Alchemy of a True Tantric Goddess

Energy was always a tool I used and with time I began to understand the gifts I possessed with my hands

Massage was an organic skill that flowed within me and I realized that I connected best through touch. With little effort, I refined my gift. I spent the better part of my life training in all modalities of bodywork, energy work, Western medicine, Ayurveda and massage. I began the process of creating a style that suited my life. It was important that my work include Tantric rituals, allowing me to explore the full depths of my passions and personal fetishes.

When I dropped my clothing for my first sensual massage, nudity felt natural and Pandora’s Box exploded

I have always been comfortable in my skin. The life that I knew so well could no longer be put together no less closed. In the beginning, it was titillating to say the very least. My sensual work slowly became a fulfillment of all I had ever sought. For the first time I had discovered an outlet for my femininity, sensuality & passion. My Tantric work allowed me to fully blossom as a radiant, feminine woman. 

Just as bodywork came natural to me so did being an entrepreneur

My sensual work took on a life of its own. Without marketing or pushing, I made a name for myself within two years. My eyes opened and gears shifted. The time came to approach my sensual world as I did other business ventures and take my private, little secret out of the closet. 

I made it my job to become as educated as possible by researching and understanding all aspects of my new world. I searched for all of the rock stars, asked key questions and networked. I am a Leo with a Scorpio rising and when I do something, there is no half way and there certainly is no second place. I sought only those who were at the top of their fields. I offer my clients a unique and exclusive service not so easily expressed through marketing. I know the significance of surrounding myself with the right people. 

This business is like no other and as a non adult business entrepreneur you are not prepared to enter this culture

I spent months lurking through websites and getting a lay of the land. Talk about a fun research project. I already love what I do and to find others with the same mindset was a beautiful epiphany. I recruited the best of the best. I knew I needed a professional website , photos, content and business consulting because I definitely did not want to fool myself by thinking I could do it all. 

I was led to Veda Designs by a Tantrika in Los Angeles and after much research Veda seemed to stand out head and shoulders above the competition. Finding Veda Designs was the door way to a rabbit hole that living in the vanilla world does not prepare you for. Every door opened led to another path and before I knew it I had conversed with several girls in the adult entertainment business, the kind of girls that I refer to as true "smarty pants". For two years my focus was to provide a unique service unmatched by any other. I fell in love with this lifestyle or business which ever you choose to call it. 

I then realized the need for an entire marketing plan and my next gift was Meeshee

We made an instant connection and I knew I that had found a woman so smart that I was completely blown out of the water. I was amazed at the caliber of women in this business. I allowed my own personal judgments and acknowledgment of social stigmas to completely subside for the first time ever. I am woman and I was roaring. I was finally in front of women who approached this industry no different than any other. What a concept that was! 

Meeshee’s boutique at Vertical Kitty showed me what one focused woman could accomplish in this business. I spent time on her many sites. Geisha Diaries was my next can of worms. I was enthralled by the articles and the level of business sense the women authors possessed. My head was spinning, passion, business and finances all wrapped up in a very erotic bow, sexy indeed! These women were proud of who they were and they put it all out there. Talk about seeing the power of the feminine spirit right in front of me! I read an article written by Claudia Cole and immediately knew I wanted to work with Eros Films. 

I had to put on big girl panties everyday and be very clear on my intent and focus

Before I knew it I was dealing with a web designer, a photographer and a copywriter, interviewing 3 film companies and determining exactly how Bendy Girl should be branded. It was time for an assistant and systems to be put into place. This was no time to skip a step. Working with Eros Films was not an easy decision but as the universe had it Mark was scheduled to be in Santa Monica and a decision had to be made rather quickly. Mark took time out of a business trip to meet me and discuss business. The level of professionalism that Eros Films offers is phenomenal. Eros Films made my experience easy and accessible. We planned and worked together during the entire process and it is definitely "our" film. 

When I began writing this article my film had not yet hit the internet

Sharp, immediate, intense - these are the words that explain the ramifications of the trailer. From one day to the next my emails increased from dozens to more than 500. I remember telling Meeshee that I had to get ready. I felt a tsunami in my bones. That tsunami knocked me all the way to Santa Barbara where I found my new home and now live in paradise. Creating the film was the best business decision I've ever made and my move was the greatest gift I ever gave myself. Praise be to the goddesses who prepared me as the angels whispered in my ear months earlier, "Chicken little, the sky is falling."

I sat with Mark and Rick from Eros Films as we drank wine and talked about business. These sexy, gorgeous men expressed their passion for the business and the women who "owned" it. I never once in my entire life felt like a "normal" woman. I sought romance, passion, lust and true connecting of the male and female spirit. Monogamy and I were never friends and I am not even sure if we were ever acquaintances. 

I wear my sexiness and sensuality much like a conventional woman wears a dress or a pair of shoes

It's something I naturally put on every day. My whole life I had to suppress the femininity and the girly – girl in me. I was told over and over again that I was simply a nymphomaniac. In my new world, these qualities are revered and sought after by many. It's very laughable indeed when you really think about it. Everything I was taught to believe by family, society and cultural norms was now completely skewed. I came to realize that I lived my life in a twilight zone. I live a life that I could have never made up. I wouldn't have even believed it. This girl who was never once asked out on a date now had some of the most intriguing, educated gentlemen in front of her. 

It's funny to me when I read in a forum that providers can't possibly love our job

There are degrees and sub cultures in this world unlike no other. Not all business people are successful. Only the cream rises to the top in any industry. Loving what you do will shine though in any job and being the provider of passion, sensuality, affection, adoration and a genuine connection is absolutely no different. 

Any career will come to an end sooner or later if you are unable to pour yourself into it fully 

Your career must become a lifestyle. It all must flow naturally otherwise there will be disconnect and something will break. Ask the poor RN who has worked 12 hour shifts and never left the time for her own personal health and family. My guess is she does not like her job and this is a woman who holds the health of others in her hands. In case you are wondering, I played that game for a awhile and I dare you ask what career I prefer. Stairway to heaven if I dare say. That's what it felt like to me. Every stone turned, every conversation completed and every connection made solidified what I had always known and yet suppressed.

Yoga, meditation, martial arts, Ayurveda, and Qigong all teach us to find a path that allows our spirit to fully shine. Life taught me that this does not happen in a two-story house surrounded by a picket fence. It is born in the core of our being. We are human snowflakes and no two are alike. They may dance in the air together for a while but eventually they flutter their own way. I held within my hands the license to be me, all paths led here and acceptance was deep. The snake rose, Shakti was alive and the Sanskara flowed in straight from the Rishi's. I know the longing Rumi speaks of in his poetry, that longing for the connection that is only ours and no one else can possibly comprehend the depth of the longing until your own thirst has been quenched. At that moment, understanding felt nothing less than pure ecstasy and rapture. 

The branding of Bendy Girl brought with it the understanding of the woman behind Bendy Girl

The old saying, “Be careful what you ask for” definitely applied here. Much like clients who see me, this experience has left me a very changed human being. My qualities that were unacceptable to society and made me feel less than for so long eventually became my liberation. I found a place for passion, sensuality, lust, eroticism and pure pleasure through the exchange of energy with other light beings. I do not seek gold, I hold it in my hands and I offer it to others. I thank my amazing team for holding my hand along my path of discovery. Bendy Girl bows at the feet of all the guru's who lit my path along the way. The journey was mine and mine alone but without a road map, a journey leads nowhere. The knowledge and wisdom shared by the greats in this industry were not lost on this Bendy Girl. Namaste. Shanti Shanti Shanti.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, Bendy Girl

Busted U.S. Olympian & Companion Kelly Lundy Confesses All

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We Apologize for Geisha Diaries' Downtime!

