bold.
Written by Edie Vail, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries
"He wanted me to assume his Silk Calendar, as he called it, that listed the names and contact information of every single lady whom he regularly escorted." Written by Vincent William
Before I became a male companion I was a Special Forces Officer for many years
During that time I was married for five years to the most wonderful woman in the world. We loved and cherished one another deeply and she was an amazing, resilient woman. Unfortunately, she was ill for almost the entire time but it was my honor to care for her. When I was away on assignments or as they say in the trade ‘on a job ‘, I always hired a nurse to stay with her. We were both counting the days until my retirement and had made plans to move to our ancestral home of Italy. But it was not to be. On September 1st, she passed away. Exactly one week after 9/11, I received orders sending me back to the Middle East.
For the next nearly 10 years I was part of a clandestine unit that gathered intelligence in Iraq, Afghanistan and Pakistan
My secondary assignment was to serve as a Unit Translator. For some reason, I’ve always had an excellent ability to learn foreign tongues with ease. Needless to say, when leave was granted I desperately needed it to restore myself mentally as well as physically. I saw no point in returning to the U.S. My wife was gone, we had no children and no other family remained. I decided to go to London and rented a small, lovely apartment near Hyde Park. My first days were spent resting, eating out and taking strolls. Later, I met a dapper gentleman from the adjacent flat and we struck up a friendship. He knew London well and we began to go places together such as The Albert Hall for performances and of course, pubs.
One evening during dinner, he shared with me that he was a ladies companion
He worked throughout London and across the continent. For some reason, I was not the least bit surprised. I was reared by very liberal, uninhibited, free thinking grandparents and grew up in their direct image. Thank heaven. How can one truly experience romance, sensuality, and eroticism by being any other way? The purpose of his revelation was that he was retiring and moving back to his native Canada. He wanted me to take over his Silk Calendar, as he called it, that listed the names and contact information of every single lady whom he regularly escorted. You know ladies and gentlemen, I could say that I had to ponder the implications but no. I took the Silk Calendar right then and there and never looked back.
Vincent, Classic Ladies International Companion was born
From that point forward, my periods of leave changed dramatically. I went from sleeping on the ground in freezing mountain caves to relaxing in luxurious beds in fine hotels in Paris, New York City and Goa, India. A typical evening included a wonderful woman who reached for my manhood during the night causing it to grow large and hard in her soft hands.
I graduated from eating survival pack meals in 100 degree arid, desert weather to dining in fine restaurants in cities the likes of Barcelona. One evening, I was graciously accompanied by a lady who made no attempt to lower her Yves Saint Laurent leather mini-skirt skirt as it rode higher and higher up her thighs revealing her Gerbe silk stocking tops.
She returned from the powder room and handed me her Gold Silk Perla panties symbolizing her expectations of me
And so my lifestyle as a male companion continues from whence it began that evening in a London restaurant. I finally retired from the military, continuing to work from the Silk Calendar across Europe, Asia, the African Continent, London and Hong Kong. I am now based in the U.S, as the destiny of Vincent William continues to unfold.
Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, Vincent William, Classic Ladies Companion
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