City Girls Reveals Their Secrets

As a specialist in the adult industry, I interact every day with clients, friends and associates striving to increase their business and step up their game. Many succeed while some do not. The escort industry has become somewhat of a revolving door, totally saturated with competition since the economy took a turn for the worst several years ago. As a result, the rules have changed. The one common thread that rises to the surface behind every successful person in the adult industry (or any industry for that matter) is that they all have a plan. They are all business people and are not afraid to take chances in implementing their plans. What secrets do they share? I came across City Girls and found them to be somewhat of an enigma in this cut throat, sometimes heartless industry where someone is always nipping at your heels. Mike, founder and owner of City Girls, agreed to opened up and share with our readers his personal side as the brains behind the business. If only one reader benefits from a few of Mike’s words, then this article was a success.  

1. City Girls has quickly emerged as a prominent private club in the adult entertainment industry thick with competition. What’s your secret?
   I guess, I won't say the main secret, because the competition might get thicker...LOL...just kidding. But actually there are some facts which helped me bring City Girls to the level it is right now. First of all, you need to know the industry you are in. I have been in it for quite a bit now and it helped me to understand what hobbyists like and what providers want. Secondly, I’m familiar with IT technology (web development, programming, telecommunication, data protection etc.). We have a proffessional full time team working on just our projects. Since technology is infiltrating our lives every day more and more, it's good to be progressive and technologically savvy in the adult industry as well. Our members love it. Thirdly, I follow this simple goal: "Convert a new client into a regular client". Sounds simple, but you need to work at it! Do everything possible for a client to want to work with you again in the future, even if you need to invest something extra (for example, by offering incentives to our new VIP members after they have been introduced to City Girls, we are sure they will be back again.) So, when you combine these 3 factors, you get a successful organization in any type of business in any industry.
2. How do you blend your personal life with your business life? 
   Like with every new project when you start it takes all your time and then time to spend with your family becomes very limited. The first year was hard for me to find a minute for my family. I take my hat off to my wife for her undying patience! Because City Girls operates in different sectors, delegating a responsible manager in each sector gave me more flexibility with my time. Before this approach, I was doing everything myself. It was exhausting! But unless you try everything yourself you won't know how to improve it. So, now I almost have a set schedule but time zones are always a challenge.
3. We’ve spoken a few times and I got the sense that you are a perfectionist. On what basis do you set your standards? 
   I like everything to be perfect. When things run differently, it really bothers me and I get annoyed. I try to control that. I think I got it from my dad. He put it inside me, when I was a kid.
4. What did you do before you founded City Girls? 
   Before City Girls, I started from the very possible beginning - driving escorts in a busy, low class agency. After 2-3 months, I was offered a position answering phones. I worked there for about a year and a half, then left to open my own agency with a partner. We ran that for about 2 years. Then our roads went different ways (which is common for many agency owners). I had plans about City Girls in my head and I wanted to develop it myself, because I knew I was capable.
5. What do you do for fun? 
   I like to camp, fish and hunt. I like to visit the shooting range and play cards. I also like to experiment with restaurants and try different cuisines, even the strangest ones. I’m a fan of Chinese teas. I like to get together with my friends on Sunday evenings and taste all sorts of great Chinese teas. I have a good collection.
6. City Girls shuts down during the summer months. That sort of business practice is almost unheard of here in the United States! Why do you conduct CG that way?
   The major reason is in the answer number 2, of course. I spend a couple of quality months with my family, traveling mostly. And another reason is that for this past summer, we needed to make a lot of changes to our website and improve our customer support. The only time when I can concentrate on City Girls’ improvements is when no one is calling me, emailing me, talking to me – when I’m just by myself in the room. It takes a lot of time and the only way for this to happen is to close for the summer. Also, most of the hobbyists take off from hobbying during the summer period. If there would be the same demand for escort services during the summer months, believe me, I would find a way for City Girls to operate. I know that this might disappoint our VIP members not being able to book with us during summer, but we have made some good recommendations while we were away. I hope they were helpful! Actually they were because I received positive feedback from the people we recommended.
7. Do you ever become friends with any of the girls or clients on City Girls? 
   I consider a friend to be a person who I would invite to my home and who I can tell personal stuff, which I wouldn’t tell anyone else. Would I ever want to become friends with any of the girls or clients of City Girls? Probably not. I never meet with anyone in this business personally and I would like to keep it that way.

Interview by Geisha Diaries Publisher, Meeshee

An Interview with Christie L'Amour XXX

Vertical Kitty was allured by the lovely and ever so gracious Christie L'Amour, porn actress turned independent escort. What fascinated us most is Ms. L'Amour's business saavy to not only carve her niche as a well known adult actress but her ability to run her business as a successful, female entrepreneur. Ms. L'Amour has resisted the common social stigma associated with porn actresses by maintaining a healthy, balanced lifestyle. She is totally fullfilled by her business, associates and friends and it shines through her calming yet vivacious attitude. We could all stand to learn a lot from her!

Ms. L'Amour's business as a professional adult actress continues to thrive. She applies a rather eccentric approach in that her associates are exclusively family members. While some may find this type of partnership rather arresting, she atttributes the success of her business to the trust and respect that they all share as cousins and siblings.

Ms. L'Amour opened up to us in a series of questions that will provide the reader with intimate insight about her professional life:

Q: How did you get into the adult entertainment industry?

A: I had been working with my cousin Giancarlo for several years as his assistant in the insurance industry.  We found ourselves victims of the crash in the financial markets and started working second and third jobs to make ends meet.  It just so happened that I showed Giancarlo a want ad for a night driver. No one knows the roads better than him. He was hired immediately as a driver working for an escort agency. One evening, I offered to ride with him. He was driving two escorts who were each working for two different agencies. It turned out to be a busy night and at one point the girls were about to drop an assignment. While my cousin and the two ladies argued about who was going to deliver the bad news to the agency I jumped in and offered to take on the assignment. Everyone shut up. The two escorts gave me their makeup and heels and I was off. Wow. Everything turned out great and I was hooked. It sure beat my other jobs by far. A few weeks later, I asked my cousin to connect me with the agencies and the rest is history. After a month working for the agencies, I became an independent escort. Giancarlo had some friends in the adult industry who got me some gigs acting in adult movies. We both dropped all our other endeavors and focused our efforts on the adult business. Now, he works for me…LOL…as my Boy Toy and male talent. I keep him busy and the benefits are great! There is a huge line behind him wanting to step in for the Boy Toy position.  Giancarlo is family so until he retires I will keep things the way they are.

Q: Talk about the ‘family’ concept behind your business

A: This may sound a bit unusual, but I was raised in a very conservative family along with my 4 younger sisters. Our cousin, Giancarlo, was the only male with whom our dad would allow us out of the house. Our dad loved him. My dad was ex-military and Giancarlo had attended a military academy. Boy, did he have our dad fooled and wrapped around his finger. He was like a fox in a hen house. I and two of my other sisters lost our virginity to him. No regrets…it was fun. We have all been great friends and lovers through the years. No Drama just a great relationships. He has taken us to swinger’s events and clubs and that’s how we all turned out to be bisexual. So, play among all of us is quite natural.

All of my sisters have since married, some successfully and others not so much. I have stayed single and will probably never marry. I am happy with my lifestyle and have everything I want.

The concept about play with family clicked among hobbyists from the beginning.  Together, we offer many different sessions for couples, single women and men. Giancarlo also works independently with couples, ladies and men just as I do. He is a great photographer and videographer. Sometimes when they are available, one of my sisters will join. It has been a huge success.

The great thing about working with Family is that we understand each other and think alike. We focus on our clients and their complete satisfaction. It’s great to work with others who share the same objectives and we trust each other with our lives. I feel truly blessed.

Q. How do you maintain such a hectic tour schedule while managing your personal life?

A: Without my cousin's help, I could never do it all by myself. There is so much that has to be handled that it would be overwhelming for one person. The great thing is that we really love what we do. Mixing business with pleasure is never an issue because pleasure is my business. I love how that sounds.

Q: Describe the difference for you between filming adult movies and escorting

A: Escorting is a lot more fun that filming adult movies. I get to spend quality time and build relationships with my clients which I enjoy more than anything. This does not happen in adult film. Also, staging a movie is strenuous and requires a lot of time and effort. People do not realize how much a film is edited and what it takes to film a porn shoot. The constant stopping of action and posing makes it more work than fun. Although, I must admit, I love the camera and it gets me very hot and horny to know that I am being watched. That is what I love most about adult films. I am a true exhibitionist.

Q: Profile your best client

A: My best client is a person who calls to set up an appointment and before I have to ask, has already forwarded me all his information for screening and fantasy request. He doesn’t ask questions beyond when is the best time to meet. He will never send multiple text messages, call or email repeatedly to get pumped up for the experience. He will arrive on time and will either be perfectly groomed or will ask to use my facilities to freshen up. He will always respect my wishes and play safely. He is respectful of my time just as I am respectful of his. He will ask in advance before giving my name as a reference. Above all, he is a person who will treat me the way he would like to be treated. Relationships are built on trust and respect. When those two elements are present everything is magical and we are blessed with the light and energy of the universe. That's when the real fun and passion can be experienced.

Q: You are a club member of City Girls. How does that work for you?

A: I have a deep respect for the operation and staff at City Girls. As a club of independent escorts, they are by far the most professional group in existence today. For years we have exchanged references. I once commented that I admired the way they worked and they responded by offering me membership in their club. I hope to contribute to them with the experience I have gained over the years and know that I will benefit as well. I love that as an independent provider, City Girls compliments my efforts. We are both very organized in our business approach. I will work hard to introduce them to many new markets and I know they will do the same for me. I also hope to work with some of the other beautiful City Girls club members providing special sessions whenever our schedules overlap. It’s great to be able to offer variety. I also want to turn my large list of friends to City Girls because I am not able to be everywhere at the same time. I care about my friends and if I can introduce them to other independent escorts through City Girls I will sleep well knowing they will be safe in caring hands.

Q: What advice can you give to folks entering into the adult entertainment world today?

Whether you want to become an indepdent escort or an adult actress it is a career choice that can be exhilarating, exciting, and rewarding. You will only get out of it what you invest. Above all, you have to understand why you want to do it and must commit with heart and soul. Working in the adult industry is not something that you can fake. Either you love it or you don’t do it. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated and always play safe. Always.

Written by Vertical Kitty, Adult Content Writing Service

A Transexual Romance

His name was Colt. He was 6’4 and blond with cool, blue eyes. He wore a tight, white t-shirt that attractively revealed the outline of a 6-pack. He walked in with confidence and a swag that turned heads. We had seen each other many times at a local restaurant. There was always eye contact but never an introduction or conversation. I felt a connection of sexual energy from across the room and intuitively felt that one day it would happen. But I didn’t know how much he knew about me. Back then, I didn’t have the confidence to make the first move. Plus, he always had some girl hanging on his every word, so why bother? Someone like him would never be interested in someone like me. 

