Placées - Black Sugar Babies of the 1700's

"The world of the sugar baby, companion or mistress has deep roots in cultures throughout time" Guest Author Texasugah

Imagine flowing, jewel toned silk, lace, satin and fine linens; a dressing room filled with the heady scent of French parfum; her closet filled with rows of handmade shoes and matching purses. Imagine a lady dressed in lovely foundations, corset and stockings; the walls of her townhome laden with art de jour and custom furnishings; a servant to cater to her whims and take away her daily cares while she awaits a visit from her lover; a world of decadence with elegant balls, dinners and passionate evenings.

Many know the story of Sally Hemmings once reported to be the most notorious woman in America.  Sally’s lifelong love affair with Thomas Jefferson was confirmed with DNA tests performed on their descendants in 1998. Yet there is another story of women of color who lived in their own high society in the South through the 1700 and 1800s.

The Plaçage (French for “to place with”) was a widely recognized system whereby free women of color enjoyed comfort as mistresses of wealthy white men

It was an open and respectable society in its own right. These women, known as placées, were generally maintained in city homes that were bought for them by their lovers (not unlike a Sugar daddy purchasing a townhome for his mistress). These ladies were considered Creole, quatroons (1/8^th black) or mulatto( ½ black) and prized for their beauty. In most cases, these women were well educated and multilingual. 

In these, “mariages de la main gauche” or left handed marriages, many of the women had children

Children born to these unions were not considered black but “gens de couleur” or people of color. The lovers arranged for the boys’ educations in prestigious private schools in France. In some cases, the boys returned to inherit their father’s businesses if there were no other male offspring. The girls were taught by governesses to become mistresses themselves because, in many cases, this was the best option for women of color.

Placées found themselves in a quandary. Existing outside of the general society, they were forbidden from legally wedding their white lovers, were accustomed to finery that the average Creole man could not provide and were too educated and elevated to consider freed slaves. Some who didn’t remain in a lifelong arrangement became courtesans who commanded $10 per hour when the average laborer made only $.22 cents per hour. A great number of the Placee women continued to establish their own small businesses, inherited and manage their own plantations.

The celebrated New Orleans Ballroom was once home to the Quadroon Ball

These opulent events were depicted in “The Courage to Love” featuring Vanessa Williams. Wealthy white southerners, of “good family” were invited to mingle with light-skinned women of color in hopes of acquiring mistresses (if only it was so easy to meet a sugar daddy today).  These men were predominantly in their early 20s and created families until they were able to take on “legitimate families “ as interracial marriage was illegal. Arrangements were generally negotiated by a woman’s mother. Typically, the parent were compensated (yes, mom got an allowance, too), complete care for the mistress and legal recognition of any children born of the union. Beyond complete support during the relationship, should her protector and lover die before her, she could challenge the courts for up to a third of his property.

An influx of Northern whites cast a shadow on the Plaçage society.  It was seen as reprehensible and this sentiment was fueled legally by bitter wives, religious and social activists. It was seen as a form of prostitution and was maligned despite the fact that for many decades these ladies outnumbered the number of free black men.  What was a lady to do? 

Famous Placées

Marie Susanne

A child of placage herself, entered into a life long placage with a planter. She successfully managed her own affairs and died in 1838 leaving an estate valued at over $ 1.5 million in 2011 currency.

Rosette Rochon

Born 1767, was the placage of both Joseph Forstal and Charles Populus, both wealthy White New Orleans Creoles. She leveraged her position to buy real estate in New Orleans. Throughout her career she purchased rental property, open grocery stores, bought and sold mortgages and rented out slaves. Her son became a government official in Haiti.

Marie Laveau

The voodoo queen of New Orleans, lived with her lover Dumesil de Glapion. He was so in love with her that he refused to live separately from her and posed as a man of color to keep their relationship respectable. They had fifteen children. One of them, Marie Euchariste or Marie LeveauII, looked so much like her mother that many thought Marie had been resurrected.

Over the years, the extraordinary story of these beautiful ladies has been largely forgotten taking with it a very unique and vibrant culture. 

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Sugar Baby, Texasugah

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Geisha Affair Blows Away Eros

Geisha Affair: the Sexy Alternative

We all know Eros to be very expensive. Eros certainly does not favor the provider. The owners nickel and dime us for every extra feature you can possibly fathom. We pay extra for everything – VIP ads, multiple profiles, extra photos, extra features and editing of profiles.  We work so hard for our money and it doesn’t come easy. I truly believe Eros thinks we are all rich and are just out to profit from us! They have no compassion for the fact that economic times are tough for everyone.

As providers from all walks of life we strive to market ourselves on websites that deliver the best results for our money. As an established provider, I have tried them all. I have wasted money on some, profited from others and am still paying crazy prices on one site with which we are all familiar.

Recently, I learned about Geisha Affair. What a breath of fresh air! For so long I, myself and many of my friends only dreamed of an advertising website run by people who actually care about us as individuals. Can you imagine? They’re not just out ‘to get us’, gouging with ridiculous fees just to make a buck. Eros banks - big time - on our hard earned dollars! In fact, I’ve heard that they make millions. You do the math. There are hundreds of thousands of ladies all over the country forking out the dough every month.

