Placées - Black Sugar Babies of the 1700's

"The world of the sugar baby, companion or mistress has deep roots in cultures throughout time" Guest Author Texasugah

Imagine flowing, jewel toned silk, lace, satin and fine linens; a dressing room filled with the heady scent of French parfum; her closet filled with rows of handmade shoes and matching purses. Imagine a lady dressed in lovely foundations, corset and stockings; the walls of her townhome laden with art de jour and custom furnishings; a servant to cater to her whims and take away her daily cares while she awaits a visit from her lover; a world of decadence with elegant balls, dinners and passionate evenings.

Many know the story of Sally Hemmings once reported to be the most notorious woman in America.  Sally’s lifelong love affair with Thomas Jefferson was confirmed with DNA tests performed on their descendants in 1998. Yet there is another story of women of color who lived in their own high society in the South through the 1700 and 1800s.

The Plaçage (French for “to place with”) was a widely recognized system whereby free women of color enjoyed comfort as mistresses of wealthy white men

It was an open and respectable society in its own right. These women, known as placées, were generally maintained in city homes that were bought for them by their lovers (not unlike a Sugar daddy purchasing a townhome for his mistress). These ladies were considered Creole, quatroons (1/8^th black) or mulatto( ½ black) and prized for their beauty. In most cases, these women were well educated and multilingual. 

In these, “mariages de la main gauche” or left handed marriages, many of the women had children

Children born to these unions were not considered black but “gens de couleur” or people of color. The lovers arranged for the boys’ educations in prestigious private schools in France. In some cases, the boys returned to inherit their father’s businesses if there were no other male offspring. The girls were taught by governesses to become mistresses themselves because, in many cases, this was the best option for women of color.

Placées found themselves in a quandary. Existing outside of the general society, they were forbidden from legally wedding their white lovers, were accustomed to finery that the average Creole man could not provide and were too educated and elevated to consider freed slaves. Some who didn’t remain in a lifelong arrangement became courtesans who commanded $10 per hour when the average laborer made only $.22 cents per hour. A great number of the Placee women continued to establish their own small businesses, inherited and manage their own plantations.

The celebrated New Orleans Ballroom was once home to the Quadroon Ball

These opulent events were depicted in “The Courage to Love” featuring Vanessa Williams. Wealthy white southerners, of “good family” were invited to mingle with light-skinned women of color in hopes of acquiring mistresses (if only it was so easy to meet a sugar daddy today).  These men were predominantly in their early 20s and created families until they were able to take on “legitimate families “ as interracial marriage was illegal. Arrangements were generally negotiated by a woman’s mother. Typically, the parent were compensated (yes, mom got an allowance, too), complete care for the mistress and legal recognition of any children born of the union. Beyond complete support during the relationship, should her protector and lover die before her, she could challenge the courts for up to a third of his property.

An influx of Northern whites cast a shadow on the Plaçage society.  It was seen as reprehensible and this sentiment was fueled legally by bitter wives, religious and social activists. It was seen as a form of prostitution and was maligned despite the fact that for many decades these ladies outnumbered the number of free black men.  What was a lady to do? 

Famous Placées

Marie Susanne

A child of placage herself, entered into a life long placage with a planter. She successfully managed her own affairs and died in 1838 leaving an estate valued at over $ 1.5 million in 2011 currency.

Rosette Rochon

Born 1767, was the placage of both Joseph Forstal and Charles Populus, both wealthy White New Orleans Creoles. She leveraged her position to buy real estate in New Orleans. Throughout her career she purchased rental property, open grocery stores, bought and sold mortgages and rented out slaves. Her son became a government official in Haiti.

Marie Laveau

The voodoo queen of New Orleans, lived with her lover Dumesil de Glapion. He was so in love with her that he refused to live separately from her and posed as a man of color to keep their relationship respectable. They had fifteen children. One of them, Marie Euchariste or Marie LeveauII, looked so much like her mother that many thought Marie had been resurrected.

Over the years, the extraordinary story of these beautiful ladies has been largely forgotten taking with it a very unique and vibrant culture. 

Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author & Sugar Baby, Texasugah

How to Find a Sugar Daddy Online

Geisha Diaries caught up with one of our Guest Authors, Butterfly Sugar, who wrote the article, “Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby” back in March, 2011. She is an elegant, well-written and self-professed, chocolate-dipped sugar baby. We asked her to share her insight and knowledge about successfully pursuing the sugar baby lifestyle. Here is her advice:

1. Sugar baby photos and bio 

• These are the primary features when drawing a sugar daddy to your advertisement, curious to see more of you and know what you are all about. 
• Use your own photos. Do not use someone else's images. Eventually, you will meet your potential sugar daddy and will have wasted your time and his by falsifying your identity with someone else’s pictures.
• If you do not want to show face in your photos, crop them from the lips down. This way he can see your pretty smile or sexy pout along with the shape of your body.
• Your profile should display at least 3 basic looks: the little black dress (or equivalent) to show how nice you look in chic to semi formal attire; a headshot (personality radiates through a smile); a fun, lifestyle shot (such as a swimsuit, playing with your dog or walking along the beach)

• Photos that depict careless partying or drinking will discount any persona and should be avoided.

2. Structuring your ad 

• Avoid sounding desperate or whining like a down & out country song
• Don’t use cliche' words such as spoiled, high maintenance or drama free
• When describing your looks, create a vivid, detailed picture. Which sounds better? "I have brown skin" or "I have silky, smooth, milk chocolate skin"?
• www.thesaurus.com should become your best friend. Using repetitive words (i.e., fun, generous, spoiled) gets monotonous. Make a little effort and discover some unique words or phrases to express the same meanings.
• Explain your objective: you need to pay off your student loans; you would like to start a business, etc.
• Run everything through a spell check before posting your ad. Simple spelling and grammatical errors can be a turn off to the well appointed gentleman.
• Refrain from using "adult worker" terminology. It won’t get you very far.

3. Sugar daddy complaints 

• The lady looks nothing like her pictures. Either she is using outdated photos or photos from 20 lbs ago or those of a different person all together.
• There are a lot of women who feature themselves as mail order brides whose objectives are for the gentleman to pay their way to America.
• Men do not like to think that the sugar babies they are meeting are escorts. Whether or not they themselves see providers is beside the point. Post different photos than those used for your escort ads or sites as they can be run through Tineye and come back to haunt you.
• Many ladies are cold, detached and only care about money. Despite how you may feel, you should be amiable, charming, patient and kind. You will truly benefit from these traits.

4. Do your research – learn as much as you can about your potential sugar daddy beforehand 

• Utilize Google or any other search engine by inputting as much information as you can to investigate your potential sugar daddy.
• Tineye verifies the authenticity of a photo. Some men use pictures from their business websites which is another way of discovering more about them.
• Pipl is a great source for gathering in depth information
• Reverse phone number lookup is quite useful in determining the authenticity of your potential sugar daddy and can provide a lot of insight.

5. Watch out for the losers 

• Test Drive Dude - this is the guy who wants to test the goods so that he knows what he is getting into. You are not a car so there is no kicking the tires beforehand. There are a lot of men who prey on the naivete of women, coercing them to have sex on the premise that they will give them something. Another one is the guy who tries to pay per orgasm. Oh yes, ladies, there are those guys out there.
• Time Waster/Email Buddy - this guy will have plenty of time to email you numerous times a day but magically never have time to meet with you. He wants emotional support that he is not getting elsewhere and utilizes the promise of meeting you to falsely fulfill those needs.
• Flakes - unfortunately, there are a lot of guys who will chat with you, schedule a date but never show up. Follow your instinct on how serious you think they are and request that they call or email on the day of your date to confirm.
• Photo Collector - I post only 2 or 3 photos on my profile. I do not post in my private gallery because I find that doing so attracts a lot of perverts who sift through the website looking for ladies with private photos hoping they can see some tits and ass. Those same guys do not plan on speaking or meeting you. I stay away from men who ask to see more photos. Instead, I suggest that we meet in person if they would like to see more.
• Text Message Phone Sex - this guy push the sexual boundaries before you ever meet. He is yet another guy just looking to get his rocks off.
• Mr. "Promise you the World" - don't get hypnotized by a pretty song. If it sounds like bullshit he is feeding you, it is bullshit. Female intuition is key.
• Setup a brand new individual email for online sugar dating. An email address can be tracked and if you’ve used it for anything personal your information can be leaked.