It was getting late and I was about to go home but decided to go to the restroom first. The bathroom was gritty with a dim light that buzzed and flickered on and off. To my surprise, I saw him standing in front of me as I opened the door. A little nervous, I excused myself and turned to exit while he finished his business. He chuckled and told me that he was done and that it was all mine. As he walked past, we barely touched for the first time and lightning bolted in my panties. Suddenly, chills crept over me and I almost lost my breath. The rugged scent and pure power of his body rubbing against mine was almost more than I could handle. 

Almost out the door, he stopped. No words were spoken because our eyes did the talking for us. I pushed back and he closed the door. I heard the click as it locked. His body pushed me against the wall and his lips touched mine. He kissed me like I have never been kissed in my life. I could not breath or move. As our eyes locked, his hands held my face as I opened my mouth wider and gave him more room for his tongue to explore. I was so taken away by this moment I lost myself. I was in the middle of a fantasy this wasn't real. I felt my panties get really tight and very wet. 

As his hand moved over my body towards my crotch I went into a panic. Did he know? I tried to speak but he pushed his mouth into mine. I tried to push him away so I could tell him. It was too late. His hand was under my dress and in my panties and he didn't stop. He saw the fear and confusion in my eyes and whispered, “I like it”. I closed my eyes and allowed him to take control of my body. He  pulled my panties down and touched me. I could have had a orgasm right there in his hand but I held on.  I wanted it to last. I had never felt so close to someone as I did in that moment. It was like he knew my body because he was doing things and making me feel like I have never felt before. 

My dress was on the floor and his pants were down to his knees. We were still kissing but now our hands were all over each other. His lips worked their way down to my nipples, cupping my breast in his free hand while stroking me in the other. I was wet & hard and ready to explode. I would get close and he would stop. It was really like he knew my body. He enjoyed teasing me. His hands then moved to either side of my ass and lifted me onto the bathroom sink. He pushed himself between my legs forcing me to spread them open more to allow him to get closer to me. The feeling of his hard body against mine and his big penis was very pleasurable.  

He slipped a finger inside of me. His hands were magic but his mouth was unbelievable . He was between my legs licking me while stroking me at the same time. I tried to keep my moans low so no one would hear us. He took me to sexual levels I had never known before. He raised and began to kiss me hard & push his body deeper against mine. The tip of his penis was against my ass and driving me crazy. I was pulsing as he pushed in and pulled out. I could take no more of his teasing so I pushed down on his hard cock and allowed him to enter me. I saw his eyes close as he was all the way inside of me. I felt my body convalescing his hands stroking up and down on my penis & his lips pushed against mine as his penis was going in and out of my ass. I could not take it any longer. I clenched and released myself all over the both of us. I screamed even with his mouth  covering mine. I opened my eyes a couple of seconds later and saw that he was getting close. I laid back, opened my legs and allowed him to go deeper inside me until I felt his body slamming as he tensed up with pleasure and exploded. 

We both fell to the floor and lay next to each other soaked in sweat while we kissed. I looked into his eyes and for the first time in my life saw someone who was looking back at me with real feelings rather than confusion or contempt. Was it love? Was it just sexual attraction? It didn't matter. I felt like a whole person. We cleaned up not saying a word. He looked at me once we were both dressed and handed me his number, telling me that he wanted to do this again. He wanted to take me out on a real date at a real restaurant but most of all wanted to make love to me in a real bed. I felt so fulfilled. 

I did call him and we did go on that date and we did have more wild sex adventures. We dated for just under a year.

Written by Guest Author for Geisha Diaries & Transexual, Tasha Jones

Eros Films on Producing Your Video

"Making a video of yourself shouldn’t be a scary thing but it does require planning and forethought" Meeshee

Last month, Geisha Diaries was pleased to post the article, “Video: The Ultimate in Escort Marketing” authored by the classy Ms. Claudia Cole. Ms. Cole made a gutsy decision to take the marketing of her business to a more sophisticated level. She got together with Marco of Eros Films to produce some jaw dropping short films that have become the pinnacle of her success. She hasn’t looked back. Of course, I had to go to the source and speak with Marco, the mastermind behind Eros Films, to find out how it’s done. Marco is a cool, easygoing artist with tremendous talent and a flare for making escorts look remarkable on film. This is the sequel to Ms. Cole’s article. If your business is struggling, you want to take it to the next level (more like 20 levels), or you want to develop a new persona, read on.

A lot of escorts are leery about working with male photographers or in your case, videographers because they often bear all. What can you say to allow escorts to feel safe with you? 

I can understand how a female provider could feel leery about working with a male videographer. However, when you see our work, talk to us by phone, skype or even in person, she will feel comfortable right away. She will quickly sense our professionalism and realize that all of our attention is focused on making the most powerful and mesmerizing film. We focus on high quality, artistic, cinematic and cutting edge videos. We use the best HD cameras, lighting techniques and cutting edge editing. Our videos are filmed to attract a sophisticated and selected clientele who are looking for something unique in a companion. Our professional and courteous female crew consist of a makeup artist and key wardrobe consultant. They  are present during shoots and creating an easy and relaxed environment.

What advice can you give to a companion preparing for her video?

My advice to a companion is to come relaxed and rested. Avoid drinking alcohol the night before, since alcohol can bloat the face. She should come prepared to show her most sensual attitude in front of the camera. As experienced film directors and directors of photography, we will coach her to bring out her best. Our professional makeup artists and wardrobe stylists will bring out her best. Prior to filming the video, we go through the pre-production stage where we talk about all the elements necessary for the shoot. Following these steps will really prepare a companion for the shoot.

What advice can you give to the companion who wants to make an impact with her video but feels that she doesn’t have a perfect body?

This may sound cliché, but I truly believe that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Every companion has an angle, side or pose that brings out her beauty the most. We apply all of our experience, lighting techniques, creativity and editing to bring out her best.

Does an escort have to have a perfect body to film a high impact, super sexy video? 

I think ‘perfect’ is a subjective word. What is perfect for one might not be perfect for another. It is important for us to listen carefully to our clients (who are providers). We pay close attention and really hear their needs, requests and style. After accumulating all of this information, we carefully plan our lighting, composition and editing in order to enhance our client’s beauty and bring out her best physical and sensual attributes. Our goal is to make her look beautiful, tempting and delightful at all times.

Do you see video replacing stills? 

I believe that nothing will replace still photography. It will always be classic and timeless. But when it comes to promotion and attention gathering streams, video is the new standard. Today, people are promoting more services and products through video. With the availability of new technologies such as powerful mobile devices and fast data speeds, people are watching video more than ever. Therefore, there is an advantage of video over photography. Videos are tri-dimensional mediums that combine imagery, sounds and effects. These combined variables make video a more dynamic way to showcase a companion’s physical, sensual and personality traits in a quick, yet artistic and enticing way.

What is an average, ball park cost of to film a video with Eros Films? 

Prices vary depending on the type of video a provider would like to shoot. We have three packages to offer. My advice to all providers is to contact us. Share a theme, story line or idea and a budget for this marketing investment. We will recommend the right package for them and the price list.

What is an average length of video? 

Between two and half minutes to three minutes.

Do you film couples, pornographic or erotic footage? 

We will consider any client’s request and approach it with style and taste.

Explain a little about your services 

Our services include: 

• Script development or co-development;
• Direction and direction of photography;
• Make up and editing;
• Professional lighting;
• State of the art HD cameras 

In a recent GD article written by Claudia Cole, she talks about her experience with Eros Films and the process of producing her video.  What advice can you give readers with regard to your experience with the filming of Claudia’s videos?

Shooting with Claudia was great. She came to the shoot very well prepared and had a clear idea of what she wanted to achieve on both videos, so that prior pre-production work made the shoot flow smoothly. We had about three phone conversations a couple weeks before the shoot and talked about the concept she wanted, wardrobe and locations needed. We exchanged ideas, and we came up with a very well thought out plan that allow me to estimate and suggest the equipment and techniques that we were going to use in order to achieve the look, style and feel of the story. Once we arrived at her location, we set up lighting, cameras and other gear. As soon as her makeup was ready, we started to shoot. Things went as we expected on both shoots and we achieved all the visuals that we wanted to obtain.

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As filmmakers, we need to know our client's goals. We want to listen to her ideas and marketing needs. Communication is very important. Having plenty of phone conversations, skype or even face-to-face meetings (whenever possible) will allow us all to be on the same page and create a winning plan. 

We are creating a very powerful promotional tool and the more we know about a companion’s goals for these videos the better we can advise her on the many details that make a difference. It is important to decide in advance what outfits go into play, locations, music, lighting, composition and editing. All combined will make an impact on past, regular and future clients for the provider.

Following these words of advice will lead to a smooth shoot and allow us to obtain all the visuals necessary to complete the story.

Written by Geisha Diaries Publisher, Meeshee

Isolation in Sex Work

"Working in the adult industry, especially when you are an independent provider, is an isolated lifestyle disconnected from common culture" Phone Sex Secrets

I began escorting at an agency. I went to sit with the other girls on each of my shifts rather than waiting at home for my pager to buzz (yes, it was pagers back then!). I went not because the agency was centrally located but for the company. What began as a means to learn the ropes of the sex worker industry quickly became a desire for camaraderie. Even when I developed a number of regulars, I still wanted to make sure I had some time to hang out with my sex work sisters. Decades later, I'm only more aware of that need.

On the average, folks don’t accept sex work. Our families, whether innate or married and our friends all have reasons why we ought not subject them to our choice of occupation.  This forces the necessity for sex workers to lead double lives. 

While our silence may begin as a gift to those we love, at some point it becomes a gag.  Even the most sex positive and open minded friends really can't grasp what we do. Existing long enough without a support system who can listen, commiserate and really comprehend what our days are like can lead to feeling misunderstood, unappreciated and unaccepted. These emotions can lead to deeper feelings of depression, resentment and withdrawal.

Our careers themselves add to the isolation. We grow wary of being ousted, unsure of who to trust. How long will they be in this work? Who do they know? And, truth be told, we are a competitive lot, especially if we are independent professionals. We have to be because we are in competition with one another in many ways, at least in terms of separating ourselves from the rest of the pack. Even the ease and affordability of the internet and other digital technologies render us more alone most of the time. The results are that we don't wish to share too much about our private lives, our professional experience or knowledge, ourselves, winding up even more entrenched in our state of seclusion.

I'm sure many readers are acutely aware of these feelings of isolation in their personal lives. But some may silently suffer from more and more burn out, summing it up to demands of the job.  While sex work is far more demanding than most people realize, it's not the only factor in losing interest. In fact, it's only half of the equation. The other half is a good support system.