It was a frustrating week. We received many tweets and emails from our readers, "...What happened to Geisha Diaries?" We experienced technical difficulties not only with Geisha Diaries but also with Vertical Kitty. 

But we're back! And we have some awesome articles coming up. Thank you, readers and contributing authors! We love you all. xoxo

Escort Biographies

Vertical Kitty is hosting a section on Geisha Diaries where escorts, companions, courtesans, BDSM folks, Tgirls and escort agencies can post their personal biographies along with a photo and links to their websites and/or blogs.

What is Escort Biographies?

Escort Biographies presents an opportunity to step outside of your persona or role as a business person and extend yourself as a human being. It’s about revealing your personal side – facets of your personality or life, interests, poignant events that have shaped your life, what you’re made of, secrets that no one knows. When you are a business person (aren’t we all?) often times, exposing the human element can be the ingredient that makes the difference between success and failure.

What Escort Biographies is not

While your Escort Biography will be linked to your website and showcase your photo and contact information (optional), it is not a direct advertisement for business. It will not include your measurements, feature that you are a GFE or into BDSM, etc.

Escort Biographies is a great way to showcase who you are

in your own words, edited and polished by Vertical Kitty who specializes in escort and escort agency content writing. Geisha Diaries is known and respected in the worldwide adult industry for revealing secrets that many of us have thought about or experienced but never expressed or shared. Escort Biographies is a fantastic way to gain exposure to a worldwide audience for a one-time fee with your Biography edited by a professional writer.

Escort Biographies is published on Geisha Diaries only

While you can link to your Escort Biography on Geisha Diaries from your personal website, blog or profile, it does not include copyright release and is published exclusively on Geisha Diaries – nowhere else on the internet.

The guidelines are easy: 

1. Submit your Escort Biography up to 300 words
2. Submit 3 of your best photos in jpeg format
3. Submit URLs to your website and/or blog

Tips:

1. Pretend like you’re writing in a private journal
2. Link your Escort Biography to Vertical Kitty and Geisha Diaries and increase your website rankings on the internet

 After you have submitted your payment, email your Escort Biography with "My Escort Biography" in the subject line along with 3 of your favorite photos to:
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$50.00 USD

Barbados Bailey Talks Breast Cancer Awareness

It wasn’t until the traumatic loss of my mother to cancer that I truly realized how important it is for a woman to have her breasts checked annually. In an effort to convince me to get a mammogram, my doctor told me stories of women who were fortunate to discover lumps in their breasts early on and were able to have them removed. In doing so, they avoided a mastectomy! Sadly, my girlfriend discovered a lump in her breast by self-examination and because of the more advanced stage of cancer had to have her breast removed. If she had a mammogram, maybe she could have avoided it. What a devastating ordeal! 

Because cancer is prevalent in my family, I must undergo a mammogram twice a year. I used to be inconvenienced taking time out of my schedule to go to the hospital and wait for the procedure. But facing reality of how many women actually have breast cancer, I now feel blessed that I do not have any lumps or signs of cancer in my breasts. 

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. While most people are aware of the disease, many women forget to take precaution. One in eight women will get cancer in the United States. To me, this is reason enough to create an early detection plan. There are plenty of clinics offering discounted or even free mammograms in honor of the BCAM. 

As companions and independent escorts, we must take good care of our health and that means a lot more than just getting a tan or having our nails done. Ladies? Think Pink! Spread the word of awareness to all of your girlfriends, family, clients and hobbyists about National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Tell them to tell their friends. Who knows? You might save a life.

Written by Elite Companion and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Bailey Native

From Soldier to Ladies Companion

"He wanted me to assume his Silk Calendar, as he called it, that listed the names and contact information of every single lady whom he regularly escorted." Written by Vincent William 

Before I became a male companion I was a Special Forces Officer for many years

During that time I was married for five years to the most wonderful woman in the world. We loved and cherished one another deeply and she was an amazing, resilient woman. Unfortunately, she was ill for almost the entire time but it was my honor to care for her. When I was away on assignments or as they say in the trade ‘on a job ‘, I always hired a nurse to stay with her. We were both counting the days until my retirement and had made plans to move to our ancestral home of Italy. But it was not to be. On September 1^st, she passed away. Exactly one week after 9/11, I received orders sending me back to the Middle East.

For the next nearly 10 years I was part of a clandestine unit that gathered intelligence in Iraq, Afghanistan and Pakistan

My secondary assignment was to serve as a Unit Translator. For some reason, I’ve always had an excellent ability to learn foreign tongues with ease. Needless to say, when leave was granted I desperately needed it to restore myself mentally as well as physically. I saw no point in returning to the U.S. My wife was gone, we had no children and no other family remained. I decided to go to London and rented a small, lovely apartment near Hyde Park. My first days were spent resting, eating out and taking strolls. Later, I met a dapper gentleman from the adjacent flat and we struck up a friendship. He knew London well and we began to go places together such as The Albert Hall for performances and of course, pubs.

One evening during dinner, he shared with me that he was a ladies companion

He worked throughout London and across the continent. For some reason, I was not the least bit surprised. I was reared by very liberal, uninhibited, free thinking grandparents and grew up in their direct image. Thank heaven. How can one truly experience romance, sensuality, and eroticism by being any other way? The purpose of his revelation was that he was retiring and moving back to his native Canada. He wanted me to take over his Silk Calendar, as he called it, that listed the names and contact information of every single lady whom he regularly escorted. You know ladies and gentlemen, I could say that I had to ponder the implications but no. I took the Silk Calendar right then and there and never looked back.

Vincent, Classic Ladies International Companion was born

From that point forward, my periods of leave changed dramatically. I went from sleeping on the ground in freezing mountain caves to relaxing in luxurious beds in fine hotels in Paris, New York City and Goa, India. A typical evening included a wonderful woman who reached for my manhood during the night causing it to grow large and hard in her soft hands.

I graduated from eating survival pack meals in 100 degree arid, desert weather to dining in fine restaurants in cities the likes of Barcelona. One evening, I was graciously accompanied by a lady who made no attempt to lower her Yves Saint Laurent leather mini-skirt skirt as it rode higher and higher up her thighs revealing her Gerbe silk stocking tops.

She returned from the powder room and handed me her Gold Silk Perla panties symbolizing her expectations of me

And so my lifestyle as a male companion continues from whence it began that evening in a London restaurant. I finally retired from the military, continuing to work from the Silk Calendar across Europe, Asia, the African Continent, London and Hong Kong. I am now based in the U.S, as the destiny of Vincent William continues to unfold. 

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, Vincent William, Classic Ladies Companion

Sex Work: Never Break the Veil of Fantasy

"Beyond safety rules, the most important fundamental principal for all sex work is to never break the veil of fantasy" Written by Phone Sex Secrets

Geisha Diaries recently caught up with Phone Sex Secrets (PSS) and the elusive, colorful character behind this bible of a website. I shall refer to her as PSS for short, because anonymity is paramount as it should be for any provider. PSS makes herself available to savvy, business-minded PSOs who want more. Consult with her for industry discussion, character and content creation. But if masturbilia is your motive, hold onto you knickers while she points you in the right direction.