Written by Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby and Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Anonymous Critic Bashes Geisha Affair

Earlier this year, we received a critical commentary from a faithful reader of Geisha Diaries, bashing Geisha Affair in the article, “Geisha Affair Blows Away Eros”. We shall refer to this person as ‘Anonymous’.

Anonymous seems disturbed with the notion that someday Geisha Affair (GA) will charge for its services

Unless it is a charitable foundation what business does not charge for its services? Anonymous fails to recognize any way of promoting GA other than by expending considerable amounts of money on paid advertisements even though GA does not currently charge for membership, despite various, parallel marketing avenues available at no cost. Thus, should we contact Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and Geisha Diaries and ask them to please make us pay for use of their otherwise, free services?

Anonymous has dismissed our word of mouth strategy because it represents neither an expense nor an exponential method of growth. But then, how to you justify multimillion dollar companies and businesses in general that encourage and appreciate customer referrals?

You, Anonymous, disregard the importance of our participation in message boards and chat forums perhaps because you don’t understand the importance of interacting with your fellow Community

Contrary to your belief, GA takes an avid interest in learning and understanding issues that impact the Community. In doing so, we may be able to present advice, alternatives or better options to make life easier for those amongst us. However, according to you all of our efforts are nullified unless we spend money on every available advertisement means. We could have never hired you as our CEO because your expertise would have already seen the demise of GA with your ignorance about cost benefit.

On the other hand, GA will never surprise its members out of the blue with advertising rates whether in 3 months, one year or 5 years as they have been published since day one on the website. GA features ‘Free Trial Membership’ right along with advertising rates disclosed in full view. See below and go here to view GA rates.

Incidentally, we do have members who already pay for their membership because they choose to contribute to the website. GA has taken part of those earnings to contribute to the fight against Breast Cancer. Is any other company in this industry doing so?

GA has staffed 24/7, paid customer service personnel in 3 continents - Europe, South America and the USA

Submit an email with any concern, question or new profile at 3:00 am in any time meridian and you will be attended. No. This service does not directly leverage traffic to the website but it dramatically increases customer satisfaction which becomes an indelible attribute in the long run. A satisfied member is a happy member who will feel confident to refer new members.

Finally, Anonymous, you are correct. While the aesthetics and charm of the website do not increase traffic they characterize the storefront of the site. Such elegance rightfully portrays our members with class, uniqueness and respect unless you find tacky, pay-per-click sex web cam banners surrounding paid advertiser’s profiles more attractive.

Meeshee of Meeshee Photography, contrary to your belief is not the owner of Geisha Affair

Rather, she is the Senior Marketing Director and GA makes use of her professionalism and expertise to handle our marketing efforts. Her success with Meeshee Photography was granted by her clients. She has earned her reputation and this kind of professionalism ranks high within GA.

Recently, Geisha Affair retained the services of Pepper Law Group (this was not a pro bono retainer) to deal with a dark situation impacting our Community. The case involved another “competitor” stealing provider’s profiles and identities, abusing people’s trust and even ruining their personas. Go here to read about it. With more than 13 years in the market and knowing the ins and outs of the industry,

Where were Eros and other competitors standing on this issue?

Who besides GA has been pro active about this situation? Eros, Backpage, etc. remain mute because they are more concerned about the cha-ching of their cash registers. Through our efforts we have shown the Community that they are not alone. Companions have someone to turn to when their rights have been violated.

I recommend that you pay a visit to Geisha Affair and reach out to any of our worldwide members to see if they have any complaints about GA. Ask them how difficult it is to upload photos, for instance. Have you experienced the hassle of uploading, cutting, trimming, cropping and resizing photos with the competition? That doesn’t happen at GA. Ask any member how long it took for their profile to be approved. For your information, it takes less than ten minutes, not 48-72 hours.