The more demanding the sex work is, the greater the need is for a support system.  But how do you find or create one in the sometimes harsh and difficult circumstances of sex work?

Forums and online groups for escorts, PSOs (phone sex operators) and other sex professionals are good places to start. Even forums for erotica authors can be welcoming places, especially when you dabble in offering custom erotica. Often, however, you'll find yourself avoiding personal and professional questions alike in these online communities -- for all the reasons mentioned earlier. (I always do recommend exercising caution in online communities.) At least that's likely how you'll feel at the start.

Over time you'll find yourself conversing more regularly with a few people, hopefully building a virtual friend or two. Virtual friends help, of course! But even if you want to meet, schedules, etc. may not allow for it. At least not as often as you'll need.

Another way to begin building a support system for yourself is by getting out into the world meeting other people who work in the adult industry. One of the best ways to do this, honestly, is to get involved in some sort of activism. I, naturally, recommend joining some sort of group working for sex workers rights, or at least a sex-positive organization. Not only because I believe working towards an end to the stigmas of sex and sex work will lead to less isolated lives for each of us as individuals, but because when you do "out" yourself as a sex worker, you're likely to be understood and respected. Plus, working towards a goal larger than yourself gives you a healthy dose of perspective.

You can always begin by forming an online alliance or virtual working relationship before participating in any real world gathering. And, if you are worried about being identified in your home town or base of operations, locate groups with meetings and events you can attend but which are not in your own town. 

Another place to look for like minded folks in similar situations is at the book signings and readings of works by erotica editors and human sexuality authors. I find there are always a great number of sex workers in attendance at these events and the bigger the name of the author or editor, the bigger the crowds. Start following some of the most recognized names in these publishing genres (which often is just plain good sense for business, anyway), and you'll soon find yourself sipping drinks with folks with similar i­ssues in their lives.

College and university campuses also have forums and events centered on sexual topics, from lectures and workshops, to screening of adult films and documentaries.  There are even places online where you can find or start "meet ups" for sex workers. Don't look for clients at these events; but you can find friends.

Most of these events, especially those on campus and book related, are most commonly held in larger cities. Escorts and companions who travel might find this is the best of both worlds: out and about socially yet not in your home town. But smaller towns have them too.  Just like sex workers, sex positive events and folks are out there. You just have to go looking for them.

Written by Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Phone Sex Secrets

How to Find a Sugar Daddy Online

Geisha Diaries caught up with one of our Guest Authors, Butterfly Sugar, who wrote the article, “Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby” back in March, 2011. She is an elegant, well-written and self-professed, chocolate-dipped sugar baby. We asked her to share her insight and knowledge about successfully pursuing the sugar baby lifestyle. Here is her advice:

1. Sugar baby photos and bio 

• These are the primary features when drawing a sugar daddy to your advertisement, curious to see more of you and know what you are all about. 
• Use your own photos. Do not use someone else's images. Eventually, you will meet your potential sugar daddy and will have wasted your time and his by falsifying your identity with someone else’s pictures.
• If you do not want to show face in your photos, crop them from the lips down. This way he can see your pretty smile or sexy pout along with the shape of your body.
• Your profile should display at least 3 basic looks: the little black dress (or equivalent) to show how nice you look in chic to semi formal attire; a headshot (personality radiates through a smile); a fun, lifestyle shot (such as a swimsuit, playing with your dog or walking along the beach)

• Photos that depict careless partying or drinking will discount any persona and should be avoided.

2. Structuring your ad 

• Avoid sounding desperate or whining like a down & out country song
• Don’t use cliche' words such as spoiled, high maintenance or drama free
• When describing your looks, create a vivid, detailed picture. Which sounds better? "I have brown skin" or "I have silky, smooth, milk chocolate skin"?
• www.thesaurus.com should become your best friend. Using repetitive words (i.e., fun, generous, spoiled) gets monotonous. Make a little effort and discover some unique words or phrases to express the same meanings.
• Explain your objective: you need to pay off your student loans; you would like to start a business, etc.
• Run everything through a spell check before posting your ad. Simple spelling and grammatical errors can be a turn off to the well appointed gentleman.
• Refrain from using "adult worker" terminology. It won’t get you very far.

3. Sugar daddy complaints 

• The lady looks nothing like her pictures. Either she is using outdated photos or photos from 20 lbs ago or those of a different person all together.
• There are a lot of women who feature themselves as mail order brides whose objectives are for the gentleman to pay their way to America.
• Men do not like to think that the sugar babies they are meeting are escorts. Whether or not they themselves see providers is beside the point. Post different photos than those used for your escort ads or sites as they can be run through Tineye and come back to haunt you.
• Many ladies are cold, detached and only care about money. Despite how you may feel, you should be amiable, charming, patient and kind. You will truly benefit from these traits.

4. Do your research – learn as much as you can about your potential sugar daddy beforehand 

• Utilize Google or any other search engine by inputting as much information as you can to investigate your potential sugar daddy.
• Tineye verifies the authenticity of a photo. Some men use pictures from their business websites which is another way of discovering more about them.
• Pipl is a great source for gathering in depth information
• Reverse phone number lookup is quite useful in determining the authenticity of your potential sugar daddy and can provide a lot of insight.

5. Watch out for the losers 

• Test Drive Dude - this is the guy who wants to test the goods so that he knows what he is getting into. You are not a car so there is no kicking the tires beforehand. There are a lot of men who prey on the naivete of women, coercing them to have sex on the premise that they will give them something. Another one is the guy who tries to pay per orgasm. Oh yes, ladies, there are those guys out there.
• Time Waster/Email Buddy - this guy will have plenty of time to email you numerous times a day but magically never have time to meet with you. He wants emotional support that he is not getting elsewhere and utilizes the promise of meeting you to falsely fulfill those needs.
• Flakes - unfortunately, there are a lot of guys who will chat with you, schedule a date but never show up. Follow your instinct on how serious you think they are and request that they call or email on the day of your date to confirm.
• Photo Collector - I post only 2 or 3 photos on my profile. I do not post in my private gallery because I find that doing so attracts a lot of perverts who sift through the website looking for ladies with private photos hoping they can see some tits and ass. Those same guys do not plan on speaking or meeting you. I stay away from men who ask to see more photos. Instead, I suggest that we meet in person if they would like to see more.
• Text Message Phone Sex - this guy push the sexual boundaries before you ever meet. He is yet another guy just looking to get his rocks off.
• Mr. "Promise you the World" - don't get hypnotized by a pretty song. If it sounds like bullshit he is feeding you, it is bullshit. Female intuition is key.
• Setup a brand new individual email for online sugar dating. An email address can be tracked and if you’ve used it for anything personal your information can be leaked.

Written by Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Escort Marketing: Diet Plan for Success

"As a provider, running your own business is quite similar to maintaining a healthy diet & exercise plan. There are certain well known steps to achieving your physical goals. The same steps can be applied toward growing your business" Executive Luxuries

As a companion, what are your goals?

The key to a successful weight-loss plan is to have a goal. Any personal trainer will advise you to target something more specific than just losing weight. The same applies to your provider business. Identifying an incentive will help fuel that goal: 

• seeking financial independence
• buying a new car
• going to college
• going from an independent provider to an agency owner and working behind the scenes
• earning a healthy income and using the funds to travel the world
• starting the art/dance studio you’ve always dreamed of

As a independent provider in the adult industry, you are actually an entrepreneur, whether you realize it or not

It's time to start thinking like one. Any successful, small business owner has not only established goals but visibly identified them in detail. As small children, we all had dreams and aspirations of what we wanted to be when we grew up. Ask any child what they dream of and they’ll spend the next 10 minutes describing those dreams in vivid description. If you are serious about your business, you need to be specific about your goals. Doing so will make your goals attainable, turning your dreams into a reality. But you must write them down on paper.

As a provider and small business owner, constructing a plan in essential

Whenever you set out on a road trip, vacation or even a full day of shopping you always have a plan. Your business is much more important and all the more reason to identify a plan. Ask yourself:

Who is your target market?

Who do you want to meet? Are you looking for the fun, easygoing type? Or are you more interested in the smart and savvy businessman? Are you looking to unleash your inner kink and incorporate girl-on-girl sessions? Profile your clientele and adjust your marketing & advertising plan to appeal to the needs of each segment (i.e., do your photos appeal to bisexual women if girl-on-girl sessions are your thing? Does your bio speak to the self-employed 50-something business man? Are your donations priced too high or too low?)

What are your hours of operation?

Plan when you’re going to work, how early you will begin taking appointments and how late in the day you will take your last client. Consider how many hours a day you will be available and what specific hours you will answer your phone. When scheduling your outcall, pad into your day travel time to and from your hotel. If you are a touring companion who enjoys sightseeing, tack an extra day onto your agenda dedicated solely to personal time. Do not sandwich your personal schedule into your work day. Disaster will result.

Where will you offer your services?

Will you operate from an incall or an outcall? How many daily appointments will you take with breaks inbetween? Will you meet your clients at the door of your hotel suite, in the lobby or perhaps at the bar? Research and stake out in advance the hotel where you’ll be staying: Is it card key access only? How heavy is the foot traffic? Can you meet discreetly with clients while maximizing your time and potential earnings without attracting attention to yourself? Favorably answering all of these critical details spells success.

Recognize when your plan doesnt work

One of the most critical components to any business plan is having the ability to recognize when it's not yielding results. Many people make no effort to change their plans despite numerous failures. If Weight Watchers didn’t work, you might try Jenny Craig or Atkins. We’ve all tried a myriad of diet plans only to replace one with another when results were fruitless. Why shouldn’t the same logic apply to your business? If your business plan isn’t working, then it’s time to revamp the strategy or create a new one. If you can recognize that your business plan needs to be replaced, you will arrive one step closer to achieving your goals. 

Consistency is key

Like any exercise plan consistency pays off. Build into your calendar time set aside daily to assess the needs of your business and recognize any necessary adjustments. Exercising a couple of times a month isn’t going to get you the tone, lean body that you long for. But dedicating a few hours every day of every week will reward you with the physique that you deserve. Treat your business no differently. As a provider, your business doesn’t have to control your life. It is simply a means to an end, a valuable tool of success. Remember that you have invested yourself in this venture in order to achieve the type of financial and personal freedom to which few are privy. With consistency, it can be done.

Maintaining consistency of your business lends to client’s understanding of your boundaries – what’s acceptable and what isn’t. People will try to cross the line only if they believe they can get away with it. Remaining steadfast in your position will solidify your reputation, diminishing the need to have to justify your decisions.