It’s not often that I come across more than two decades of fantasy phone experience (or any other niche in the adult industry) all wrapped up into one sultry, brainy package. So without further adieu, I am happy to introduce PSS with all of her wisdom and insight so that she can do what she does best. Geisha Diaries Editor, Meeshee

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After nearly two decades in the sex work industry, first as an escort and then as a phone sex operator (PSO), I’ve learned many things. Beyond safety rules, the most important fundamental principal for all sex work is to never break the veil of fantasy.

Your main asset in any form of sex work is your ability to create and deliver the fantasy. Fantasies are the magic potions, the spells, the real charms you wield. They are more powerful than your breasts or any other body part, your intellect, imagination, skills as a brilliant conversationalist, your knowledge of the Kama Sutra or the sum of all those parts.

The fantasy may begin with something physical such as your impressive bust line or something real such as your dominant personality. But it is incomplete and cannot be delivered until you develop a character which embodies all aspects of the fantasy.

Like a genie in a bottle, a fantasy breathes life into the sacred space that you and your client inhabit whether in a hotel room or through a phone call. In that environment, you initiate those intimate fantasies through your persona -- not only at the client’s request, but at his belief.

These fantasies are delivered by your character and brought to life not only by you but through the power of the erotic wishes of the client who opts to believe in your character.

Like any film, literary work, or other form of entertainment, sex work relies upon a client’s willing suspension of disbelief. The storyteller, who is the fantasy creator, must manifest acceptance. Slipping out of character, even for a second, disrupts continuity, snagging the plot with gaping holes of reality and poof! The spell is broken.

This principal of character continuity is equally applicable to all areas of adult entertainment. But no where have I found it more regularly broken than in the segment of phone sex.

I know many PSOs, some of whom claim to be quite successful, who readily acknowledge on their websites, in forums and to callers that they offer multiple phone sex characters. I suspect this is a diluted attempt at professing skill. Because this business is cemented in fantasy, I never risk compromising my character as say, a youthful girl for example, by simultaneously claiming that I am a horny housewife MILF and a BBW queen. Such contradiction shatters all fantasies, not to mention undermines marketing efforts. I am left wondering how much more successful these girls would be if they didn't discharge themselves, but rather maintained the veil of fantasy.

The crafting of a sex work persona demands a lot of work. Destroying that character results in wasted effort and the death of your business.

Break character, and clients will drop you one by one. The very one who begged for a glimpse beyond the veil, who pleaded then demanded to know more about the real you, will disappear, guaranteed because he can no longer believe in the fantasy.

The truth is, once you break that fantasy you can never put that genie back in the bottle because you’ve broken the illusion and ended the suspension of disbelief.

It’s possible to cultivate a new phone sex personality, escort identity, or sex worker persona. But it must be done from scratch. Starting anew does not include trailing your previous persona of disillusioned clients by transferring feedback and ratings, using the same method of contact or same photographys. Any trace of your old persona will prevent a new veil from being created. This is difficult to overcome and expensive, too. In sex work just as any other business, it is more cost effective to retain a customer than to cultivate a new one. And finding new clients will be challenging because your reputation has been tarnished.

No matter how much he begs, demands or professes to know otherwise about you; hold your character and never, ever break the veil of fantasy.

Written by Geisha Diaries’ Guest Author & Phone Sex Operator, Phone Sex Secrets

Being the Secret

"For some of these gentlemen, I represent a safe middle ground in which to experiment" Guest Author Jessica Rivers

Ideas are dangerous things. A little errant thought picked up by your unconscious can be worse than a song stuck in your head, and it really doesn't matter where it comes from. Sometimes, it’s a late night airing of The Crying Game that gets the ball rolling or maybe an old Jerry Springer episode. Even Oprah did a few very nice things over the years (some of which actually complicated my life in strange and unforeseen ways.) There was even a Playboy spread that made some waves back in the 80s, I think. And it's not as though girls like me aren't all over the internet these days. Whatever it is, it's usually a delicate chain reaction of events that leads these men to my door.

Not that they’re all the same, mind you. One of the few things I know for certain is that everyone ultimately is a different breed of cat. But there are some common threads in the stray cats that show up on my doorstep.

They are already sexually adventurous, usually a bit older and quite experienced themselves by the time they see me

For some of these gentlemen, I represent a safe middle ground in which to experiment. They've been there, done that and now they find themselves a little older and more... curious?

And that's it. Just a question mark? They don't really know what's next until they get the idea stuck in their head which then combines with the unanswered question. That's usually where I come in.

I find that men are often troubled by their own definitions

Call it the Curse Of Adam. There was a reason it was Adam who named the animals, making them objects. It is the nature of men to do such things, to objectify, define, delineate. A man's world is defined by external points of reference. This is why they're always measuring, comparing, and classifying things. Contrary to what most modern feminists seem to think, it's generally a wonderful thing. It keeps them focused on the tasks at hand, dealing with the external world, building bridges, moving the heavy things. It also keeps their attention focused on us - on all of our lovely shapes and forms. (I told you it was wonderful!)

If a girl experiences a casual lesbian fling in college, no one thinks she's gay

In contrast, women subjectify by nature, which can be more of a curse than a blessing. They define themselves by internal measure. For a woman, what she thinks about who she is speaks of supreme importance. Women resist and resent being defined by external actions. If a girl experiences a casual lesbian fling in college, no one thinks she's gay unless she thinks she is gay (and why a gentleman who takes a lovely transexual out to dinner can be racked with guilt that he's somehow “become gay”.)

This is why self-esteem is so crucial to women and while normally it could be thought of as a good thing to not let yourself become too defined by the world around you. It can easily be taken to the extreme and a woman can become detached from what she does and cling to her self-image, refusing to believe that she is what she is and rationalizing what she actually does.

Time with me seems not only exotic, but dangerous

What this means, practically, is that men often define themselves by their external actions (not their internal feelings). And that's what many of these gentlemen found was their biggest obstacle to meeting me. They believed that if they spend time with me, it somehow makes them something different, that it would change how they define themselves. (Oh my God, does this make me... gay?) Yet they could never reconcile the burning curiosity combined with that radical idea floating freely in their heads so they did nothing but think about it. A lot. Constantly. For years, sometimes. Until the dam suddenly breaks one day and there they are, at my door, shaking like a leaf. So much drama! I tell them that it's just not that serious a decision! Much ado about nothing! And I usually end up explaining it to them in food terms:

"You can have Italian food every night of the week for your whole life, and one night decide to have Chinese food instead. It doesn't make you Chinese. It doesn't mean you won't eat Italian again tomorrow. It doesn't even mean you'll like Chinese food. It just means you want something different tonight, that's all." - Jessica Rivers, circa 2006.

Other gentlemen friends of mine are true aficionados; they have a taste for me

and know exactly what to do with me. They choose me specifically to add an unusual flavor to their otherwise vanilla life. This is not to say that they are vanilla people. To the contrary and that's the problem. It's the lifestyle they find themselves stuck in that is vanilla. They're usually overworked, under-appreciated, and know what they need and where to get it. They know their Chinese food and never need to see a menu. And a little time in my teahouse is exactly what they need. While I do always love being the teacher, it is nice to meet a gentleman who knows what to do with me. Oh, and they do!