Finally, we don’t yet boast the mass traffic of Eros for one simple and understandable reason: GA is new in the market. Unfortunately, for you our name is buzzing around the world. Otherwise, how do you explain the fact that we have increasing members in Russia, France, Romania, Hungary, Germany, Italy, China, Japan, Singapore, Mexico, Jamaica, Australia, USA and Canada among others? Providers from all walks of life are drawn to GA - female escorts, male escorts, T-girls, True Mistresses & BDSM/Fetish, sugar babies, agencies and massage parlours. Do you think that GA steals profiles or forces members to join?

Freedom of expression is the cornerstone of Geisha Diaries and the backbone of Geisha Affair

Just think about who would publish your negative comments on their own website. Geisha Diaries welcome your thoughts and if they are negative we will challenge you with facts. So thank you very much for participating in Geisha Diaries and feel free to stop by anytime.

Written by Contributing Author, Geisha Affair, International

The New Age Sugar Daddy

"One happened to Google me, discovered an association as an escort and quickly dropped me. His loss." Written by Texasugah

“Regular dating, sugar dating, courtesan, escort, streetwalker…” this was a slippery slope described by a self-proclaimed sugar online. The caveats ‘no pros’ and ‘not seeking an escort’ littered virtually every sugar daddy personal ad through which I rummaged. Yet, how could I be obliged to a man for an allowance, especially when the allowance was less than paltry? Long gone are the days of a man supporting a sugar baby or mistress.

The disappearing allowance phenomenon of a sugar baby could be due to the current recession

Or the fact that more and more sugar daddies without substantial means are entering the arena. They are aware that this segment of the industry is flooded with sugar babies and they are calling the shots. There are now websites that allow men to pay for dates with suggested prices as low as $25. It’s your guess what activity most of these sugar daddies seek.

Should I become an escort who enjoys more freedom socially and financially or remain in the sugar bowl?

I am a double, advanced-degreed professional who speaks three languages and maintains a career that requires a contract with a morals clause. Lack of discretion could land me in legal hot water, causing my son to be raised in the Middle East. Not an option. Yet the draw and images of lovely women with enviable freedom in the world of escorts beckoned. I decided to carve my own niche in this seductive world. How I am categorized or define my personal role is still unclear but I am definitely having a good time.

First, I review potential sugar daddies and complete a needs assessment

• What do these men need?
• How often are they looking to meet?
• Are they open to pay for play?

Finances can sometimes be a hairy subject because these men, the ones that I see, are completely against seeing escorts

In fact, one happened to Google me, discovered an association as an escort and quickly dropped me. His loss. Once I determine compatibility with potential sugar daddies, I set out to meet and develop friendships from which I determine a select group of gentlemen whom I see. I personally communicate with them and learn their interests. I am determined that these men find value in every facet of me - my personality, intelligence and sensuality. Relationships with my sugars permit me the freedom of re-scheduling without issue or requesting assistance without actually seeing them.

Next, I establish a schedule with each one personally, meaning that emails and phone calls are exchanged to determine when and how often we will see each other. Each man having his own needs, a date might include a night at the theater, dinner, dancing etc. I develop my calendar accordingly and determine how much time I will dedicate to each sugar daddy.

I rarely see more than one sugar a day, by choice

Finally, I am able to balance out my sugars. Once autumn comes, dating frequency will drop to twice a week, if that. This sort of control is heady and liberating. Having followed the advice of other escorts with whom I correspond, I am honing my craft and investing in myself.

Women turned on each other when a sugar baby was known to have more than one sugar daddy

I recently returned to the forum where the Slippery Slope Sugar posted the comment, dismayed by what I read. The few men on the board were applauded when they claimed to meet a sugar baby who wasn’t thin, smart or young enough. Who was putting their hands together? The sugar babies, perhaps in an attempt to garner attention and favors from the male representation on the board.

During my time on Geisha Affair and viewing other escort websites, I have detected a style and femininity unknown in the sugar world. For that, I am forever grateful. And so I regress. What am I? What is my role? I don’t know. But I do know who I am. I am Texasugah.