Rest is imperative in any lucrative business

In our humble opinion it’s even more important in the companion world. You need to maintain equilibrium between body, mind and soul and that comes with rest. If you become over fatigued, you’ll eventually grow cynical toward your business. Like your muscles when you exercise, you need to give yourself time to recuperate. A trainer will have you take regular short breaks. The same applies to your business. Don’t over exert yourself working 24/7 for months on end. Exhaustion will adversely impact how you feel about yourself, your clients and your lifestyle whether or not you think you can disguise it.

We suggest taking regular short breaks. In a 6 day work week it’s a good idea to take off one weekday, preferably your slowest day of the week. In doing so, you'll have more time to take care of things like going to the doctor’s office or visiting your attorney without the pressure of having to cancel or reschedule appointments.

Surround yourself with support

Like any good exercise plan your emotional and mental well being are key. A trainer will advise you to surround yourself with positive people who strive toward similar goals so that you can lean on them and resist cheating with a huge slice of cheesecake. As a provider, the same applies. Life as an escort can be a very lonely career path despite the number of people with whom you interact. Drama prevails not only on the member’s only provider boards but also with clients. You need to have someone in your corner with whom you can relate who understands your professional lifestyle. 

Working with an assistant is a great way to balance your work and personal life

Finding someone you can trust to help manage tedious, time consuming, day-to-day communications creates more personal time for you. You can now take time to do regular stuff  like getting your nails done, running neglected errands, attending your kid's soccer game and meeting your girlfriends for drinks. For those ladies in a relationship, never underestimate a man’s sensitivity to your lack of time. Go out on a date night and focus on your personal love life.

Heeding the steps in this article combined with hiring an assistant you can trust is a guaranteed recipe for a successful provider career. Above all, you can be happy!

Written by Guest Author for Geisha Diaries, Executive Luxuries

The Entrepreneurial Companion

"Societal standards regarding a woman’s sexual freedom and choice are disturbingly archaic, controlling from a place of fear" Guest Author Edie Vail

Common sense has always been one of my strong points. This is the main reason viewing myself as a courtesan, escort, companion, prostitute – whatever the current labels are, has never felt wrong or out of place. I am raising beautiful children on my own, wearing many hats as teacher, chauffer, cook, laundress, and achieving an advanced degree all at the same time. The thought of marriage to a conventional, full-time job in exchange for survival is inconceivable. I know where my talents lie, what I enjoy, how I can provide for my family and be at the top of my profession.

Sharing with others what I do in my life is not an option

I’ve built businesses from scratch, bought and sold many a home, taught Sunday school, volunteered in women’s shelters and advocated for those with no voice. As the matriarch of the family I plan vacations, dinners, religious celebrations and manage squabbles threatening our chaotic peace. I’m the woman in the grocery store in a baseball hat, jeans and tank top preparing for the team barbeque. As a provider, you couldn’t pick me out of a crowd. My profession thrives under the radar. This is how I choose to put my pieces together. Nothing flows so perfectly as it does when you close your eyes, lie back and settle into your true self.

After successfully becoming entangled in the real estate craze, I escaped with only a few scrapes and bruises. Carefully buying time to assess my next endeavour, I realized what the next chapter held.

At times, life suffocates and survival heartlessly demands that we put the pieces back together

Like it or not, we must strike a balance of normalcy with what is within our reach. Given the present economic era in all its complicated layers, I chose to work as an escort without the blink of an eye. I could say “become an escort” however the drive and acceptance towards this profession lends me to believe that I’ve been one for years, on hiatus perhaps. Now was the time for rebirth, to push from the cocoon and seize the life I’ve always wanted: complete freedom within reach.

Well spent strength and power intrigues me, draws forth my sensual femininity with a deep curiosity

Raised in a blue-blood family, standards and expectations ran paramount for the men while the women settled into marriages and children. Not for me. As the only woman in the family to graduate college I hungered for more than coattails to ride. Men were my expertise spoken in a non-traditional language. Craving the deep scent of a man, the gentle power of strong hands guiding my hips, becoming mesmerized by a low voice spilling the day’s business – I get lost for hours.

I genuinely anticipate time with my clients. Every moment is savored and delicately prepared for in a thoughtful way. Lingerie is chosen carefully, body, hair and skin treatments indulged in regularly, current events absorbed diligently and perfect stilettos selected to accentuate the arch in my back. Investment of such time wraps the package of my identity as I prepare to lose myself in all that I appreciate in a man and the subtle fusion that we create.

How lucky am I to have been in a position to define myself as a companion

and reap the freedom that it beholds. Choosing this path is a blessing both for me and my clients, if I may be so bold.

Written by Edie Vail, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Sex Work: Never Break the Veil of Fantasy

"Beyond safety rules, the most important fundamental principal for all sex work is to never break the veil of fantasy" Written by Phone Sex Secrets

Geisha Diaries recently caught up with Phone Sex Secrets (PSS) and the elusive, colorful character behind this bible of a website. I shall refer to her as PSS for short, because anonymity is paramount as it should be for any provider. PSS makes herself available to savvy, business-minded PSOs who want more. Consult with her for industry discussion, character and content creation. But if masturbilia is your motive, hold onto you knickers while she points you in the right direction.

It’s not often that I come across more than two decades of fantasy phone experience (or any other niche in the adult industry) all wrapped up into one sultry, brainy package. So without further adieu, I am happy to introduce PSS with all of her wisdom and insight so that she can do what she does best. Geisha Diaries Editor, Meeshee

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After nearly two decades in the sex work industry, first as an escort and then as a phone sex operator (PSO), I’ve learned many things. Beyond safety rules, the most important fundamental principal for all sex work is to never break the veil of fantasy.

Your main asset in any form of sex work is your ability to create and deliver the fantasy. Fantasies are the magic potions, the spells, the real charms you wield. They are more powerful than your breasts or any other body part, your intellect, imagination, skills as a brilliant conversationalist, your knowledge of the Kama Sutra or the sum of all those parts.

The fantasy may begin with something physical such as your impressive bust line or something real such as your dominant personality. But it is incomplete and cannot be delivered until you develop a character which embodies all aspects of the fantasy.

Like a genie in a bottle, a fantasy breathes life into the sacred space that you and your client inhabit whether in a hotel room or through a phone call. In that environment, you initiate those intimate fantasies through your persona -- not only at the client’s request, but at his belief.

These fantasies are delivered by your character and brought to life not only by you but through the power of the erotic wishes of the client who opts to believe in your character.

Like any film, literary work, or other form of entertainment, sex work relies upon a client’s willing suspension of disbelief. The storyteller, who is the fantasy creator, must manifest acceptance. Slipping out of character, even for a second, disrupts continuity, snagging the plot with gaping holes of reality and poof! The spell is broken.

This principal of character continuity is equally applicable to all areas of adult entertainment. But no where have I found it more regularly broken than in the segment of phone sex.

I know many PSOs, some of whom claim to be quite successful, who readily acknowledge on their websites, in forums and to callers that they offer multiple phone sex characters. I suspect this is a diluted attempt at professing skill. Because this business is cemented in fantasy, I never risk compromising my character as say, a youthful girl for example, by simultaneously claiming that I am a horny housewife MILF and a BBW queen. Such contradiction shatters all fantasies, not to mention undermines marketing efforts. I am left wondering how much more successful these girls would be if they didn't discharge themselves, but rather maintained the veil of fantasy.

The crafting of a sex work persona demands a lot of work. Destroying that character results in wasted effort and the death of your business.

Break character, and clients will drop you one by one. The very one who begged for a glimpse beyond the veil, who pleaded then demanded to know more about the real you, will disappear, guaranteed because he can no longer believe in the fantasy.

The truth is, once you break that fantasy you can never put that genie back in the bottle because you’ve broken the illusion and ended the suspension of disbelief.

It’s possible to cultivate a new phone sex personality, escort identity, or sex worker persona. But it must be done from scratch. Starting anew does not include trailing your previous persona of disillusioned clients by transferring feedback and ratings, using the same method of contact or same photographys. Any trace of your old persona will prevent a new veil from being created. This is difficult to overcome and expensive, too. In sex work just as any other business, it is more cost effective to retain a customer than to cultivate a new one. And finding new clients will be challenging because your reputation has been tarnished.

No matter how much he begs, demands or professes to know otherwise about you; hold your character and never, ever break the veil of fantasy.

Written by Geisha Diaries’ Guest Author & Phone Sex Operator, Phone Sex Secrets

You're Only as Good as Your Web Content

"In the the world of online escorting, your website content is a mirror image of your persona. Quality website content often translates into more clients" Written by VK

The attention span of a viewer is limited, increasing the demand even more for accurate and well-written, quality web content that is easy to read, drawing them deeper into your website. Your web content should be precise and focused, enticing your viewer with the factual information that they seek, yet creatively written to entice their interest in you. Additionally, your web content should be packed with keywords that search engines recognize, thereby leading viewer’s search criteria to your website when they are surfing the internet. How do you accomplish all of these challenges amidst the constant battle with a million other escort websites all competing for the attention of your viewer? 

Adult entertainers come in all flavors, shapes and sizes

You don’t need to be a VIP courtesan or high end dominatrix claiming a college degree to recognize that your website be filled with quality content that flows and accurately represents your personality. In the online world, interesting web content that is grammatically consistent and uses proper syntax is a direct reflection of who you are. 

Write how you talk

Golden Rule: If you won’t say it in a conversation, you shouldn’t say it on your website. Your content should be presented in a manner that is natural and easy to read, without the use of intimidating words that could scare away your viewers. 

Knowing when to stop

Verbal diarrhea is the sign of someone who is trying too hard to impress. The novice writer (and a lot of professional writers for that matter) are often compelled by a perceived need to say too much. Consequently, the text may be cast with overtones of insincerity, aloofness, neediness or insecurity stained with a few typos or improper sentence structure. Surprisingly, it is more difficult to express yourself with a natural ebb and flow than it is to drown your message in wordy commentary. There’s an excellent chance that a portion of the content on your website does not need to be there. Whenever I write a piece, I tighten it up by going back and looking for unnecessary content. Seek to strike a balance between saying just enough and saying too much. 

Defining your persona

Are all of the facts somehow padded into your words? Wait. If a stranger approaches you on the street and asks you to define your persona, how would you answer in 50 words or less? Or would you stumble about, struggling to match words with a muddy concept of your persona? Only you know if you’ve done your homework. Before you run back to your website and start inserting phrases into your About Me section like, “…you’ll enjoy my full, 34DD breasts…” stop. Would you actually say that to a client? I think not. It sounds a little unnatural. Once you have clearly defined the characteristics of your persona, convert all of those sexy adjectives into text that flows like water, seasoned with your personality. I’ve read content written by only a handful of ladies whose personas came shining through their words with a fresh sense of character and genuineness, graciously leaving me with a feeling that I knew them. It’s not so easy, I know. This feeling of familiarity had nothing to do with whether or not I found their photos or website design appealing. The point is that their text successfully granted a taste of their personalities. A few I know personally and they are very successful. 