The very idea of me is scandalous

This makes me a well-kept, dirty, little secret. No one admits to even thinking about me, much less actually spending time with me. The love that dare not speak its name has nothing on me. It makes my life both delicious and tragic at times. I confessed this to a client over dinner at Hillstone in Dallas last month. At first he didn't see it. I may get advances from men all the time, but I can't get involved with any of them. My life is far too complicated for them. It could hurt their purty little heads! And the men I do get to know would never admit to knowing me in public. I'm their secret.

“But” he says, “I am here with you having a lovely dinner in public.”

At which point I say, “Yes, and it is my precisely my secret which makes it so delicious, isn't it? That you know it and they don't.” He knows I'm right.

I've learned to love the angry glances from women

This isn't nearly as bad as I make it out to be. As tragedies go, it can be pretty entertaining. It can make everything I do charged with a certain electric quality. It can make the mundane kind of amazing. That's why I cherish these times, these passing dinners, being this unknown exotic creature, swimming relatively unnoticed, in the middle of a crowded pool of... goldfish. I've learned to love the angry glances from women, the desperate glances from husbands when they think their wives aren't looking. In a way, it shows me I'm doing something right.

I think about where we're going and what's going to happen next, and it turns me on

My date signs the bill, holds my hand across the table and says we should go... he simply can't wait any longer. I bite my lip, because I can't wait, either.  I look around at the unsuspecting goldfish and smile. When we get up to leave, he pulls out my chair and I pause to kiss him briefly in front of the whole restaurant. I must confess the naughtiness of it still gives me a thrill. Seeing our waiter wink at him on the way out was priceless.

Being The Secret does have its moments.

Written by Guest Author & Transgendered Courtesan, Jessica Rivers

A Hobbyist Discovers his Bisexuality

 “Even if it should actually turn out to be just a phase, which might or might not be the case, it doesn't matter. Who you are right now, and the things you desire right now, are absolutely fine and okay and much more normal than you could possibly imagine.”* Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries

Boomer is an active and well regarded hobbyist of 4 years. He’s also an avid reader of Geisha Diaries. Boomer was introduced to us by a mutual friend. As we were curious about his participation in the community, Boomer intimately revealed his human side, what fuels his deep seeded needs, curiosities and passions.

Boomer can be neatly summed up into three words: the consummate gentleman

His kindness and genuine regard for humanity speak loudly. But his marriage of 30 years lacks the intimacy that he seeks through GFE encounters in the hobby. Having just emerged from a UTR relationship with a provider, he is now exploring alternate forms of sexuality after 57 years of living a heterosexual lifestyle. Emerging from a long time career in the corporate world, Boomer speaks in a well-mannered and eloquent fashion and could easily be the CEO of a large corporation, a dentist or your next-door-neighbor.

Unless he feels a connection, there is no second date

Encounters with new providers are reminiscent of a civilian first date. Boomer is usually nervous and seeks to recognize the promise of friendship. He clearly recognizes the reciprocity of a provider/hobbyist relationship in the healthiest and most respectful approach. As in any business transaction mutual benefit exists on both sides. However, the topic of consideration is taboo, a total turn off and will abruptly dismiss any chance of a future date.

Boomer grew up during an era when sexual repression was large

Time and seasoning have all but shed his inhibitions. Why should one spend one’s life wondering, feeding a denial that serves only to imprison one’s self expression? As a responsible, accomplished gentleman who has experienced many chapters in life, Boomer has chosen to exercise his right to personal freedom by exploring those unanswered, intimate questions by dabbling in other realms of sexuality. Might such extreme liberation pose a sort of threat to some providers? This has been Boomer’s experience with a few. Perhaps it is a visceral repulsion that such a provider is turned off by a man who engages with another man. Intellectually, however, one might question her logic.

Boomer represents a sort of hybrid bisexual

One who has evolved out of the traditional, old school ways of love and lust – the culturally categorical boxes of you man, me woman. His desires stop short of being with a straight out man. Perhaps one day he will go there. But for now, he has discovered that his comfort level is reinforced by a person representing the ultimate feminine experience while blessed with the endowment of a man. Boomer has come to know such a woman who has met with his needs and desires on emotional, physical and physiological levels. This is not to say that he has lost interest in heterosexual providers. Rather, he finds them quite desirable and considers all as transitory experiences contributing to his personal journey to self discovery.

Contact Boomer

Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries

*quote by Hanne Bank

Transexuality: The Best of Both Worlds

"Not every person fits categorically into the binary male/female system. As with everything in life, exceptions prevail. There are those who identify as both male and female, exclusive of our boxed in cultural system, rendering both genders applicably inadequate." Meeshee, Publisher Geisha Diaries

Recently, Geisha Diaries had the immense pleasure of engaging in conversation with Rachel Smithe. Rachel’s genteel and refined demeanor illuminated instantly as a woman who is grounded and has clearly defined her lot in life. Rachel is an exclusive and highly regarded international courtesan who appeals to male clientele seeking the company of an ultra feminine woman generously blessed with the endowment of a man.

On the surface, the majority of her clientele lead heterosexual lifestyles

Some are politicians walking on the BDSM side while others seek a hard core experience, only to be softened with sensual kissing, realizing that it wasn’t hard core they were seeking, after all. Others represent upper middle class gentlemen entrusting their sexual exploration with Rachel while some are on a fixed income saving up their tax refunds to travel cross country to see her.

Rachel distinguishes between her American and European clients as well. She describes the bulk of her American clients as interested in one-hour sessions while many of her European clients are more interested in longer, three- to five-hour sessions. Her Greek clients display a more worldly attitude, inherently understanding that hers is a business and respecting her time as a professional. 

Beneath the surface for many of these men is a compelling need to understand a burning desire for gratification that is considered taboo

Or a break from the monotony and dissatisfaction of a lifestyle burdened with stress or a sexless relationship. Though some may consider themselves bisexual, many are straight and come to realize through their experience with Rachel that it is simply a different flavor of experience that they seek. They are not freaks. They are drawn to Rachel because she represents the ultimate embodiment of pure femininity blessed with a fully operational penis. She portrays a fantasy to these men whether as an intimate GFE, a confidante, a healer or a sensual domina. 

Rachel is quite content living her life full time as a woman in every aspect of the word while retaining her original gender as a man

Her life has been a journey and one that she continues to live to the fullest, traveling and touring frequently, internationally, with her beloved little dog, Beauregard. Since the age of four, she has experienced a recurring vision of a woman sitting in a chair all alone, surrounded by rice paper walls amongst a scurry of household activity, waiting to be summoned. Rachel feels that this woman was her.

She exhibits Buddhist tendencies

She grew up on a farm in Virginia where her father worked for the government. They had a huge garden. She didn’t eat much meat, always asking for Asian food at restaurants. Perhaps this could explain why her tastes in clothing, furniture and cuisine show a flare for the Orient. As a small child, she didn’t want her father to cut the grass because grass blades have feelings. She told her father that she didn’t want to go hunting with him anymore because she didn’t feel right about the animals dying. She is a vegetarian and as a Capricorn, is a very sensitive person. 

Rachel spent her childhood playing cello and base fiddle and sang classical music in churches, mosques and synagogues. She now attends a non denominational church with more focus on a spiritual than religious path. Her mind is open to accepting different beliefs and this approach is translated in how she interacts with clients. 