With love,

Raquel Asal

Written by Guest Author, Texasugah

How I Became a Sugar Daddy

" A lot of young women find having a Sugar Daddy to be an enriching experience.  They get to be free spirits, have their sexual desires quenched and are shown experiences that broaden their horizons" Written by John Doe, Sugar Daddy

I have been asked this question many times.  I was fortunate to become very wealthy at an early age. Though my family was from Beverly Hills, California and had money, they did not have the massive wealth for which Beverly Hills is known, or that I have been able to create in my life.  I attended Beverly Hills High School and continued on to earn a Bachelors and a Masters degree.  I had lots of money to spend on toys like cars, boats, homes and vacations.  It wasn't until my kids finally reached college age that I noticed some of the young women hanging around the house flirting with me. 

One day a young lady was hanging out at the pool and came inside and asked if she could speak with me.  I said sure and she asked me for a loan to pay for college.  I was caught off guard because this was the first time that someone my kid’s age approached me for money. I was accustomed to this from adults.  She said that her education was very important to her and that she would do anything if I helped her out.  I asked if she was working and she said yes. I knew that the amount of money she made would not be sufficient to pay me back.  I told her I needed to think about it.  She said ok and left me her pager number (there were no cell phones back then).  I paged her one day soon after. When she returned my call, I explained to her that I would give her the money but that she didn’t have to pay me back. She was speechless. I thought I lost her when finally she spoke. She implied that there might be a different way in which she could pay me back. That’s how this all started.

Since I am married, people want to know why I am a Sugar Daddy. They always assume it has something to do with my wife.  Becoming a Sugar Daddy had nothing to do with my wife in the beginning. At first, I just loved the attention and the game of getting a sexy young woman to become my lover. Spoiling was easy - paying for rent, cars, shopping sprees, vacations, none of which ever impacted my life or my wealth but it made it a lot easier to seduce women.

As to the deceit, well that is a different story.  At first I would get pangs of guilt after I was unfaithful to my wife.  Then one day after talking to my best friend about it I realized that my infidelity with these Sugar Babies was heightening my passion, sexual appetite and desire in every area of my life.  While lots of men go home and can’t stand their nagging wife, I would go home and ravish her. Sex always puts a man in a great mood, if the sex is good. And let me tell you, sex with beautiful, young women is always good!

Do I love my wife? Yes, I do. Is there passion in our relationship? Not as much as there used to be.  As my wife and I have gotten older, her sexual desires have diminished.  She is more interested in being a grand mother than being my lover.  So I enjoy life with her more as a best friend.  My Sugar Baby is the woman who lights my fire.  My wife is more of a confidant, where my Sugar Baby is my muse and temptress.  I don't love my Sugar Baby the same way I love my wife but I care about her.  Am I interested in having a life with her, having children and being a husband to her? Not at all. 

A lot of young women find having a Sugar Daddy to be an enriching experience.  They get to be free spirits, have their sexual desires quenched and are shown experiences that broaden their horizons.  I have been a Sugar Daddy on and off for more than 20 plus years and would do it all over again.

Written by John Doe, Sugar Daddy & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

My Life as a Sugar Baby

There are some things we don't decide to do. They just happen. Not that I’m the type who falls victim to circumstance, but I think my situation just evolved to the point where my friend turned Sugar Daddy when he became a white knight, a rescuer, someone always there to solve problems. Victoria Krush

Therein began a cycle of me falling into crisis mode whether real or fabricated so that he could "fix" it. 

A series of deaths in his family brought extreme wealth overnight. He had never been more than middle class at best, suffered from a drug addiction and had plenty of friends (if you consider felons, bikers, whores, drug dealers and a couple of estranged children in their 20's as such). He was quite depressed, distressed and overwhelmed. The first time we met, he actually cried most of the session. After jumping on the bed, a few laughs and his frown turning upside down he gave me a huge tip and I was on my way.

We touched base later in the week where I remember him asking for the magic monthly number required to get me out of dancing. My answer was a firm $12k and that came with a credit card and a brand new white Jaguar. Of course, I didn't stop working on the side but to the best of my recognition he didn't really mind, as long as I came when beckoned. The requests were always outrageous - orders of up to 4 to 5 girls at a time in cities sometimes over 1,000 miles away. Money was never really an issue, except that he used to pay with a check, so there were infamous races to the bank before he could wake up and decide whose check he felt like canceling that day.