Know thy clientele

Defining your client as a mature, discerning gentleman over the age of 40 is more of an escort stereotype than a clear and accurate definition. Who wants to entertain the undiscriminating gentleman? Part of your clientele might be mature and over the age of 50 or even over the age of 70. All three of these ages, while actually over the age of 40, are marked by dramatically different stages in life. You must profile your clientele in depth and know each one as though they are your best friend until you recognize patterns of those who are drawn to you. If you are unable to paint a detailed picture of your clientele, chances are you’d like them to somehow be different because your business isn’t where want it to be. If the latter is the case, take refuge in the potential power promised by the words on your website. Sure, not every viewer reads what you’ve got to say. Many skip over everything and go straight to your photos, followed by an email or phone call urgently asking if you can meet in 30 minutes. However, many not only read but ponder what you’ve written because they want to take an interest in you, especially if you offer a girl friend experience. By first defining your clientele and styling your text accordingly, you will hone your website audience and conversion rate to clientele will increase. 

What your blog should be doing for you

Do you even have a blog? Do you understand the purpose of a blog? Granted, every provider, mistress and tgirl has their own unique style in terms of marketing themselves (some feature only a blog as their website).  If you don’t like the word ‘marketing’, consider the phrase, ‘methods by which some allow clients to gain an inside peak into their lives’. What works for some may not even be considered by others. But as long as your main source of business is derived from the internet, you should strongly consider maintaining a blog.

The first method of communication a hobbyist hits is the internet

If this hobbyist has viewed escort websites that are regularly updated with new information, chances are excellent that he will anticipate their updates and frequent their websites more than others that are stagnant. When you so generously offer a preview into your life (or whatever fantasy or fetish brands you) by way of a blog article, you are communicating an avid interest in your viewers. And when that article is well written and mirrors your persona, you are in essence attracting the right readers and ultimately, clientele. Don’t worry that your style may not appeal to some. You don’t want the ‘some’. You want those who are drawn to your style and personality via what you have to say. The way to keep those hobbyists and clients coming back for more is to regularly update your blog with fresh, new content. How frequently should you post? That’s entirely up to you. I recommend no less than once a week whether it's a full on article or a micro commentary about something that you experienced. Vertical Kitty's article, Juicy Blog Content That Hooks talks about what your blog content should as an escort, courtesan, sugar baby or tgirl. Go here to read it. 

Various avenues of social media are a blog’s best friend

If you have a blog, you’d better know what to do with it. Otherwise, don’t waste your time. Just tuck it away into a virtual drawer, forget about it and go do something else. That’s because no one will know about your blog unless you make it known. Fortunately, social media offers a wealth of tools that are virtually free and guarantee the most powerful and progressive form of public relations and marketing you’ll ever use – if implemented properly. Twitter, Facebook and all chat forums and boards are excellent mediums through which to feature your blog. Utilizing social media does not require inherent talent but a learned discipline and proper etiquette. Reading a few articles online or reading a book on the subject should be enough to at least get you going. But you must have the desire to cultivate and feed your social media persona at least a few times a week in order for your efforts to be effective. I will write more on this topic in a future article featured on Vertical Kitty.

Written by VK

A Hobbyist Discovers his Bisexuality

 “Even if it should actually turn out to be just a phase, which might or might not be the case, it doesn't matter. Who you are right now, and the things you desire right now, are absolutely fine and okay and much more normal than you could possibly imagine.”* Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries

Boomer is an active and well regarded hobbyist of 4 years. He’s also an avid reader of Geisha Diaries. Boomer was introduced to us by a mutual friend. As we were curious about his participation in the community, Boomer intimately revealed his human side, what fuels his deep seeded needs, curiosities and passions.

Boomer can be neatly summed up into three words: the consummate gentleman

His kindness and genuine regard for humanity speak loudly. But his marriage of 30 years lacks the intimacy that he seeks through GFE encounters in the hobby. Having just emerged from a UTR relationship with a provider, he is now exploring alternate forms of sexuality after 57 years of living a heterosexual lifestyle. Emerging from a long time career in the corporate world, Boomer speaks in a well-mannered and eloquent fashion and could easily be the CEO of a large corporation, a dentist or your next-door-neighbor.

Unless he feels a connection, there is no second date

Encounters with new providers are reminiscent of a civilian first date. Boomer is usually nervous and seeks to recognize the promise of friendship. He clearly recognizes the reciprocity of a provider/hobbyist relationship in the healthiest and most respectful approach. As in any business transaction mutual benefit exists on both sides. However, the topic of consideration is taboo, a total turn off and will abruptly dismiss any chance of a future date.

Boomer grew up during an era when sexual repression was large

Time and seasoning have all but shed his inhibitions. Why should one spend one’s life wondering, feeding a denial that serves only to imprison one’s self expression? As a responsible, accomplished gentleman who has experienced many chapters in life, Boomer has chosen to exercise his right to personal freedom by exploring those unanswered, intimate questions by dabbling in other realms of sexuality. Might such extreme liberation pose a sort of threat to some providers? This has been Boomer’s experience with a few. Perhaps it is a visceral repulsion that such a provider is turned off by a man who engages with another man. Intellectually, however, one might question her logic.

Boomer represents a sort of hybrid bisexual

One who has evolved out of the traditional, old school ways of love and lust – the culturally categorical boxes of you man, me woman. His desires stop short of being with a straight out man. Perhaps one day he will go there. But for now, he has discovered that his comfort level is reinforced by a person representing the ultimate feminine experience while blessed with the endowment of a man. Boomer has come to know such a woman who has met with his needs and desires on emotional, physical and physiological levels. This is not to say that he has lost interest in heterosexual providers. Rather, he finds them quite desirable and considers all as transitory experiences contributing to his personal journey to self discovery.

Contact Boomer

Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries

*quote by Hanne Bank

Transexuality: The Best of Both Worlds

"Not every person fits categorically into the binary male/female system. As with everything in life, exceptions prevail. There are those who identify as both male and female, exclusive of our boxed in cultural system, rendering both genders applicably inadequate." Meeshee, Publisher Geisha Diaries

Recently, Geisha Diaries had the immense pleasure of engaging in conversation with Rachel Smithe. Rachel’s genteel and refined demeanor illuminated instantly as a woman who is grounded and has clearly defined her lot in life. Rachel is an exclusive and highly regarded international courtesan who appeals to male clientele seeking the company of an ultra feminine woman generously blessed with the endowment of a man.

On the surface, the majority of her clientele lead heterosexual lifestyles

Some are politicians walking on the BDSM side while others seek a hard core experience, only to be softened with sensual kissing, realizing that it wasn’t hard core they were seeking, after all. Others represent upper middle class gentlemen entrusting their sexual exploration with Rachel while some are on a fixed income saving up their tax refunds to travel cross country to see her.

Rachel distinguishes between her American and European clients as well. She describes the bulk of her American clients as interested in one-hour sessions while many of her European clients are more interested in longer, three- to five-hour sessions. Her Greek clients display a more worldly attitude, inherently understanding that hers is a business and respecting her time as a professional. 

Beneath the surface for many of these men is a compelling need to understand a burning desire for gratification that is considered taboo

Or a break from the monotony and dissatisfaction of a lifestyle burdened with stress or a sexless relationship. Though some may consider themselves bisexual, many are straight and come to realize through their experience with Rachel that it is simply a different flavor of experience that they seek. They are not freaks. They are drawn to Rachel because she represents the ultimate embodiment of pure femininity blessed with a fully operational penis. She portrays a fantasy to these men whether as an intimate GFE, a confidante, a healer or a sensual domina. 

Rachel is quite content living her life full time as a woman in every aspect of the word while retaining her original gender as a man

Her life has been a journey and one that she continues to live to the fullest, traveling and touring frequently, internationally, with her beloved little dog, Beauregard. Since the age of four, she has experienced a recurring vision of a woman sitting in a chair all alone, surrounded by rice paper walls amongst a scurry of household activity, waiting to be summoned. Rachel feels that this woman was her.

She exhibits Buddhist tendencies

She grew up on a farm in Virginia where her father worked for the government. They had a huge garden. She didn’t eat much meat, always asking for Asian food at restaurants. Perhaps this could explain why her tastes in clothing, furniture and cuisine show a flare for the Orient. As a small child, she didn’t want her father to cut the grass because grass blades have feelings. She told her father that she didn’t want to go hunting with him anymore because she didn’t feel right about the animals dying. She is a vegetarian and as a Capricorn, is a very sensitive person. 

Rachel spent her childhood playing cello and base fiddle and sang classical music in churches, mosques and synagogues. She now attends a non denominational church with more focus on a spiritual than religious path. Her mind is open to accepting different beliefs and this approach is translated in how she interacts with clients. 

When Rachel is not busy touring as an international courtesan, she manages and operates her day spa which offers massage and body treatment. While she is not a CMT, her knowledge is vast and extensive as she attends all classes for facials, laser, massage and body treatments with her staff. 

As the #1 TS provider in Chicago, Rachel’s secret to success lies in having no fear of revealing herself and expressing her humanity as a provider

She feels genuine empathy for her clients and is always eager to build relationships with them. To operate a business with a revolving door would be out of character for Rachel. Her personality is very intimate and she doesn’t take on just any client. As if this comes as any surprise, Rachel’s website is beyond exquisite, exhibiting stunning imagery and a guide to her international touring. Geisha Diaries is truly impressed with the woman whom we’ve come to know as Rachel Smithe.

Written by Meeshee, Publisher for Geisha Diaries

The True Story Behind Barebacking

“One of the biggest myths about our entire industry is that we all allow this dangerous practice. People assume we are all nasty, disease infested women and men who allow anyone to do anything” Written by A’

Recently I was approached by a potential client who wanted to schedule a multi-day engagement. Once he had completed the screening process, I provided him with a list of a few questions. 

Based upon my research and planning, I sent him links to resorts, airlines and other details and assured him our transportation via limousine service would be handled in a discreet, professional and punctual manner. Upon approval, he placed all reservations and we coordinated dates and times for our getaway. At this point, I was in receipt of his deposit. I was going through the short list of ladies in California who I knew I could trust with his identity and the nature of his desires. I had to have everything exactly as he had requested. This was to be his once in a lifetime experience. 

At that point, it was necessary to speak by phone to discuss his answers to my questions. Somewhere in the conversation, he asked me if I had ever had the hot cum of a client inside me. I replied, “No, I am not into bare-backing. It is childish, dangerous, and gross.” He answered, “You should try it.” 

People assume we are all nasty, disease infested women and men who allow anyone to do anything

My heart sank and I didn’t know how to respond. I braced myself to answer him with dignity and not insult him. I was worried about his response to my reaction because, bare-backing is a widely accepted yet ignorant practice among adults who engage in casual sex. I also initiated the process of refunding his deposit. I was not going to keep this appointment and I made a mental note of his references and who he had reviewed. One of the biggest myths about our entire industry is that we all allow this dangerous practice. 