When Rachel is not busy touring as an international courtesan, she manages and operates her day spa which offers massage and body treatment. While she is not a CMT, her knowledge is vast and extensive as she attends all classes for facials, laser, massage and body treatments with her staff. 

As the #1 TS provider in Chicago, Rachel’s secret to success lies in having no fear of revealing herself and expressing her humanity as a provider

She feels genuine empathy for her clients and is always eager to build relationships with them. To operate a business with a revolving door would be out of character for Rachel. Her personality is very intimate and she doesn’t take on just any client. As if this comes as any surprise, Rachel’s website is beyond exquisite, exhibiting stunning imagery and a guide to her international touring. Geisha Diaries is truly impressed with the woman whom we’ve come to know as Rachel Smithe.

Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries

The True Story Behind Barebacking

“One of the biggest myths about our entire industry is that we all allow this dangerous practice. People assume we are all nasty, disease infested women and men who allow anyone to do anything” Written by A’

Recently I was approached by a potential client who wanted to schedule a multi-day engagement. Once he had completed the screening process, I provided him with a list of a few questions. 

Based upon my research and planning, I sent him links to resorts, airlines and other details and assured him our transportation via limousine service would be handled in a discreet, professional and punctual manner. Upon approval, he placed all reservations and we coordinated dates and times for our getaway. At this point, I was in receipt of his deposit. I was going through the short list of ladies in California who I knew I could trust with his identity and the nature of his desires. I had to have everything exactly as he had requested. This was to be his once in a lifetime experience. 

At that point, it was necessary to speak by phone to discuss his answers to my questions. Somewhere in the conversation, he asked me if I had ever had the hot cum of a client inside me. I replied, “No, I am not into bare-backing. It is childish, dangerous, and gross.” He answered, “You should try it.” 

People assume we are all nasty, disease infested women and men who allow anyone to do anything

My heart sank and I didn’t know how to respond. I braced myself to answer him with dignity and not insult him. I was worried about his response to my reaction because, bare-backing is a widely accepted yet ignorant practice among adults who engage in casual sex. I also initiated the process of refunding his deposit. I was not going to keep this appointment and I made a mental note of his references and who he had reviewed. One of the biggest myths about our entire industry is that we all allow this dangerous practice. 

It defies logic as to why anyone would allow or want full service bare back

There is nothing to support this reasoning. Is the entire medical community wrong about the risks associated with bareback sex with multiple partners? Are a few suicidal hobbyist and providers correct in their choice to partake in such illogical and radical behavior? 

There is nothing special about the provider who offers bare back services

I have seen it offered at a higher price and I have seen it offered with no price adjustment. I have seen it offered at every level of the hobby. It confuses me as to why it is acceptable for any reason. The widely available amounts of factual information supporting safer sex far outweigh any reason offered to justify barebacking. There are no reasons to allow it, want it, ask for it, or have a conversation for the purposes of condoning the practice. 

They are endangering their lives, the lives of their loved ones and the lives of everyone they come in contact with and this is inexcusable

Individuals who offer any defense in favor of barebacking or people who engage in the practice of barebacking are not dealing in any realm of reality. I can only conclude that providers and hobbyists or civilians in general who practice barebacking suffer from a behavior disorder called Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Such people are characterized by patterns of uncooperative, defiant, hostile, and annoying behavior. In a nut shell this means that such folks will argue based on illogic; disagreeing for the very sake of demonstrating the difference in other points of view. The only difference is for the most part they have bought into their own press and practice what they should not believe.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, A’

The Beauty of Oral Sex

"You've just got to get into the moment.  Whatever does it for you.  Focus on your amazing skill, all the control you have, the sensuality of being the one to give such intense pleasure" Written by Camille Crimson*

I've spent nearly half a decade sharing my love of oral sex with the world

But I still find myself constantly explaining and defending my choice as a woman to create a website based entirely around blowjobs.  What do I get out of it?  Wouldn't I have more fun if I were the one receiving?  People just don't understand the joy I receive from giving and the beauty of the pleasure that I create.  The truth is, a blowjob can be a very beautiful thing, but it has to be approached from this mindset.   

As someone who gives quite a few blowjobs, it's easy to think that at a certain point, it becomes a job (no pun intended)

I mean, it's work, but so is pretty much anything worth doing.  The idea is that a blowjob shouldn't be tedious.  But how do you avoid the tedium? I'm not here to give you specific tips and tricks, because what's good for one person might vary drastically for the next.  What I can do is talk a little bit about the different elements that really bring a blowjob to the next level, making it something that really stands out as an art, both for you and the lucky recipient.

Don't worry too much about deep throating.  Some people have zero gag reflex and could moonlight as a sword-swallower at a moment's notice but others are really sensitive.  The fact is, you can train your gag reflex by relaxing the jaw, breathing through the nose and a little practice with something safe and phallic, like a banana or a dildo.  But, this takes time and dedication and might not ever wind up turning you into the deep throating champion of the world.  While I do encourage expanding this side of your repertoire, a blowjob doesn't live and die by how much you can stuff in your mouth.  Skill is much more than that. 

You've got a shaft, a frenulum, the head, balls, maybe a foreskin

The best way to approach a varied blowjob is to think about the anatomy you're working with. Don't just focus on one part. They're all good!  And you've got a mouth, consisting of lips, tongue, cheeks, the roof of your mouth and your throat.  So how many combinations can you come up with?  Lick languidly up the side of his shaft, gently suck his balls, lightly kiss and tease his frenulum, angle his cock so that you rub his cock head against your cheek...  The possibilities are endless. 

Play around with adding other parts of your body and his.  You've got hands, so use them!  Whether he likes a little gentle stroke or if he needs a vigorous jerking to cum, they're an excellent asset to add to a really great blowjob.  Likewise, if you can push his shaft between your breasts and pump him a bit with them while licking or sucking, you're going to add a whole other dimension of sensation. 

Use your hands or mouth to explore these areas, sometimes alone or with secondary focus on his cock

On the other hand, he has lots of other erogenous zones  - his stomach, buttocks, nipples, the crease of his legs, even his pereneum or anus, if he's into that. There is so much to do.  But don't switch from one sensation to the other too fast, or it'll be a little too much stimulation.  It can get overwhelming, so create a rhythm and stick with that until you know what he's enjoying most. 

That's probably the most important thing.  You need to watch for his physical (or sometimes even verbal) cues to see what feels good and what doesn't work for him.  Some guys are really sensitive to certain stimulus while others might not feel anything.  Some of it might feel "too good" and he might not want to cum just yet.  But, once you get to the point where he starts thrusting a bit more, moaning or breathing heavier and you just feel that extra jolt of thickness, it's time to just keep on going with whatever you're doing, because it's working!  Don't stop. Push through any minor discomfort (not major discomfort, though) and soon you'll reach that amazing climax.  (As for taking a cumshot, just do whatever you want.  If he has any special requests, he'll tell you, but don't do anything that makes you feel unsafe. 

Every man is different, so it's like a hunt for the perfect touch in the perfect spot

Finally, you've just got to get into the moment.  Whatever does it for you.  Focus on your amazing skill, all the control you have, the sensuality of being the one to give such intense pleasure.  One or more of those ideas is bound to work.  Once you're free from the notion that oral sex is tedious, it becomes a fun, creative outlet to explore his body. Over time, familiarity increases, joy sinks into the thrill of this exploration of new locations and new ways to tease.  

It's amazing.  To really relish in giving a blowjob is a beautiful thing. 