I suppose I sought security, as would most people in my situation

The "Pretty Woman" or "Cinderella” stories about being a Sugar Baby are candy coated illusions. The icy truth is that ultimately a Sugar Baby is doomed from the beginning because the relationship with her Sugar Daddy is based loosely upon a financial premise. It is definitely riskier to have one or two Sugar Daddies who fully support you exclusively, because if they throw a fit or make a demand that you can't meet, you are left with no recourse. Ultimately, they are the ones who can decide at anytime to quit seeing you and the arrangement is over! It's not like you can file for unemployment, or sue them for firing you. This makes the entire arrangement tentative, unstable and dominated by control and manipulation by both parties.

I remember getting into plenty of fights with different Sugar Daddies. No matter whose fault it was or how upset or justified were my actions, I was the one who ultimately apologized, because $5-20k was on the line.

I was involved with my main Sugar Daddy for 4 years

Simultaneously, I was involved with another man whom I ended up marrying, believe it or not. But the relationship was extremely violent. We would fight and I’d leave for a week or more, come back with a new car or even a new place to live. My Sugar Daddy would give me a huge chunk of money so I could start fresh. I performed this 3-way dance for the duration of my marriage.

If I noticed that a client was willing to giving me anywhere from $5-20k every time he called, he qualified as a Sugar Daddy

I met my Sugar Daddy through an agency for dancers during the time when I was dancing. I was lucky to meet him when I did. We became friends when he was at a tough place in his life and before I had any idea about his wealth. I genuinely needed the money to take care of my son and sure, the relationship facilitated an elevated lifestyle. It wasn’t extravagant but more a life with my child that gave me some degree of stability. I think he knew that I was driven by things other than money, so much that I would always speak my mind.

Life as a Sugar Baby is taxing both emotionally and physically. In essence, you are relinquishing control of your life and taking on a character roll like that of an actress

The heightened level of customer service that comes along with being a Sugar Baby is like that of no other position I can think of. It's a form of sexual, mental and financial slavery. Please don't take my interpretation of a Sugar Daddy arrangement in a negative light. Marriage is even called an institution, whereas gay marriage is referred to as a domestic partnership. I favor the latter term. My point is that Sugar Baby arrangements are far too often based upon false pretenses that foster control and manipulation by both parties.

Genuity in a Sugar Relationship is rare as we all know nothing comes for free.

Written by Victoria Krush, Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Lifestyle of a Sugar Baby

"When I was a little girl, my mother instilled in me, "Anytime you are out with a man you should never have to open your pocketbook." I grew up thinking there was nothing unacceptable with what society deemed a Sugar Daddy and what my mother thought men should do, naturally." Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Right out of high school, I dated older men in their 30’s. There was the apartment that needed to be paid for, food in my fridge and pretty things to wear. At the same time, I was never with a gentleman based solely on his net worth. I actually liked the men I dated. I am too honest to be with someone just for their money.

Life with any of my Sugar Daddies has been a wonderful blend of traveling, gifts and financial allowance

One of my favorite trips was to Hawaii, first class all the way. Of course, I was lai’d as soon as I arrived, literally & figuratively. A limousine transported me to a stunning, cliff side resort. Our room overlooked the beach below the cliffs while the calming sound of crashing waves surrounded us. For a week we enjoyed multiple trips to the spa, sun bathing, sipping strawberry daiquiris, dining on delicious seafood dinners and the most blissful sex on the balcony looking out at the ocean with a light mist coating our bodies. There were lights at the bottom of the cliffs to attract manta rays. One night we talked about the beauty & grace of the manta rays feeding & swimming below our balcony. Those are priceless moments.

On my first trip with a former Sugar Daddy, we stayed at the Four Seasons Hotel. He gave me spending money and let me charge anything to the room. He was extremely considerate by arranging adjoining suites separated by a living room so there was no pressure for something to happen that wasn’t natural. The morning after the first night, my period arrived a week early. I dreaded telling him that we couldn’t do anything, even if I wanted, fearing that he would turn into an jerk. To the contrary, he was very understanding and we had a great time.

One of my most memorable gifts was a pair of the coveted designer Christian Louboutins

Oh, what those red soles will do to a woman! The most thoughtful gifts I have received were a Tiffany’s silver pen subscribed with my initials, a Tiffany’s leather business card holder, and a Tumi leather portfolio.