It defies logic as to why anyone would allow or want full service bare back

There is nothing to support this reasoning. Is the entire medical community wrong about the risks associated with bareback sex with multiple partners? Are a few suicidal hobbyist and providers correct in their choice to partake in such illogical and radical behavior? 

There is nothing special about the provider who offers bare back services

I have seen it offered at a higher price and I have seen it offered with no price adjustment. I have seen it offered at every level of the hobby. It confuses me as to why it is acceptable for any reason. The widely available amounts of factual information supporting safer sex far outweigh any reason offered to justify barebacking. There are no reasons to allow it, want it, ask for it, or have a conversation for the purposes of condoning the practice. 

They are endangering their lives, the lives of their loved ones and the lives of everyone they come in contact with and this is inexcusable

Individuals who offer any defense in favor of barebacking or people who engage in the practice of barebacking are not dealing in any realm of reality. I can only conclude that providers and hobbyists or civilians in general who practice barebacking suffer from a behavior disorder called Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Such people are characterized by patterns of uncooperative, defiant, hostile, and annoying behavior. In a nut shell this means that such folks will argue based on illogic; disagreeing for the very sake of demonstrating the difference in other points of view. The only difference is for the most part they have bought into their own press and practice what they should not believe.

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, A’

Smart Confessions of a Savvy Provider

"It is about fusing well-balanced connections while respecting the fluctuating, erotic needs of our clients. It is about targeted marketing, diligent screening and recognizing the right connections." Written by A'

Recently, I was in the presence of a client and another provider, engaged in a great conversation. Our client's facial expression changed, the energy in the room transformed and he took on a serious tone. He stared at both of us intently and asked if we were aware that his was a life altering experience and that we had certainly delivered. I related to our client that some of what we do as adult entertainers goes well beyond the scope of an envelope.

We make ourselves aware of shifts in our clients’ lives that lead them to seek the services of a professional companion

We are the type of companion who is well acquainted with the seemingly small, intimate details of our clients: their preferred label of Scotch or type of cuisine, specific massage oils and lingerie that appeal to them; we send birthday gifts, incite naughty telephone calls and heed the personal limits of our clients. While we seek to affirm their sensuality, we endeavour to teach or learn while perhaps guiding them through unchartered territory. We are true companions in every sense of the word.

It requires a savvy provider to build and cultivate a solid client base

In the case of this particular client, a rough divorce landed him in the hobby. Like many people, he equated companionship with the oldest profession on earth. To the credit of the myth, becoming a paid companion is easy and anyone can do it. However, what we do transgresses turning a trick or dealing with johns. It goes beyond the matter of curves, looks, legs and tummies. It is about fusing well-balanced connections while respecting the fluctuating, erotic needs of our clients. It is about targeted marketing, diligent screening and recognizing the right connections.

For the sake of maintaining our client base, we never proclaim everlasting love for a client

We are fully aware of our station in the life of a client. We will never find ourselves in a position to play emotional games because such behavior inflicts a weakened emotional state. Our purpose is to guide them through their erotic journey. Their station is to either be an active planner or speak it into our ears, allowing us to create it for them.

As an adult entertainer, there comes a time when you realize that being a provider is what you are supposed to be doing

Defining ourselves as providers begins by recognizing where we fit into the scheme of things and then making decisions based upon our comfort levels. While some go upscale, others are comfortable maintaining reasonable rates. If you are comfortable as a provider and sincerely enjoy taking in the look of pleasure on a client's face, you are in the right profession. On the other hand, if you cringe when the phone rings, can’t stand to be touched, react with hostility when a client tries to connect with you, or do not enjoy giving and receiving pleasure, please close up shop today and find something else to do.

You may charge $5,000 an hour for your goregeousness but if you are an ice cold companion, never sharing a genuine moment of intimacy with a client under any circumstances, your beauty is not going to rule your business. Men who are serious hobbyists seek the company of companions who are comfortable in their own skin, who are not fake but warm and receptive toward them. They seek our company for affirmation, not to score another ice princess in their pockets.

There are ladies who charge astronomical rates yet never bother to learn anything about their clients

For them each client represents just another fat envelope. There are ladies who charge below their market, yet consciously wear their clients’ favorite colors and perfumes because they have taken the time to learn the distinctive nuances of every one. Through calculated observations and tailored questions, they know how to strike a well-balanced connection with their clients.

Their secrets are sacred and we carry them to our graves

This elevated attention to detail and cherished discretion represents the insignia of a companion whose value as an adult entertainer will never know a price. Genuine regard for our clients means that we enjoy a solid client base, indefinitely. We are the same companions who will never partake in a tell-all gossip media forum, exploiting our black books. Our reputations are sanctified by nothing less than discretion, attention to detail, unparalleled skill and a penetrating knowledge of what makes our clients tick.

Written by A', Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

What it Means to be Racist in the Hobby

rac·ism [ray-sism]

Hatred or intolerance of another race or other races

pref·er·ence [pref-er-uhns, pref-ruhns] - The selecting of someone or something over another or others. The right or chance to so choose. Someone or something so chosen. The state of being preferred.  

prej·u·dice [prej-uh-dis] - An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts. A preconceived preference or idea. The act or state of holding unreasonable preconceived judgments.

Whenever I chat on instant messenger my status remains invisible, except to those on my my friends list. Recently, I was engaged in a conversation with a man whom I have chatted with on several occasions. Unbeknownst to me, he had mistaken me for another companion whom he had seen with a similar name. We had developed a chat relationship without him checking me out. I knew who he was because I always check the handle of the person with who I am chatting.

Actually, I don't like black women

The conversation turned toward his love of boobs. So I sent him the URL of a very well known African American companion with superbly large breasts. Prior to sending, I chatted, “Since you like chocolate…”. I felt comfortable making that comment since his reviews indicated that he had seen a black provider, we had previous flirtatious conversations and had even said that the next time he was in Las Vegas he would like to spend some time with me. To my shock, he replied, “Actually, I don’t like black women. Black women have a taste and smell different than white girls”. I was stunned, wondering if he had too much to drink. When asked if he knew who I was he replied: “You are not black-black, you are much sexier.”

At this point, I knew I was about to read the prejudiced words of one the most ignorant people in the hobby

He continued about his first encounter with a black lady whom he met in a chat room and had bareback sex in a garage. He concluded the story talking about his repulsion toward her body odor. I asked him several times if he knew I was black. Finally, he answered: he was talking to the one and only black companion for whom he had written a stellar review. Clearly, he had mistaken me for the wrong companion as I had never seen this man before. How could he feel comfortable enough to have this conversation with anyone let alone a person of color? So I ended the madness by announcing that I was not worthy of his graciousness, that I needed to sit in a tub of hot water and douche because I am black with a horrendous body odor.

Just what does it mean not to be black-black?

Does my not being black- black describe my command of the English language, business skills, tastes in clothing, music, travels, college degree or life experiences? Does it describe my physique? I am thin and very solid. Do all of these attributes make me not black-black?

I tried explaining to him several times that diet determines a person’s bodily scent and flavor. I also pointed out that he was admitting to barebacking someone who, like him, obviously did not practice safe sex, so a body odor should have come as no surprise. The color of her skin was not the cause of her body odor but rather lack of concern for her health. But he ranted relentlessly about three black women with whom he had sex which determined his conclusion that all black women have foul odors and tastes. According to his distorted assumptions, no other race of women carry his self-annotated “coarse” taste. Never once did he question where he was finding these women.

Recently, a friend of mine found herself in a bad situation because of a derogatory review

My friend and I are extremely close in our civilian life. We never cross paths on the chat boards and rarely email. We simply pick up the phone and chit chat. She comes to see me here in Las Vegas or I go see her in NYC. We spend hours like little girls, giggling about silly things.

I know her so well that the hurtful words contained in the review stabbed my heart like a sword. I called her and asked what happened. She was not aware of the review and asked me to give her time to read it. 20 minutes later she called, shocked and confused.

I took two days to carefully analyze the reviewers history twice. I asked a white colleague of mine to read his reviews, not explaining the reason for my request. We both came to the same disturbing conclusion: this man positively hates black women and is a racist.

The list of whom he has seen includes the who’s who of very well reviewed upscale sisters in our industry

His reviews of them were always the most scathing, insulting, manipulatively written in their review history. In one instance, he timed a horrible review to coincide with the provider’s scheduled tour. He has seen perhaps 10 sisters and has never written a favorable review of any of them. Not even one sister has received anything close to a decent review from this man. Yet he continues to schedule appointments with black women apparently for the express purpose of being as petty, demeaning and positively hateful as possible.

I do believe that the reason I have not crossed paths with this man is because he will not spend $1,500.00 per hour (my new hourly rate) just for the pleasure of writing a bad review. I am way above this reviewer’s pay grade, not to mention that there is no way for him to pass my screening process. We will never meet and for that I am joyous.

His defense is that all hobbyists deserve to read honest and well written reviews of their experiences. Makes sense, but he is not holding up his end of the deal. What psychological defect impedes this man to continually spend money while never uttering a word of discomfort or displeasure during a session, rather confirming that he is having a great time? Who then goes home and writes a rough review or in some cases, vindictively times his review when the provider is about to tour just as she is leaving her base city?

I realize that not all hobbyists see black women

I know our skin tone does not appeal to many men and this often includes black men. I have no issues with such personal preferences. My issue is that the scenarios I have illustrated are far more common than anyone would believe. What I find deeply disturbing is what motivates this racist behavior. Why would anyone go to these lengths to express their disdain for a group of women?

While doing my research for this article, I spoke with my atf’s regarding this issue. The response was unanimous. None of them will spend the time or the money to see anyone to whom they are not physically attracted for the sole purpose of posting scalding reviews loaded with insults and wild generalizations.

Written by A’, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

The Importance of Professional Escort Web Design

"Unless you actually create websites for a living, escort web design is best left to the professionals. Web design isn’t one of those things that you can teach yourself to save money." Bella, High Heel Designs

If you’re not a professional web designer or someone who has spent hours learning and perfecting the craft, your self-designed website looks exactly like what it is – unprofessional and homemade. As a provider, if you think potential clients won’t notice the difference, think again. If your website looks unprofessional, clients may think your services are also unprofessional.

A well-designed website features more than just pretty pictures, a bunch of links and some text

As a professional companion, your website is supposed to make you money. Among many things, the site should use properly sized fonts and optimized images and it should be easy to read and fast to load. An efficient website is viewable in all current major browsers including Internet Explorer, Firefox, Safari, Opera and Chrome.

