The True Story Behind Barebacking
“One of the biggest myths about our entire industry is that we all allow this dangerous practice. People assume we are all nasty, disease infested women and men who allow anyone to do anything” Written by A’
Recently I was approached by a potential client who wanted to schedule a multi-day engagement. Once he had completed the screening process, I provided him with a list of a few questions.
Based upon my research and planning, I sent him links to resorts, airlines and other details and assured him our transportation via limousine service would be handled in a discreet, professional and punctual manner. Upon approval, he placed all reservations and we coordinated dates and times for our getaway. At this point, I was in receipt of his deposit. I was going through the short list of ladies in California who I knew I could trust with his identity and the nature of his desires. I had to have everything exactly as he had requested. This was to be his once in a lifetime experience.
At that point, it was necessary to speak by phone to discuss his answers to my questions. Somewhere in the conversation, he asked me if I had ever had the hot cum of a client inside me. I replied, “No, I am not into bare-backing. It is childish, dangerous, and gross.” He answered, “You should try it.”
People assume we are all nasty, disease infested women and men who allow anyone to do anything
My heart sank and I didn’t know how to respond. I braced myself to answer him with dignity and not insult him. I was worried about his response to my reaction because, bare-backing is a widely accepted yet ignorant practice among adults who engage in casual sex. I also initiated the process of refunding his deposit. I was not going to keep this appointment and I made a mental note of his references and who he had reviewed. One of the biggest myths about our entire industry is that we all allow this dangerous practice.
It defies logic as to why anyone would allow or want full service bare back
There is nothing to support this reasoning. Is the entire medical community wrong about the risks associated with bareback sex with multiple partners? Are a few suicidal hobbyist and providers correct in their choice to partake in such illogical and radical behavior?
There is nothing special about the provider who offers bare back services
I have seen it offered at a higher price and I have seen it offered with no price adjustment. I have seen it offered at every level of the hobby. It confuses me as to why it is acceptable for any reason. The widely available amounts of factual information supporting safer sex far outweigh any reason offered to justify barebacking. There are no reasons to allow it, want it, ask for it, or have a conversation for the purposes of condoning the practice.
They are endangering their lives, the lives of their loved ones and the lives of everyone they come in contact with and this is inexcusable
Individuals who offer any defense in favor of barebacking or people who engage in the practice of barebacking are not dealing in any realm of reality. I can only conclude that providers and hobbyists or civilians in general who practice barebacking suffer from a behavior disorder called Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Such people are characterized by patterns of uncooperative, defiant, hostile, and annoying behavior. In a nut shell this means that such folks will argue based on illogic; disagreeing for the very sake of demonstrating the difference in other points of view. The only difference is for the most part they have bought into their own press and practice what they should not believe.
Written by Geisha Diaries Guest Author, A’
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Reader Comments (5)
Dear A, first let me say as a hobbyist I absolutely do agree with you, barebacking is just irresponsible with potentially severe consequenses for both partners. However, as you well know we men often think with the wrong head. Bareback is more erotic and sensitivity is greater, so some pay attention to that other head and let a small bit of incremental short term pleasure outweigh good judgement, good health, and common sense.
What are your views on bareback oral? Many providers allow this while absolutely forbidding bareback otherwise.
Jeff
PS In regards to your comment about people's assumptions, with very few exceptions I've found most of the providers I've had the pleasure of knowing to be just sweet, intelligent, normal ladies trying to make a living, enjoy life, raise a family, etc., just like everyone else. And the percentage of those who I had a bad experience with is no higher than people met under other circumstances. In other words you can find good people and bad people anywhere and everywhere.
My views are pretty consistent with the medical facts...and advice of my medical doctor. When I was very high volume I practiced cbj/dental dam no kissing ONLY. I am now very low volume and I do bbbj and bb daty.... HOWEVER,....I have been know to whip out my dams and flavored lube/condoms from time to time and as my health concerns would demand. EVERYTHING IS YYMV.
As many people know I am a free thinking open minded woman as it pertains to my love of women and the swing lifestyle. I would estimate within the last 2.5 years I have COMPLETELY stopped playing with anyone for any reason if they are not in the p4p lifestyle. Civilians take far too many CRAZY risk. There are a few swinger sites I belong to....and the recent INFLUX of bareback groups and the condoning of this bizarre behavior has cut my play partners down to couples in the p4p arena esp those people I know who have insurance, have some common sense and are faithful with their testing.
Hello Allure -
While I really enjoyed many aspects of the swinging lifestyle, but as I got more involved I often found that the risks people were taking there were awfully irresponsible and I can't abide by that. Horrible to think that most of these people have children and family members who are counting on them sticking around for the rest of their natural lives - what are they thinking? I've pretty much corralled my fetish of anonymous eroticism into this arena for a while.
I have definitely noticed that of all the prospective suitors I've had where inquiries dissolved into this issue... most were swingers, or had some affiliation with that lifestyle. Not sure what the story is, but that's my observation.
I would just like to say thank you about the article that addressed Barebacking! I'm a provider and here this all the time, it's really sad that there are providers as well as hobbiest trying to pass their disease around and taking risk with there lives. People need to educate themselves in this country about STD'S, HIV, Etc.....
HI Allure,
Very nice story. On a side note, I have heard nothing but great things about you. If I was still involved in the hobby like I used to be, then we would have seen each other by now. I agree with most of what you wrote. I will only add that from what I remember and have heard, the vast majority of ladies do not practice in this behaviour nor the vast majority of guys. It is the few exceptions that make some noise. One last thing, I do know of several very well known providers who have engaged in the practice adn I will leave it at that.
Have a good one sexy lady.