He told me, "these are the tools you will need to start your internship and be successful”.

One of my worst dates with a potential Sugar Daddy was with a racist CEO. I arrived at the bar to chat over drinks then go for dinner. Here’s what happened:

Him: “What would like to drink? I chose this spot for the elaborate drink menu.”

Me: “Great! Wow, this drink book is pretty big. Let me take a minute to look it over.”

Him: “Let me help you get to the right section. You black people like that sweet shit, right?”

Me: (dumbfounded) “Wow, really? One could view you as a racist for the question you just asked.”

Him: “What? I am not racist! It is scientifically proven that black people like sweeter stuff. See, you’re the problem running around claiming everyone is racist!”

Me: “I didn’t say you were racist. I stated one could view you as such with the question you asked me. Secondly, I do not go around claiming everyone is racist nor am I the problem. And, I definitely have not ever heard of such research, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. That also does not mean that your question was any less ignorant or abrasive.”

I left him in the middle of the date. I told him I was going to the bathroom and then leaving. I guess he didn’t believe me, because during my cab ride home he called but did not leave a message

On an initial date I look for things such as:

• Ease of conversation
• Mutual comfort
• Whether he’s genuinely interested in who I am or more interested in just talking about sex
• Whether he takes the lead in broaching the topic of allowance
• Gifts or money which are a pleasant surprise and much appreciated (and gain extra points) but in no way expected.
• Talk of coverage for rent, food, utility bills.

Having already obtained my Bachelor's and Master's Degrees, I am currently pursuing a Doctoral degree. An arrangement with a Sugar Daddy means not having to worry as much about balancing class attendance and an internship with paying student loans, seeking part time work that fits my quirky schedule while magically pull pennies from heaven to pay the rent. As a student, little luxuries are almost non-existent on a shoe string budget so stress can mount. Gifts, spa treatments, or any extras from a Sugar Daddy are a joy.

The disadvantages to dealing with a married man are the emotional & spiritual ups and downs

Support is limited no matter how badly he would like to give more. So while I may be the positive, upbeat cheerleader he needs, it is not equally reciprocated. Sometimes this upsets me.

When I’m sick in bed with the flu, he may not be able to bring me chicken soup

or massage my feet. But beautiful flowers may arrive at my doorstep, tenderly saying that he is thinking of me. Depending on how often I see my Sugar Daddy, physical satisfaction may not be as frequent or fulfilling since I can’t get that “sexual healing” as often as I may like.

Ideally, I would like to have just one Sugar Daddy in a mutually satisfying and beneficial relationship. But there have been times when I’ve had one, two or even three. It just depends on whether my needs are met.

Financial support usually comes from gentlemen who are at the top of their game

The knowledge and wisdom they inherently provide is priceless. The Sugar Daddies in my life wanted to see me succeed in my educational and career goals. So their mentorship is much wanted, needed and accepted.

Butterfly Sugar, Sugar Baby & Guest Author for Geisha Diaries

Who's Behind Geisha Affair?

Who's Behind Geisha Affair?

Recently, Terri and Claire, the dynamic team behind Executive Luxuries Virtual Assistant Service, expressed their curiosity about who's behind Geisha Affair. As GA's Marketing Director, here are the answers to their questions:

"The goal was to provide members with a refined concierge service which includes strong exposure through advertising, a familiar sense of community, stellar customer service and a user-friendly website dedicated solely to the global, escort and BDSM industries", Geisha Affair International

 