Like your photographs and wardrobe, the quality of your website will distinguish you among the competition. Providers who spend hundreds of dollars on luxurious lingerie and professional photography do so because they can’t hand make LaPerla® panties and no matter how nice their camera, they will never be Meeshee Photography.

Like professional photography and designer lingerie, web design is best left to the professionals. A professional web designer possesses the skills and experience necessary to represent all aspects of your persona in the best light, thereby bringing out the most in you.

What is your blog doing for you?

You can boast the most beautiful and professional looking web site but it’s useless if no one sees it. Unless viewers are visiting your website, your blog might as well be tucked away in a closet. Many of you are diligent about advertising and ensuring that the right viewers get to your website. Maintaining a blog with active, new content is something important to think about if you’re wondering about your position in the search engines and wishing it were higher. The content on your website is very important for search engine spiders. If you’re not updating your blog frequently with new content, it becomes passive. Unless you regularly update your blog with fresh content, spare yourself the time of creating it in the first place. Experts recommend that you add new content to your blog frequently. Search engines look for fresh information on websites. As they visit your site and discover new content, they will continue to visit, index and rank the pages, thus pushing your website higher in rankings.

Some companions are diligent bloggers while others have no interest in ranking high in the search engines, preferring to remain UTR (under the radar). Consider updating your current blog or converting your entire website to a WordPress format so that you automatically have a blog.

Flash on your website - take it or leave it?

Generally speaking, it’s not a good idea for escort websites to be designed entirely around Flash. However, implementing a little bit of Flash will not interfere with search engine optimization. An occasional Flash element on your site won’t slow down load time and will give your site an aesthetic, memorable kick. Flash can cause problems for cell phone users. This can be avoided with the use of a well-placed link at the top of the entry page or by designing a separate mobile site. Used sparingly, Flash is just an effective tool in creating a site that appeals to viewers and stands out among the competition.

Your website should be visible in all browsers

How often do you get an email stating that a viewer can’t see your site? Or that your gallery doesn’t work? Or that they sent a form, but they’re getting an error message? A well designed site that it viewable in all five of the big browsers is challenging but can be done. It requires time, tweaking and testing. But if you’re a serious professional, you should know that it’s one of the top three most important aspects of your website.

Internet Explorer is not the king of the mountain anymore!

As of September 2010, Firefox became the leader with 45% of the Internet’s viewers. Internet Explorer came in second with 31% and Chrome with 17% of the viewing public. Opera and Safari tied at 3% each. Internet Explorer, especially the older versions, does not play well with web standards. Your site may look great in IE, but seriously awful in Firefox and Chrome. Go here to view all statistics.

Your site was designed with free software that isn’t up to web standards

With some free website hosts, your site will not show up at all (email me and I’ll let you know the worst offender). Think of all the hours of hard work you put into your website, pages of seductive writing and organizing your beautiful photo gallery. You point a viewer to your site and he gets the black screen of death. This is the perfect way to lose a client. Though your website may be designed without abiding by web standards, you could be alienating nearly 50% of viewers who visit your site!

As a companion, if you are serious about your business, contact a professional web designer. You and your pocketbook will be glad that you did.

Written by Bella of High Heel Deisgns, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Making Geisha Affair Work for You

"Most of the worldwide, adult community has been closely observing the growth and success rate of Geisha Affair International since its inception." 

For those of you who are still unfamiliar, Geisha Affair International is a high class, online advertising platform catering to the adult industry on a global scale. Geisha Affair (GA, as it is known) takes elegance, marketing exposure, true support and customer service to a whole new level unparalleled in the adult industry. At least, that’s what we’re told and that was our goal.

Populating a worldwide website the magnitude of GA has been a daunting task. But with the support of friends and clients, GA nears critical mass as daily membership quota is snowballing. We continue to receive more and more personal emails from clients who are thrilled with the website and want to do whatever they can to support the growth and presence of GA within the community. This is because they know that in so doing, belonging to a classy, user-friendly, affordable advertising website will greatly benefit their bottom line. In short, word-of-mouth is spreading like wildfire.

GA membership is still complimentary

Yes, it’s still free. But check out the screenshot below. Even when rates finally do kick in, look how affordable. And for those who want to really stand at the head of the crowd, there's Red Carpet Geisha, in every sense of the term. This is the world according to Geisha Affair:  

 

Is Geisha Affair the sexy, new alternative?

That’s what we are hearing and we’re smitten. In fact, we’re so flattered, that if you’re not yet a member of Geisha Affair, sign up by June 19^th and you’ll receive a complimentary, custom designed banner, courtesy Meeshee Photograhy. What? You’re already a member? We love you, too! Refer a friend who becomes a member of Geisha Affair by June 19^th and receive a complimentary, custom designed banner, courtesy Meeshee Photography.

Get a free banner from Geisha Affair

If you’re a new member: 

1. Go here to sign up for your new profile on Geisha Affair
2. Then, email us here with “I want my free GA banner” in the subject line of your email
3. Mention the code, “New Member Banner” in the body of your email; your name saying that you just became a new member of Geisha Affair; attach 2 or 3 jpegs of your favorite horizontal photos (for the banner) 

If you’re an existing member:

1. Email us here with “I referred a friend” in the subject line of your email
2. Mention the code, “GA Banner for a friend” in the body of your email; the name of your friend who just became a new member of Geisha Affair; attach 2-3 jpegs of your favorite horizontal photos 

You’ll have your banner within 2-3 days. 

Free reviews on Geisha Affair

We know that reviews are the meat and potatoes of your business, so we’ve made it a super easy, FREE process for your clients. You might not yet have any reviews posted on your GA profile. Let’s take care of that. 

How clients can post FREE reviews on Geisha Affair 

1. Your client should go to www.geishaaffair.com
2. Go to your profile (i.e., Pensacola, Florida) and click on it
3. Scroll down to the bottom of the screen until he/she sees a blue tab, "Add Review"
4. Click on 'Add Review'  

Your client will now see the screen below, register his/her email and post the comment. Shortly thereafter, the comment will be moderated and posted.

• Mention to all of your clients in person, by phone or on the forums that you have a profile on Geisha Affair and that you’d really like them to post their reviews
• If you know that a client would like to post a new review somewhere else, ask them to also post it on Geisha Affair
• Make sure they click ‘Free Trial’ 
• Refer clients to this article 
• Refer them directly to www.geishaaffair.com 

Is Geisha Affair just for escorts? 

Heavens, no. Our doors are open to massage folks, CMT’s, sugar babies, t-girls, courtesans, companions and all types of fetish and BDSM. In fact, if you’re a BDSMer, your profile will be adorned with a special ‘True BDSM’ seal, distinguishing you from all other categories.

Written by Geisha Affair International, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Provider Relationships 101

"Marriage involving a provider requires a unique pair of individuals who are very secure with themselves. I am married, and it is a very complicated relationship, but it works for us." Written by À

No hobbyist will stick around for a relationship

Hobbyist/provider relationships that go beyond professional don’t work. I know you think that the relationship with your former client-now-turned-full-time-boyfriend will turn out differently, but he is in love with the illusion, not you. A hobbyist is usually on his very best behavior when with a provider. Even if it feels right at the moment, eventually you will end up very hurt and very single again.

If that special person is not a swinger, you may want to reconsider

Swingers are mentally and emotionally wired differently than their vanilla counterparts. A swinger inherently knows that their Significant Other is not sexually exclusive. Your work as a provider is equal to a swinger experience but with a paying client. Ladies, you are sexually involved with several people every week. Would you be comfortable with your Significant Other doing the same for free? Think long and hard about your decision.

Though he may worship the ground you walk on, respect his pride and always be honest

If your Significant Other finds out on his own that you are a provider, he may lose his mind. If you tell him up front, he may still lose his mind but at least you will avoid falling deeper in love when he does flip out and he can never say you lied to him. Give him the choice to run for the hills, or stay.

Never brag about anything a hobbyist does for you

If a client gives you roses or any other gift for that matter, don’t keep them. Intimate gifts are sacred and should be held in value only when received from your Significant Other. I don't care if a client flies you to Japan. Do not brag about it around your Significant Other. Do not challenge his manhood by boasting about expensive gifts given by your client. Give them away, pawn them, or refuse to accept them but do not put your man’s pride in the line of fire. He is the provider in your home, not your client.

Despite your financial means, always split the bills with your Significant Other

If you allow him to feel like you don’t need him, you are breeding a cheater or a man who eventually will refuse to work, sitting on the couch while you are out working , also known as a pimp. Men are wired to take care of the home, financially. On his birthday, Christmas or other holidays, lavish him!

Never talk about a client’s sexual technique with a Significant Other

Know your boundaries. Whether your client is the best or worst in bed, do not discuss the matter with your Significant Other. When life occurs, such as a death in the family, a family celebration or your Significant Other plans a special evening, close up shop. You cannot be super provider and maintain a healthy relationship with your Significant Other. The father-in-law of a friend was deathly ill while she went on a cruise with a client because she and her husband needed the money. Now, she is divorced and childless.

If you do not perform specific sex acts with your Significant Other, do not perform them with your clients

Especially those who post reviews. Also, be prepared to bring another lady home from time to time. If you don't like your job as a provider, combining it with marriage is a breeding ground for drama. Do not lie about your level of service. Don't tell your Significant Other that you are a massage only provider when in fact you are a PSE (Porn Star Experience).

If a client is stocking you, put an end to that relationship immediately

Try everything you can possibly do on your own to avoid involving your Significant Other. A stalker client is crazy while a protective Significant Other can turn into a territorial lunatic.

Turn off your work phone, ignore emails and anything hobby related

Go on a real vacation with your Significant Other and don’t even think about turning it into a tour. If you dress to kill when you are working, dress to mass murder when you go out with your Significant Other. If you wear lingerie for a client knock yourself out for your Significant Other. I never wear heels during a session but I have a full collection that I wear for my husband. I keep work lingerie separate and have a whole drawer full of lingerie dedicated exclusively to my hubby. Spanking and pulling my hair are off limits to clients. That’s because I get spanked and my hair pulled almost every night at home.

If children are planned in your marriage, go UTR (under the radar)

Drop off the face of the planet for some years. Being a wife and mother is very demanding. Your Significant Other may refuse to share a wife who is now the mother of his children. Should you continue to work and ever get arrested, all the kids will tease your babies. Family comes first. There will always be someone with a stuffed envelope but there won’t always be a child’s first step or first tooth. Cultivate your marriage. It’s hard work, especially if you want it to last.

Be prudent with your finances. There will be men who will waltz into your life and love you straight to the ATM machine

As soon as he tries to manage you, expressesing an interest in cutting back his work hours because you "need" help running your business, get out of the relationship. He has turned into a pimp. Men need to work. It impacts their self esteem if they are not working. He needs to either get a job or get another woman.