Written by Camille Crimson, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries. *It is important to note that Ms. Crimson is not a provider.

Smart Confessions of a Savvy Provider

"It is about fusing well-balanced connections while respecting the fluctuating, erotic needs of our clients. It is about targeted marketing, diligent screening and recognizing the right connections." Written by A'

Recently, I was in the presence of a client and another provider, engaged in a great conversation. Our client's facial expression changed, the energy in the room transformed and he took on a serious tone. He stared at both of us intently and asked if we were aware that his was a life altering experience and that we had certainly delivered. I related to our client that some of what we do as adult entertainers goes well beyond the scope of an envelope.

We make ourselves aware of shifts in our clients’ lives that lead them to seek the services of a professional companion

We are the type of companion who is well acquainted with the seemingly small, intimate details of our clients: their preferred label of Scotch or type of cuisine, specific massage oils and lingerie that appeal to them; we send birthday gifts, incite naughty telephone calls and heed the personal limits of our clients. While we seek to affirm their sensuality, we endeavour to teach or learn while perhaps guiding them through unchartered territory. We are true companions in every sense of the word.

It requires a savvy provider to build and cultivate a solid client base

In the case of this particular client, a rough divorce landed him in the hobby. Like many people, he equated companionship with the oldest profession on earth. To the credit of the myth, becoming a paid companion is easy and anyone can do it. However, what we do transgresses turning a trick or dealing with johns. It goes beyond the matter of curves, looks, legs and tummies. It is about fusing well-balanced connections while respecting the fluctuating, erotic needs of our clients. It is about targeted marketing, diligent screening and recognizing the right connections.

For the sake of maintaining our client base, we never proclaim everlasting love for a client

We are fully aware of our station in the life of a client. We will never find ourselves in a position to play emotional games because such behavior inflicts a weakened emotional state. Our purpose is to guide them through their erotic journey. Their station is to either be an active planner or speak it into our ears, allowing us to create it for them.

As an adult entertainer, there comes a time when you realize that being a provider is what you are supposed to be doing

Defining ourselves as providers begins by recognizing where we fit into the scheme of things and then making decisions based upon our comfort levels. While some go upscale, others are comfortable maintaining reasonable rates. If you are comfortable as a provider and sincerely enjoy taking in the look of pleasure on a client's face, you are in the right profession. On the other hand, if you cringe when the phone rings, can’t stand to be touched, react with hostility when a client tries to connect with you, or do not enjoy giving and receiving pleasure, please close up shop today and find something else to do.

You may charge $5,000 an hour for your goregeousness but if you are an ice cold companion, never sharing a genuine moment of intimacy with a client under any circumstances, your beauty is not going to rule your business. Men who are serious hobbyists seek the company of companions who are comfortable in their own skin, who are not fake but warm and receptive toward them. They seek our company for affirmation, not to score another ice princess in their pockets.

There are ladies who charge astronomical rates yet never bother to learn anything about their clients

For them each client represents just another fat envelope. There are ladies who charge below their market, yet consciously wear their clients’ favorite colors and perfumes because they have taken the time to learn the distinctive nuances of every one. Through calculated observations and tailored questions, they know how to strike a well-balanced connection with their clients.

Their secrets are sacred and we carry them to our graves

This elevated attention to detail and cherished discretion represents the insignia of a companion whose value as an adult entertainer will never know a price. Genuine regard for our clients means that we enjoy a solid client base, indefinitely. We are the same companions who will never partake in a tell-all gossip media forum, exploiting our black books. Our reputations are sanctified by nothing less than discretion, attention to detail, unparalleled skill and a penetrating knowledge of what makes our clients tick.

Written by A', Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

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How I Became a Sugar Daddy

" A lot of young women find having a Sugar Daddy to be an enriching experience.  They get to be free spirits, have their sexual desires quenched and are shown experiences that broaden their horizons" Written by John Doe, Sugar Daddy

I have been asked this question many times.  I was fortunate to become very wealthy at an early age. Though my family was from Beverly Hills, California and had money, they did not have the massive wealth for which Beverly Hills is known, or that I have been able to create in my life.  I attended Beverly Hills High School and continued on to earn a Bachelors and a Masters degree.  I had lots of money to spend on toys like cars, boats, homes and vacations.  It wasn't until my kids finally reached college age that I noticed some of the young women hanging around the house flirting with me. 

One day a young lady was hanging out at the pool and came inside and asked if she could speak with me.  I said sure and she asked me for a loan to pay for college.  I was caught off guard because this was the first time that someone my kid’s age approached me for money. I was accustomed to this from adults.  She said that her education was very important to her and that she would do anything if I helped her out.  I asked if she was working and she said yes. I knew that the amount of money she made would not be sufficient to pay me back.  I told her I needed to think about it.  She said ok and left me her pager number (there were no cell phones back then).  I paged her one day soon after. When she returned my call, I explained to her that I would give her the money but that she didn’t have to pay me back. She was speechless. I thought I lost her when finally she spoke. She implied that there might be a different way in which she could pay me back. That’s how this all started.

Since I am married, people want to know why I am a Sugar Daddy. They always assume it has something to do with my wife.  Becoming a Sugar Daddy had nothing to do with my wife in the beginning. At first, I just loved the attention and the game of getting a sexy young woman to become my lover. Spoiling was easy - paying for rent, cars, shopping sprees, vacations, none of which ever impacted my life or my wealth but it made it a lot easier to seduce women.

As to the deceit, well that is a different story.  At first I would get pangs of guilt after I was unfaithful to my wife.  Then one day after talking to my best friend about it I realized that my infidelity with these Sugar Babies was heightening my passion, sexual appetite and desire in every area of my life.  While lots of men go home and can’t stand their nagging wife, I would go home and ravish her. Sex always puts a man in a great mood, if the sex is good. And let me tell you, sex with beautiful, young women is always good!

Do I love my wife? Yes, I do. Is there passion in our relationship? Not as much as there used to be.  As my wife and I have gotten older, her sexual desires have diminished.  She is more interested in being a grand mother than being my lover.  So I enjoy life with her more as a best friend.  My Sugar Baby is the woman who lights my fire.  My wife is more of a confidant, where my Sugar Baby is my muse and temptress.  I don't love my Sugar Baby the same way I love my wife but I care about her.  Am I interested in having a life with her, having children and being a husband to her? Not at all. 

A lot of young women find having a Sugar Daddy to be an enriching experience.  They get to be free spirits, have their sexual desires quenched and are shown experiences that broaden their horizons.  I have been a Sugar Daddy on and off for more than 20 plus years and would do it all over again.

Written by John Doe, Sugar Daddy & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby

"When I was a little girl, my mother instilled in me, "Anytime you are out with a man you should never have to open your pocketbook." I grew up thinking there was nothing unacceptable with what society deemed a Sugar Daddy and what my mother thought men should do, naturally." Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Right out of high school, I dated older men in their 30’s. There was the apartment that needed to be paid for, food in my fridge and pretty things to wear. At the same time, I was never with a gentleman based solely on his net worth. I actually liked the men I dated. I am too honest to be with someone just for their money.