When I feel very passionate about something, I want to voice my enthusiasm which is why I wrote this article. Just like me, if you’ve got something to share, GA is listening. If you’ve got a topic you want to talk about, GA is all ears. They truly are the Voice of the Community and I know why.

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This is what I’ve learned about GA and the folks there who run the show:

GA is a classy, elegant site with tons of features and tools in a user friendly environment that really does blow Eros out of the water. I can honestly say this because I’m not super tech savvy like a lot of people I know. So this is something that I can really appreciate.

GA sports all of the benefits of Eros, only about 100 more. But…there are some very important features that catapult GA as the leaders. GA targets all of the major and minor cities not only in the U.S. but in Canada, Europe, Asia and Australia. If you don’t see your city, just ask and GA will add it for you like, instantly. For me, that’s very important. If I am touring and the only available city in which to place my ad is in a neighboring city my exposure and therefore business can suffer. As an example, it’s frustrating to subscribe to “Orlando-Tampa” when you are in Sarasota or Ft. Myers. And you can easily place multiple profiles under one membership in different cities. If you decide that you’re not going to be in one of the cities you can opt to put them on ‘standby mode’.

Has anyone noticed all the pop up windows that litter the Eros website? And all of those raunchy sex sites that leave you dizzy with headache while you’re trying to view your own profile. In fact, our profiles have to compete with all of those greedy, cheesy sex ads. I thought I was paying for viewers to see my profile. But it seems as though I’m paying for Eros to profit (even more!) from sex web cams, sex friend sites, etc.  I’ve noticed that GA does not believe in distracting viewers with shady sex sites competing with our profiles because they are simply not there. Now that’s what I call class and quality.

And the photos? No need to crop and mess around with sizing and all of that nonsense. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to call Eros to get the sizing right on my pictures. They’re so complicated! Or, I do get it uploaded but it’s tiny and requires a magnifying glass to see. What’s the point in spending all that money for crappy looking photos or spending all of my valuable time doing what should be very easy?

Not the case at GA (heavy sigh). The folks at GA obviously spent a lot of time getting it right. Uploading your photos on GA is so seamless and easy, even my cat could do it. You get 15 – huge, larger-than-life photos plus your avatar and main profile picture. Talk about visuals. Wow!

By the way, you can upload your own video. Oh. And you don’t have to pay extra for this amazing marketing tool. This is too cool! GA has a place for client reviews. And comments are moderated (I asked) which makes me feel safe. Navigation is similar to that of Eros but much, much easier.

In case you haven’t heard, GA has a Free Trial Membership going on right now. But I know for a fact that once advertising fees kick in costs will be a mere fraction of what we all pay on Eros.

What I find quite flattering is that if I ever need anything or have any questions, GA has amazing 24/7 customer service with immediate response and instant profile approval - not 48 hours. They really care and are not just out to rape us with fees. In fact, one of the partners is a well known female photographer.

Though GA is a beautiful and highly functional website, let’s talk about what really matters. After I placed my profile on this hot, new meeting ground, appointments began contacting me from a more upscale clientele. GA is rapidly building traffic and gaining exposure all over the world. The word is spreading like wild fire. The muscle of this website and the strength of its partners are not to be taken lightly, folks.

I am glad I took the time to be a smart provider, did my research and am now a part of the GA family. We’ve all been waiting for folks like these to step up to the plate and become the real Voice of the Community. I recommend joining GA now while you can still get a complimentary profile.

Keri Diamonds, Contributing Author for Geisha Diaries

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I Feel Pretty-The Feminization of Men

"I won't deny it. When I see a man with feminine features - high cheekbones, a thin figure, a trim waistline, flat toned belly, full lips, luscious, long lashes - something in me stirs and I want to ravage that poor boy senseless." Mistress Veronica Volt

These boys teasing me in their skinny jeans and girlish good looks are enough to give me the vapors! 

Speaking of which, I do like it when a man exhibits other feminine characteristics

When I encounter cross dressers, I can't help but stare and blush but not out of embarrassment or shame or disgust. All I want to do is flirt with them and take them home with me. A man who dresses up as a woman is not pathetic in my eyes, especially if he does it right. Boys who wear panties (especially the cute, frilly ones) or wear an adorable wig or show a bit of personal style in their clothing are the ones that race my pulse. Boys, boys, boys, you don't know what you do to me!

In my profession, I get such treats all the time. Making a man wear a slinky nightie or polka dot thigh-highs while he presents himself to me are the highlights of my career, next to wearing a strap on and impaling him with my big cock!

Being fucked in the ass by a gorgeous, dominant female is comparable to fellatio and ménage à trios

Did you know that it is a common fantasy for men? It stimulates the prostate, delivers an alarmingly kinky and sexy visual (especially if you do it in front of a mirror) and gives the woman necessary power over the man. By switching the traditional role reversals, she becomes the masculine and he becomes the feminine.

I will say this to every woman I will ever meet who dares ask me: try it. You must. Once you do, you probably won't go back to vanilla sex. And even if you do, your thoughts will always stray to the time you fucked that boy's ass silly! There is something absolutely intoxicating about it.