Do not mingle your Significant Other with hobbyists at Meet and Greets or with your provider friends, especially girls who don't know you well

Clients may not understand the dynamics involved between a provider and her Significant Other in maintaining a serious relationship. They might talk blatantly and overtly about your fantastic fellatio skills which no Significant Other wants to hear. Your provider friends may not be able to wrap their brains around the concept of your marriage or may think that your Significant Other is a client. You wouldn’t want to find yourself splattered all over the chat boards about how you got banned from Meet and Greets because you accosted another provider who was coming on to your man.

You are a provider not a door mat

In 22 years, my husband has never sworn at me, screamed at me or, heaven help us, put his hands on me. I can count on one hand the times he has raised his voice or when I have called out of his name in anger or screamed at him. I don't give a damn what I do at night for a living. I will not tolerate being disrespected.

Excuse me readers, while I address some of you who insist on thinking you deserve to be in abusive relationships

Find your back bone! Don't allow a man to put his hands on you and think you deserve it or caused it just because you’re a professional companion and think that you can’t do any better. If you are getting the beat down at home make a plan and entrust your very best friends in the business and we can help you get out. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired you have friends right here who will help you. No matter what the economy is doing, a smart provider will always be able to hustle.

An abusive man is not going to change. He is not going to stop hurting you

You have to be the one to change and take the initiative to leave. The end result for you will be no different than it is for anyone else stuck in the sick cycle of domestic abuse because eventually, he will kill you. You can do it! You can walk out today. You will cry every day and be a mess for a long time. But you are not a punching bag and anyway, he is bigger than you. He is not to demean or disrespect you. We are human beings, wives, girlfriends; mothers and tax-paying, respectable ladies. You are worth your weight in gold. You are special, beautiful and above all you are a woman who deserves to be treated with respect.

Do not pay all of your household bills

Don't even offer. Make him pull his weight or you will end up with a house husband. If he can't afford to pay half of that sweet condo you want then downsize.

If there is ever a time to STFU it is when you are in a war with your hubby and a client is on his way over

I am not sure what possesses the minds of some ladies. Even the Bible tells us that we should study to be silent. It takes a lot of learned behavior and practice but you can and should learn to shut your pie hole. Your tongue is one of the smallest muscles on your body but it can cause the most destruction. Learn to hold it. Either postpone the session or put on your best Tony Award winning act.

When you are communicating with a hobbyist, please do not divulge your personal business

Some of my clients know that I am married, but if hubby and I fight, I have married, female, provider friends to call and cry on the phone with – never a hobbyist. You cannot fight with your husband then go tell another man about it. Hell, spare all your single, female friends your marital drama as well. They do not hold marital wisdom. It’s kind of like asking a man how labor pains feel. If you ever go to marriage counseling, find a married counselor, not a single one.

Written by À, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

12 Ways to Win Over a Punter

"Personality is everything!" Written by Capital Punter

During my time as a London Punter, (or, Hobbyist in the States), I have been fortunate enough to meet two stunning American escorts. Sadly, both were here in the UK only temporarily. Though my experience with American companions is limited, I imagine there are plenty of similarities and nuances which characterize the differences between our two wonderful countries. Likewise, we Punters and Hobbyists also come in all shapes and sizes.

My preferences are based upon my own tastes though they may resonate with many a gent regardless of which side of the Pond on which we are situated.

6 things I look for when meeting a new companion

Personality

For me is king (or should that be queen?)! I will only see a lady who has a warm and friendly persona, who is genuine and treats me as both an individual and with the same level of respect I exhibit toward her.

Good communication skills

A lady who responds warmly to my initial email with a prompt and courteous reply, showing interest in me as a person, will likely receive a booking.

Genuine nature

I cannot abide by false or self-interested people. An eloquent website which displays a distinct sense of character will peak my interest far greater than a gratuitous site or one that is overtly commercial.

Good reviews

Unless someone is highly recommended to me, I am unlikely to see anyone who does not have a good level of client reviews either on Adult Work or the review site Captain 69.

Location

I generally only consider ladies in areas I know I can reach on a regular basis. There is nothing worse than seeing a wonderful new lady and then not being able to make it back to see her again.

Independent

As a general rule, I much prefer to see ladies who work as independents, rather than for agencies. My reason for this is simple: it is far easier to build a long-term relationship with a lady I can deal with directly, as opposed to someone with whom contact is limited through the agency.

I am generally a very accepting, open and trusting person. When I consider seeing a new lady, I will usually go with my gut instinct. If she seems genuine and friendly I will meet her and see how things progress.

6 things I look for in a regular companion

Appreciation

With whom I spend time is my choice. I favor a lady who values me as a regular rather than just another booking.

Acceptance

For who I am and of my individuality.

Regular communication

I may be a bit unusual, I don't know, but I regard my companions as friends. Therefore, I like to stay in touch by email or text between meetings. I always clear this with the lady first, ensuring that I never abuse her time. I understand that a provider is not obligated to maintain contact, but I prefer to see those who wish to do so. 

Personality

This is even more important to me than when seeing someone new. I prefer ladies who are natural, friendly and down-to-earth.

Trust

I appreciate the importance of discretion in a relationship and I respect these requirements. In return, I will only see a lady who is discreet and demonstrates a mutual degree of trust.

Openness

I fully observe the boundaries in a client/companion relationship, which is why I feel honored when a lady is prepared to share something about her real self. This was described well by DC Hobbyist in his article, "How to keep guys coming back for more" in which he talks about a lady who "opens a window into her personality". Conversely, if I have seen a lady for a while and I am still kept at arm's length and clearly not trusted, this will serve as the catalyst for ending the relationship.

I simply cannot classify a provider's cup size above her deeper qualities

It may seem as though I place emphasis on criteria for companions whom I see regularly. This may be correct. I do tend to only see ladies I know well, so I must feel that the relationship is exactly right for me and by default for the lady too, in order to continue long-term.

Some of you may have noticed that I mentioned neither looks nor physical attributes and for a very good reason. I do not have a particular "type", be it looks, hair color, size or ethnicity. Every woman is so unique. How can I assess that a size 8 is better than a size 12, a size 36 DD better than a 34 B, a blonde better than a brunette, or a lady from one particular ethnicity preferable to another? Personality is everything! I may be vanilla in style but I do enjoy a broad range of preferences.

For this punter, it is all about the complete package.

Written by Capital Punter, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Geisha Affair Blows Away Eros

Geisha Affair: the Sexy Alternative

We all know Eros to be very expensive. Eros certainly does not favor the provider. The owners nickel and dime us for every extra feature you can possibly fathom. We pay extra for everything – VIP ads, multiple profiles, extra photos, extra features and editing of profiles.  We work so hard for our money and it doesn’t come easy. I truly believe Eros thinks we are all rich and are just out to profit from us! They have no compassion for the fact that economic times are tough for everyone.

As providers from all walks of life we strive to market ourselves on websites that deliver the best results for our money. As an established provider, I have tried them all. I have wasted money on some, profited from others and am still paying crazy prices on one site with which we are all familiar.

Recently, I learned about Geisha Affair. What a breath of fresh air! For so long I, myself and many of my friends only dreamed of an advertising website run by people who actually care about us as individuals. Can you imagine? They’re not just out ‘to get us’, gouging with ridiculous fees just to make a buck. Eros banks - big time - on our hard earned dollars! In fact, I’ve heard that they make millions. You do the math. There are hundreds of thousands of ladies all over the country forking out the dough every month.

When I feel very passionate about something, I want to voice my enthusiasm which is why I wrote this article. Just like me, if you’ve got something to share, GA is listening. If you’ve got a topic you want to talk about, GA is all ears. They truly are the Voice of the Community and I know why.

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This is what I’ve learned about GA and the folks there who run the show:

GA is a classy, elegant site with tons of features and tools in a user friendly environment that really does blow Eros out of the water. I can honestly say this because I’m not super tech savvy like a lot of people I know. So this is something that I can really appreciate.

GA sports all of the benefits of Eros, only about 100 more. But…there are some very important features that catapult GA as the leaders. GA targets all of the major and minor cities not only in the U.S. but in Canada, Europe, Asia and Australia. If you don’t see your city, just ask and GA will add it for you like, instantly. For me, that’s very important. If I am touring and the only available city in which to place my ad is in a neighboring city my exposure and therefore business can suffer. As an example, it’s frustrating to subscribe to “Orlando-Tampa” when you are in Sarasota or Ft. Myers. And you can easily place multiple profiles under one membership in different cities. If you decide that you’re not going to be in one of the cities you can opt to put them on ‘standby mode’.

Has anyone noticed all the pop up windows that litter the Eros website? And all of those raunchy sex sites that leave you dizzy with headache while you’re trying to view your own profile. In fact, our profiles have to compete with all of those greedy, cheesy sex ads. I thought I was paying for viewers to see my profile. But it seems as though I’m paying for Eros to profit (even more!) from sex web cams, sex friend sites, etc.  I’ve noticed that GA does not believe in distracting viewers with shady sex sites competing with our profiles because they are simply not there. Now that’s what I call class and quality.

And the photos? No need to crop and mess around with sizing and all of that nonsense. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to call Eros to get the sizing right on my pictures. They’re so complicated! Or, I do get it uploaded but it’s tiny and requires a magnifying glass to see. What’s the point in spending all that money for crappy looking photos or spending all of my valuable time doing what should be very easy?

Not the case at GA (heavy sigh). The folks at GA obviously spent a lot of time getting it right. Uploading your photos on GA is so seamless and easy, even my cat could do it. You get 15 – huge, larger-than-life photos plus your avatar and main profile picture. Talk about visuals. Wow!

By the way, you can upload your own video. Oh. And you don’t have to pay extra for this amazing marketing tool. This is too cool! GA has a place for client reviews. And comments are moderated (I asked) which makes me feel safe. Navigation is similar to that of Eros but much, much easier.

In case you haven’t heard, GA has a Free Trial Membership going on right now. But I know for a fact that once advertising fees kick in costs will be a mere fraction of what we all pay on Eros.

What I find quite flattering is that if I ever need anything or have any questions, GA has amazing 24/7 customer service with immediate response and instant profile approval - not 48 hours. They really care and are not just out to rape us with fees. In fact, one of the partners is a well known female photographer.

Though GA is a beautiful and highly functional website, let’s talk about what really matters. After I placed my profile on this hot, new meeting ground, appointments began contacting me from a more upscale clientele. GA is rapidly building traffic and gaining exposure all over the world. The word is spreading like wild fire. The muscle of this website and the strength of its partners are not to be taken lightly, folks.

I am glad I took the time to be a smart provider, did my research and am now a part of the GA family. We’ve all been waiting for folks like these to step up to the plate and become the real Voice of the Community. I recommend joining GA now while you can still get a complimentary profile.

Keri Diamonds, Contributing Author for Geisha Diaries