Life with any of my Sugar Daddies has been a wonderful blend of traveling, gifts and financial allowance

One of my favorite trips was to Hawaii, first class all the way. Of course, I was lai’d as soon as I arrived, literally & figuratively. A limousine transported me to a stunning, cliff side resort. Our room overlooked the beach below the cliffs while the calming sound of crashing waves surrounded us. For a week we enjoyed multiple trips to the spa, sun bathing, sipping strawberry daiquiris, dining on delicious seafood dinners and the most blissful sex on the balcony looking out at the ocean with a light mist coating our bodies. There were lights at the bottom of the cliffs to attract manta rays. One night we talked about the beauty & grace of the manta rays feeding & swimming below our balcony. Those are priceless moments.

On my first trip with a former Sugar Daddy, we stayed at the Four Seasons Hotel. He gave me spending money and let me charge anything to the room. He was extremely considerate by arranging adjoining suites separated by a living room so there was no pressure for something to happen that wasn’t natural. The morning after the first night, my period arrived a week early. I dreaded telling him that we couldn’t do anything, even if I wanted, fearing that he would turn into an jerk. To the contrary, he was very understanding and we had a great time.

One of my most memorable gifts was a pair of the coveted designer Christian Louboutins

Oh, what those red soles will do to a woman! The most thoughtful gifts I have received were a Tiffany’s silver pen subscribed with my initials, a Tiffany’s leather business card holder, and a Tumi leather portfolio.

He told me, "these are the tools you will need to start your internship and be successful”.

One of my worst dates with a potential Sugar Daddy was with a racist CEO. I arrived at the bar to chat over drinks then go for dinner. Here’s what happened:

Him: “What would like to drink? I chose this spot for the elaborate drink menu.”

Me: “Great! Wow, this drink book is pretty big. Let me take a minute to look it over.”

Him: “Let me help you get to the right section. You black people like that sweet shit, right?”

Me: (dumbfounded) “Wow, really? One could view you as a racist for the question you just asked.”

Him: “What? I am not racist! It is scientifically proven that black people like sweeter stuff. See, you’re the problem running around claiming everyone is racist!”

Me: “I didn’t say you were racist. I stated one could view you as such with the question you asked me. Secondly, I do not go around claiming everyone is racist nor am I the problem. And, I definitely have not ever heard of such research, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. That also does not mean that your question was any less ignorant or abrasive.”

I left him in the middle of the date. I told him I was going to the bathroom and then leaving. I guess he didn’t believe me, because during my cab ride home he called but did not leave a message

On an initial date I look for things such as:

• Ease of conversation
• Mutual comfort
• Whether he’s genuinely interested in who I am or more interested in just talking about sex
• Whether he takes the lead in broaching the topic of allowance
• Gifts or money which are a pleasant surprise and much appreciated (and gain extra points) but in no way expected.
• Talk of coverage for rent, food, utility bills.

Having already obtained my Bachelor's and Master's Degrees, I am currently pursuing a Doctoral degree. An arrangement with a Sugar Daddy means not having to worry as much about balancing class attendance and an internship with paying student loans, seeking part time work that fits my quirky schedule while magically pull pennies from heaven to pay the rent. As a student, little luxuries are almost non-existent on a shoe string budget so stress can mount. Gifts, spa treatments, or any extras from a Sugar Daddy are a joy.

The disadvantages to dealing with a married man are the emotional & spiritual ups and downs

Support is limited no matter how badly he would like to give more. So while I may be the positive, upbeat cheerleader he needs, it is not equally reciprocated. Sometimes this upsets me.

When I’m sick in bed with the flu, he may not be able to bring me chicken soup

or massage my feet. But beautiful flowers may arrive at my doorstep, tenderly saying that he is thinking of me. Depending on how often I see my Sugar Daddy, physical satisfaction may not be as frequent or fulfilling since I can’t get that “sexual healing” as often as I may like.

Ideally, I would like to have just one Sugar Daddy in a mutually satisfying and beneficial relationship. But there have been times when I’ve had one, two or even three. It just depends on whether my needs are met.

Financial support usually comes from gentlemen who are at the top of their game

The knowledge and wisdom they inherently provide is priceless. The Sugar Daddies in my life wanted to see me succeed in my educational and career goals. So their mentorship is much wanted, needed and accepted.

Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Client Screening & Identity Protection

A Picture Tells a Thousand Words

“Taking pictures with your phone can reveal your location”

Vivian Ng, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries & Volunteer Staff for VerifyHim

The year 2010 revealed a lot of cool technology. Here are a few tidbits on how the adult community can benefit:

ICanStalkU.com is a site that’s raising awareness about Geo-Tagging features available on most smart phones. Geo Tagging is the process of adding geographic location data in the form of latitude and longitude inside of images. The location of where the  pictures were taken is encoded, enabling anyone to whom you send them to extract that location by looking it up on Google Maps. Many smart phones, including the popular I Phone, enable this feature by default. Scared yet? The advantage is that we can use this overlooked feature to track clients. Many providers request pictures of clients for screening. Many of those pictures are taken using smart phones.

I use a simple Firefox plugin called Exif Viewer  whenever I need to check the location of a photo on the internet. When you view a photo online or receive one in your mail box in Firefox, view the photo in its natural size by right-clicking on the photo and selecting ‘view image’. If you have installed the Firefox plug in, you can right click on the photo and select ‘view image exif data’. If there is any location data embedded inside the photo, the plug in will let you know and you can scroll down to view the results and then link it to Google Maps. Once in Google Maps, you can go to street view and check the whereabouts of the photo to see if the location might raise a red flag.

This feature is a stalker’s wet dream come true

On the other hand, if you send impromptu pictures to clients, make sure the files do not contain any location data. You can go to the aforementioned website and check for yourself. People upload their photos on Twitter all the time, unknowingly and dangerously revealing their location. Ever try to hunt down the location of a photo uploaded in an online classified ad?

The ICanStalkU website also provides instructions on how to turn off this advanced feature on your phone. Make sure you don’t accidently leak your location. For older photos, try Geotag Security. It removes the location information inside your photos.

Next time you receive or send pictures from clients, you know what to do.

Vivian Ng, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries & Volunteer Staff for VerifyHim.com

Who's Behind Geisha Affair?

Who's Behind Geisha Affair?

Recently, Terri and Claire, the dynamic team behind Executive Luxuries Virtual Assistant Service, expressed their curiosity about who's behind Geisha Affair. As GA's Marketing Director, here are the answers to their questions:

"The goal was to provide members with a refined concierge service which includes strong exposure through advertising, a familiar sense of community, stellar customer service and a user-friendly website dedicated solely to the global, escort and BDSM industries", Geisha Affair International

 