1. So what was the motivation and or thought process behind having started Geisha Affair, International? Some good friends who have been in the industry for many years would talk about the ups and downs of the business and rave about the high, monthly expense of advertising. Through our association with them, curiosity grew into research which triggered a fascination with the industry. Soon, we tapped into a need for an online, marketing platform catering to today's modern escort. We identified all of the shortcomings associated with like services and then married the concept with a level of customer service and compassion unparalleled by our competitors. Backed by a team of international investors, offices were established in the United States, South America and Europe. 
2. How long have you been doing this and how long has the site been online? The idea of Geisha Affair International was born more than three years ago. Construction of the website involved a meticulous process and more than one year in design and construction attended by a fully staffed design/programming team. The website has been live online for eight months. 
3. What drew you to the adult entertainment arena? We were drawn by the dynamic, undying fervor of a business that touches every corner of the globe 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Since the beginning of time, the nature of the escort industry has remained constant, transgresses all industries and encompasses everyday normal folks, just like you and me. 
4. Walk us through your typical day. An average day consists of attention to extensive, worldwide marketing projects; maintaining optimal functionality of the website; overseeing an international customer service staff; instant troubleshooting of any technical issues or questions (in partnership with our programming team) that arise from members; direct communication with members; regular communication with our legal counsel to ensure that Geisha Affair is in compliance; and ongoing identification and research of international markets to facilitate the expansion and awareness of Geisha Affair International.
5. What are the difficulties in running Geisha Affair International? Seasoning is crafted by the hands of time. As Geisha Affair resonates throughout the worldwide community, time brings more and more members. People get to know us, realize that Geisha Affair is different and fall in love with the website, the high level of customer service and all for which GA stands.
6. It's such an informative site. Tell us about a story that may have helped someone in the industry. You speak of Geisha Diaries, a special place where escorts can voice their thoughts, uncensored. Geisha Diaries verbalizes all that Geisha Affair represents. The hallmark article, "5 Biggest Mistakes Escorts Make" takes into account 5 critical mistakes as identified by successful and reputable ladies in the industry as far away as Singapore, United Kingdom and the U.S. The article is chalk full of valuable advice. Readers who choose to follow any bit of their insight are sure to benefit immeasurably. Just the other day we received a testimonial from an agency owner who sources Geisha Diaries to all of his ladies. Read here to see what he has to say. 
7. We read your post addressing the criticism you received for eventually wanting to charge for your services (Kudos to you!). Other than pricing what is your most consistent criticism? We have received and will always welcome constructive criticism as we feel that such advice comes from a place of support, just as we do. However, there is the occasional, pessimistic attitude of discouragement that Geisha Affair should not or will not succeed. Apparently, there are some folks out there who frown upon the advancement of Geisha Affair. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, such negativity is quickly replaced by the overwhelming amount of 'love mail' we continue to receive from members around the world praising the value of Geisha Affair and extending their best wishes. 
8. What are your short-term plans to expand the site? The answer requires another article in and of itself! We have many exciting, new features in the works, all designed around needs expressed by real people throughout the community. These features are fully outlined and already in developmental stages with our amazing team of computer programmers. These new features are scheduled to be launched in accordance with stages of advancement of Geisha Affair as the site continues to penetrate the worldwide industry. 
9. Do you receive any emails from the men (hobbyists) and what do they think of the site? Do you find yourself playing mediator between provider's v providers/ provider v hobbyist etc?  A few gentlemen have even requested some minor additions on the site that they felt were important which our programmers implemented immediately. Hobbyists play an integral role not only in the success of Geisha Affair but in the professional lives of every escort. We are receiving more and more feedback from ladies who are making connections with hobbyists through the website which is a big sign of success. To illustrate our inherent understanding of the dynamic that exists between Geisha Affair/escort/hobbyist, take a look at the seamless layout of this profile. And for hobbyists abroad, providers can opt to post multiple profiles in different cities, select from multiple languages and a currency converter to accommodate international clients. However, we do not mediate between parties as such action is not the nature of our business.
10. How many subscribers do you have worldwide? Worldwide subscribers exceed 1,000 members and that number is increasing daily. Membership reaches every city and country on the globe, wherever escorts exist. 
11. Wow you guys are truly a success story. What would you like the readers to take away from this 'peek behind the veil? Providers, hobbyists, BDSMers and all others in the adult world are folks with needs and desires just like anybody else. The founders of Geisha Affair felt a conviction to provide an online advertising platform that exceeds normal expectations. Geisha Affair is characterized by an authentic community feel that includes all of the necessary bells and whistles where escorts can feature their services without feeling like they're getting ripped off or taken advantage of. Right now, escort advertising is free. We realize that hobbyists are the bread and butter of any escort’s business and that is why they can post reviews free of charge. And when folks want to get the inside scoop, bond with others or express their opinions, they know that they can turn to Geisha Diaries, the Voice of Geisha Affair. 

Interview by Executive Luxuries with Geisha Affair International