Perhaps my own bisexuality plays into it

and I feel that I can have the best of both worlds: a man who acts like a woman but has the necessary parts to have fun in any situation I choose. Or, it could be like have my own living doll. Who here hasn't dressed up Ken in a fun party dress and imagined what it would've been like if Barbie just showed him who was boss? I have. Going back to my original train of thought, I find it incredibly sexy when a man desires to become feminine through tampon training (sticking a tampon up his ass as a form of sympathy for the female cycle as well as empathy in order to become closer to the women he imitates), make-up application, cross dressing and slut training.

Feminizing a man can produce therapeutic effects and put him more in touch with a human side that society has deemed taboo. I have yet to meet a man who didn't worry about how his kink effected other people's perceptions of him. So when he is with me, dressing up or bending over, he is relinquishing that social stigma and embracing a new freedom by enjoying an act that our culture has forbidden.

The fact is that there's a little woman in all of us

We start out in the womb as biologically female until hormones are introduced to make that XX into an XY. It's no wonder that on some level, men respond to this feminine urge like a primal blood call.

Making a man your bitch can be terrible punishment, too

It's not all about making him happy, though. A man who enjoys his sexual prowess and confidence in his masculinity will immediately lose that if you lock him up in a chastity device and force him to wear silky undergarments. Making him your ultimate maid slave can be an elaborate form of training. His servitude will mean that you are enforcing a "chain of command" by treating him as a submissive female, that you are the Head Bitch and that he is there for your guidance. With you, he can manifest that side of his true feminine self.

Written by Veronica Volt, a Mistress at Deviant Domain & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries 

The Secret Life of a High End Mistress

A Lonely Man's Craving

I am not what people assume I should be. I do not have a pimp, I do not work for anyone except myself and I am not on drugs. I am a middle aged, college educated woman. I am not forced to work as a sex worker and for the record we prefer to be referred to as “providers”. I have so many common denominators with society that it shocks people when I tell them what I do for a living. I am a freak and I love to have sex with men.

It Hit me in a Place Pretty Close to Guilt

I watched a show today that featured a family from the other side of the world. I could not understand their language, but I knew right away the nature of the relationship between the two females. It was a mother and daughter going in circles about the daughter’s loud music.

How did I know that? Well, I have a teen who maintains her music on “call the police” level and I know how irritated I get. The body language I saw between this mother and her daughter looked very familiar. It hit me in a place pretty close to guilt. Originally I thought watching this program was a waste of time because I had nothing in common with the stars of the show. How mistaken was my assumption.

She is Forced to Sell Her Body

How many times have you seen a news break “special report” about the adult entertainment industry and immediately launched into your own concept of some cruel, greedy, outrageously dressed man slapping a seemingly innocent young girl around and making her work as a prostitute? You thought, OMG she is forced to sell her body, she must have a black pimp, she is on drugs, her life is so pathetic and where are her parents? I will be the first to admit there are real life dramas exactly as I have described.

I come from a different world. I am known as a high end provider.

I must also admit that I HATE pimps and I am a sex worker. We make people very nervous. A close friend who is very sex industry friendly told me why we make people nervous. We are not outlandishly obvious about what we do. We are well spoken, well liked, very friendly, dress conservatively, manage our health well, have children, friends and look like every day, normal women. This combination alone makes people very nervous. We are supposed to be ghetto, loud, ignorant, pimped, high on drugs and carry the demeanor of an uninformed adult. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are capable of instantly causing people to rethink their misgivings about exactly who is a verifiable, high end sex worker.
 

There is a huge market for my services

and I am mentally secure in my decision to put a for sale sign on my time. I conduct my business as a business, because it is a business. I do not engage in unsafe practices with my clients. I do not see just anyone. I don’t show up for an appointment looking like anything anyone ever expects. I am not the hot, blond girl who weighs 100lbs at 5’10. I am not the 20-year old waltzing through a hotel lobby with all my goods hanging out, drunk, loud and looking the role of a ho. Look very carefully at your surroundings the next time you are out and about.

It is me sitting in the corner of a hotel bar

with a jogging suit, a baseball cap, light make-up, sneakers. But oddly enough, my nails and smooth skin are flawless. I am ordering top shelf and my perfume is very expensive. I am the woman who valet parks the average vehicle. No one notices the man in the designer suit walking past the bar or that I walk out of the bar 10 minutes later. No one knows I am wearing La Perla lingerie underneath my jogging suit; that my hair stuffed under my baseball cap is cut and styled to perfection; that my make-up is professionally applied to make it look natural or my body which is toned to perfection. No one will notice as I slip out of this hotel in a few hours with a few thousand dollars.

A few shocking things. This is what I do two days a week several times each day. OMG stop the presses:

I am BLACK

not light-bright-damn-near white.  I am dark, co co brown. I am the secret mistress to hundreds of lonely men who have a co co obsession. I know they have a co co obsession, because they see all my co co friends. As my clients travel, they need their co co fix so my home girls and I all trade information about our clients.

Surprise!

A', contributing author for Geisha Diaries