1. So what was the motivation and or thought process behind having started Geisha Affair, International? Some good friends who have been in the industry for many years would talk about the ups and downs of the business and rave about the high, monthly expense of advertising. Through our association with them, curiosity grew into research which triggered a fascination with the industry. Soon, we tapped into a need for an online, marketing platform catering to today's modern escort. We identified all of the shortcomings associated with like services and then married the concept with a level of customer service and compassion unparalleled by our competitors. Backed by a team of international investors, offices were established in the United States, South America and Europe. 
2. How long have you been doing this and how long has the site been online? The idea of Geisha Affair International was born more than three years ago. Construction of the website involved a meticulous process and more than one year in design and construction attended by a fully staffed design/programming team. The website has been live online for eight months. 
3. What drew you to the adult entertainment arena? We were drawn by the dynamic, undying fervor of a business that touches every corner of the globe 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Since the beginning of time, the nature of the escort industry has remained constant, transgresses all industries and encompasses everyday normal folks, just like you and me. 
4. Walk us through your typical day. An average day consists of attention to extensive, worldwide marketing projects; maintaining optimal functionality of the website; overseeing an international customer service staff; instant troubleshooting of any technical issues or questions (in partnership with our programming team) that arise from members; direct communication with members; regular communication with our legal counsel to ensure that Geisha Affair is in compliance; and ongoing identification and research of international markets to facilitate the expansion and awareness of Geisha Affair International.
5. What are the difficulties in running Geisha Affair International? Seasoning is crafted by the hands of time. As Geisha Affair resonates throughout the worldwide community, time brings more and more members. People get to know us, realize that Geisha Affair is different and fall in love with the website, the high level of customer service and all for which GA stands.
6. It's such an informative site. Tell us about a story that may have helped someone in the industry. You speak of Geisha Diaries, a special place where escorts can voice their thoughts, uncensored. Geisha Diaries verbalizes all that Geisha Affair represents. The hallmark article, "5 Biggest Mistakes Escorts Make" takes into account 5 critical mistakes as identified by successful and reputable ladies in the industry as far away as Singapore, United Kingdom and the U.S. The article is chalk full of valuable advice. Readers who choose to follow any bit of their insight are sure to benefit immeasurably. Just the other day we received a testimonial from an agency owner who sources Geisha Diaries to all of his ladies. Read here to see what he has to say. 
7. We read your post addressing the criticism you received for eventually wanting to charge for your services (Kudos to you!). Other than pricing what is your most consistent criticism? We have received and will always welcome constructive criticism as we feel that such advice comes from a place of support, just as we do. However, there is the occasional, pessimistic attitude of discouragement that Geisha Affair should not or will not succeed. Apparently, there are some folks out there who frown upon the advancement of Geisha Affair. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, such negativity is quickly replaced by the overwhelming amount of 'love mail' we continue to receive from members around the world praising the value of Geisha Affair and extending their best wishes. 
8. What are your short-term plans to expand the site? The answer requires another article in and of itself! We have many exciting, new features in the works, all designed around needs expressed by real people throughout the community. These features are fully outlined and already in developmental stages with our amazing team of computer programmers. These new features are scheduled to be launched in accordance with stages of advancement of Geisha Affair as the site continues to penetrate the worldwide industry. 
9. Do you receive any emails from the men (hobbyists) and what do they think of the site? Do you find yourself playing mediator between provider's v providers/ provider v hobbyist etc?  A few gentlemen have even requested some minor additions on the site that they felt were important which our programmers implemented immediately. Hobbyists play an integral role not only in the success of Geisha Affair but in the professional lives of every escort. We are receiving more and more feedback from ladies who are making connections with hobbyists through the website which is a big sign of success. To illustrate our inherent understanding of the dynamic that exists between Geisha Affair/escort/hobbyist, take a look at the seamless layout of this profile. And for hobbyists abroad, providers can opt to post multiple profiles in different cities, select from multiple languages and a currency converter to accommodate international clients. However, we do not mediate between parties as such action is not the nature of our business.
10. How many subscribers do you have worldwide? Worldwide subscribers exceed 1,000 members and that number is increasing daily. Membership reaches every city and country on the globe, wherever escorts exist. 
11. Wow you guys are truly a success story. What would you like the readers to take away from this 'peek behind the veil? Providers, hobbyists, BDSMers and all others in the adult world are folks with needs and desires just like anybody else. The founders of Geisha Affair felt a conviction to provide an online advertising platform that exceeds normal expectations. Geisha Affair is characterized by an authentic community feel that includes all of the necessary bells and whistles where escorts can feature their services without feeling like they're getting ripped off or taken advantage of. Right now, escort advertising is free. We realize that hobbyists are the bread and butter of any escort’s business and that is why they can post reviews free of charge. And when folks want to get the inside scoop, bond with others or express their opinions, they know that they can turn to Geisha Diaries, the Voice of Geisha Affair. 

Interview by Executive Luxuries with Geisha Affair International

BDSM Terminology, Part 2

Hello pets! Welcome to the continuation of your education in the kink world. Have you been bad? Let's hope so.

BDSM Guest Author for Geisha Diaries: Miss Veronica Volt, Pro-Domme at Deviant Domain, L.A.

                                                    Full toilet

FT for short. Scat and piss play. Full toilet can either deal with consumption or play with the waste. While urine is sterile and relatively safe to play with, feces isn't. For serious players who know what they're doing. Not for the faint of heart!! Be sure to discuss this fantasy in full detail with your Dominant.

Humiliation

Can be erotic, verbal, or physical.

Safe Word

A word that can signal that the Dominant has pushed the submissive's limits to the edge, that the play has become too much for the submissive to handle, or that the submissive needs a breather. This is especially helpful in role play where the words "stop" and "no" can be part of the act; the safe word is something not associated with play (ex: panda, banana, shoe). A safe word is agreed upon by both parties before play begins. I use "mercy" as mine to give to subs, but the "red, yellow, green" system works well too (red meaning stop, yellow meaning caution). The numbers system ("Is that a one or a ten?") is a good way to gauge the intensity of what you're doing. It is appropriate to come up with a hand or physical signal if the submissive is unable to communicate clearly verbally.

Edge Play

Geisha GirlThis can be very dangerous and should only be performed by seasoned and experienced players. The Dominant takes the submissive to the edge of their limits (ex. fire play, knife play, breath play are all good examples of taking it to the "edge").

Fetish

This can be applied to those not interested in being dominated or into traditional BDSM; such as golden showers, foot/boot/body worship, high heels, spanking, smells, latex, etc.

Pony Play

Exactly how it sounds. This can go as far as using a horse bit and saddle to simply riding on the back of the human pony (the latter being something I enjoy very much.) This can become extreme to dressing up as a horse such as this, or as simple as this, with a bit gag.

Shibari

Japanese Rope Bondage. Excellent examples can be found here. I believe the appeal of this is not just aesthetic but the strength found in the ties themselves. Very beautiful and a true treat for a submissive to enjoy.

Puppy Play

Exactly how it sounds. Can range from playful to strict and the submissive can act like a dog (barking, whimpering, walking on all fours, playing "dead", begging). I love playing with human puppies - it's probably the cutest form of animal play in my opinion because the affection one feels for a dog is transferred to the human dog when the latter takes on the characteristics of the former.

Feminization

Also known as "sissification", "sissy training", and "cross-dressing."

Subspace

Something to which every Dominant wants to push their submissive and what every submissive hopes to experience. A state of mind reminiscent of floating or feeling detached from their environment due to the rush of endorphins and connection they have with their Dominant. It's always a treat for me whenever a sub has a dreamy look in their eyes after a steady build-up of play.

Pay for Play

A term used colloquially by kinksters referring to professional Masters and Mistresses who earn income from playing.

Age Play

An aspect of role play. Usually falls under certain fantasies where the submissive is young (baby, child, student). Can also be part of infantilism.

Human Furniture

An activity where the submissive becomes objectified as a piece of furniture for the Dominant to use. It can coordinate with specific fetishes like foot fetish = foot stool. An excellent mainstream example of this would be from the movie Bruno in which Paula Abdul sits on a human chair and is served food off a human table.

Infantilism

Play that involves role play where the submissive is treated like an infant. It can involve dressing up like an infant (diapers, bib, bonnets, rattles, large bottles) and activities associated with babies (diaper changing, spanking, mother/child role play).
 
 

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